JM89 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Anyone have any experience using Twitter or Facebook to meet people to date? How did you signal interest to the other person, and how did things progress?
Rydo Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 One or two of my step sisters friends have added me on facebook and then we have ended up hooking up for one offs on nights out. That's about it though. I dont really look for dates on social media.
Author JM89 Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Yeah, not really talking about one night stands. I'm thinking more as an alternative to traditional OLD sites for finding someone with relationship potential. I feel like I hear/see "oh, we met on Facebook/Twitter!" but I've never really heard how people turned a follow or a friend request into actual dating...
MidwestUSA Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I happened to notice that a guy and I seemed to comment on a lot of the same posts, mostly related to music. We had a lot of friends in common. I friended him, and happened to have some concert tix I needed to get rid of. Once finding he was unattached, we agreed to go together. Long story short, he ended up moving in with me two days before the concert, and we were married nine months later. It happens.
fred123 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 good question and thread. i did it once. didnt end well. its not like a dating site where you are expected to change number within a week and meet up soon. i ended up being pen pals with a girl and that wasn't out of my choice. dating sites you get less messing around i think. you are there for a reason. simple as.
MissBee Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 (edited) Anyone have any experience using Twitter or Facebook to meet people to date? How did you signal interest to the other person, and how did things progress? I've never used social media with the intention of finding people to date but have made friends on FB and Twitter, primarily Twitter, through constant exchanges and the friendship grew to exchanging numbers and adding each other on Whatsapp and messaging and phone calls. With a couple of them after we ended up exchanging numbers and talking, romantic feelings grew and then we hung out offline as friends and then dated briefly. That's how it has happened for me but it was never intentional. I wouldn't use social media specifically for dating purposes. I hate when random men message me on FB saying I'm pretty or try to add me when we have no friends in common and this is not a dating site. But I've made friends with my friends' mutual friends maybe through always commenting on the same things so we end up exchanging ideas or something and then add each other more naturally. If something then happens from that fine but I don't really like the idea of trawling around FB or Twitter looking for people to date. It's like LS. People have met on LS. But they didn't set out to find people here to date but through the process of interaction you might end up forming a friendship in PMs that you take to email or the phone and meet up and go from there but it would be very different from specifically getting on LS with the intention of finding someone. Edited December 31, 2014 by MissBee
coolheadal Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I've done it for years since AOL! Sure most women online don't tend too tell you the complete truth. You find out things as you go along. If you want to continue talking with them by text online. Today things are difference. You have more cell phone talk or text. On FB I am there for many years but right now since I am single, I just communicate with a few women on there. Since I am vegan there more vegan's on FB so the women I talk to are Vegans. But again just friends noting serious, just common talk about the dishes I create and share, I do run my own group for Vegans. But still there some women with BF issues I try to help them out like I do here. I am on Twitter also, but I don't use like you all are asking. I use it to post what's new or what I have created. I run also several forums too, but for electronics and software. But online dating is still popular because not everyone can find the right person in the real world. Everyone so busy and they don't want to talk to strangers in public places. If strange women walks up to me and said hi in the parking lot, like last month. Things like that happen she was smiling at me. That's good sign, but I was in relationship so I just wave back! Oh well so again if your looking for someone try online, and whatever you do take your time with them. But when you can try to get them on the phone so you can talk with them. The longer you can talk with them the more you would get to know them enough to get that first date going!
Author JM89 Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 I've never used social media with the intention of finding people to date but have made friends on FB and Twitter, primarily Twitter, through constant exchanges and the friendship grew to exchanging numbers and adding each other on Whatsapp and messaging and phone calls. With a couple of them after we ended up exchanging numbers and talking, romantic feelings grew and then we hung out offline as friends and then dated briefly. That's how it has happened for me but it was never intentional. Definitely agree, MissBee. I would never go searching social media for random men to date, but I have developed interests in people when it becomes clear we share interests, sense of humor, etc., especially on Twitter. I guess I am just somewhat baffled by how to go from public favoriting and replying and liking to actually having a personal, individual conversation without being all, "hey, I like you! Let's talk!" MidwestUSA, care to give any more details on how you went from friend request to date? Stories like yours fascinate me!
MidwestUSA Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 MidwestUSA, care to give any more details on how you went from friend request to date? Stories like yours fascinate me! Well, it wasn't difficult justifying the friend request, since we had so many friends in common. As it turns out, he has six brothers, and one of them was in my high school class. If I recall, not long after I friended him, I posted that I had the concert tickets for sale. He replied that he might be interested. I simply said (kinda jokingly) 'did you want to buy them from me or go with me? I don't even know it you're married or attached, LOL'. I honestly couldn't tell from his profile, but he was single. So, he may have already been scoping me out, but we spent March and April PMing a lot via Facebook. Then there was an annual get together for my high school in early May, that was the first time we met face to face. We then spent a month talking on the phone, sometimes four to six hours at a time, before he finally asked me out on June 2nd. One date and we knew. He moved in seven weeks later, asked me to marry him in February, and did the deed in May 2013. I should point out that we're older, 45 and me 50, so we both knew what we wanted, and had both been divorced about eight years. He hadn't dated at all during that time. I did OLD and had a couple of short term relationships (3 to 5 months). I really wouldn't recommend anyone moving that fast. But hey, troll your friends' friend lists! You never know.
Author JM89 Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Social media is, IMO the easiest, best way to meet women these days. I met my ex wife through Myspace and my current GF on Facebook. The great thing about social media, especially with women, is that many of them post every single thought that enters their head throughout the day. This gives you some very good insight into what kind of person she is without having to take a ton of time getting to know her. After 5 mins of looking at a Facebook page I know whether or not I could date that person. I think this sums up a lot of my curiosity. On OLD, everyone puts how they're adventurous and funny and close to family, blah blah blah, but there's no telling how true it is. Social media is their public presentation to others, and it's in real time. If his tweets aren't funny, he's not funny. If his pictures are all selfies on the couch, probably not adventurous. It seems more honest to who the person really is. I get the feeling that it's usually guys who approach women on social media. Any tips or thoughts on flipping that?
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