Lugoj89 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 So I have been broken up with my ex for a little over a month. He left and moved out and said things have changed. Fine. I've been ok with that. I almost never hit him up unless it has to deal with the apartment (he still pays for his half) and the dog. I'm moving out at the end of next month and then I have to come up with a decision on who is getting him. I still don't know who should get him. However my ex has been texting me every now and then. He texted me Merry Christmas and even though I hesitated I texted him back. Long story short it end with him telling me He doesn't want to commit to me but sex still means something to him. Needless to say I told him to stop. He told me he's sorry that came off wrong and he does really miss me and he does think about me every second of the day. So I went from being angry for the last 2 weeks to back tracking and being sad. This past week i drove past his house and made the mistake to call him. The call was quick I said I just called to say Hi and I could tell it was awkward so I said ok bye. He texted me the next day. I told him I was sick. He later came by with soup. We talked about the dog and the apartment and then he kissed me and told me he misses me but things weren't going well. I told him I know there's no need to tell me and I didn't want this kiss to go further. So he left. I don't want to be back with my ex. I want this to be over. I've been also dating. The thing is I don't know how to do NC with this stupid apartment and the dog still in the back of my head. How to i get enough courage to stop talking to him and how do i do it with the apartment and the dog still in the way. Do i wait till the end of the month?
Author Lugoj89 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 It's Saturday and he's supposed to pick up the dog. I haven't heard from him and I feel like he might not contact me for the dog. It's driving me crazy. Why should I care? He really messed with my emotions when he came to talk to me. Now it bothers me that he hasn't contacted me about the dog.
Elle1975 Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 Until you reach a decision about the dog, there is no need for him to drop by. As for the rent, he can mail you a check. Do you want this dog or are you keeping him around in order to see your ex? You need to be honest with yourself, and once you have your answers, go with no contact. I am a bit bothered by his attempt at keeping you around as a fck buddy. However wrong it came off, it still came off.
Author Lugoj89 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 Until you reach a decision about the dog, there is no need for him to drop by. As for the rent, he can mail you a check. Do you want this dog or are you keeping him around in order to see your ex? You need to be honest with yourself, and once you have your answers, go with no contact. I am a bit bothered by his attempt at keeping you around as a fck buddy. However wrong it came off, it still came off. I'm keeping the dog because I don't know how I'm going to feel with out him. I can't seem to figure out if having the dog is going to make me happy or remind me of my ex. Right before he texted me on Christmas I was fine. I wasn't upset. Talking to him back tracked me. And I'm trying to get back to my angry stage.
candie13 Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 he'll pull back in the midst of all that torment every time you guys are in contact. sorry, girl, I don't mean to generalize, but literally all men I have dated acted that way - they expect you to do the hard work. Set your barriers up, say NO, I deserve better. Plus... I mean you guys were living together and he moved out. That shows very clearly where you guys are. The dog should have an identity of its own, separate from your ex. Now... start acting like a grown up, put yourself together and figure out how to not be in contact with him anymore and start working on accepting the fact that you two are not going to get back together. The sooner you do that, the sooner the healing process starts. toughen up, girl, sorry to hear about your heartache !!
Zahara Posted January 3, 2015 Posted January 3, 2015 I'm keeping the dog because I don't know how I'm going to feel with out him. I can't seem to figure out if having the dog is going to make me happy or remind me of my ex. Right before he texted me on Christmas I was fine. I wasn't upset. Talking to him back tracked me. And I'm trying to get back to my angry stage. Keep the dog. You'll heal from this as this hurt is temporary and the dog won't be a painful reminder of your ex in time. Once and for all make a decision and stick with it. You're leaving doors open for communication. He has to just send you a check for rent every month. There really is no need to communicate with one another. Then block/ignore.
Author Lugoj89 Posted January 3, 2015 Author Posted January 3, 2015 he'll pull back in the midst of all that torment every time you guys are in contact. sorry, girl, I don't mean to generalize, but literally all men I have dated acted that way - they expect you to do the hard work. Set your barriers up, say NO, I deserve better. Plus... I mean you guys were living together and he moved out. That shows very clearly where you guys are. The dog should have an identity of its own, separate from your ex. Now... start acting like a grown up, put yourself together and figure out how to not be in contact with him anymore and start working on accepting the fact that you two are not going to get back together. The sooner you do that, the sooner the healing process starts. toughen up, girl, sorry to hear about your heartache !! I don't want to be back with him. The feeling was mutual. My thing is that he makes me sad when he comes around. But you're right I have to act like a grown up and stop responding to him.
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