Jimmyjackson Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 My ex girlfriend said she had never had a ONS before, said she was too sensitive to have one, wanted to get to know a guy before having sex, no matter how long she had been without sex she wouldn't have one. It kinda got me thinking, I feel that everyone needs to experience one at some point, right? I had my first one a couple of weeks ago and it wasn't this horrible dirty act that I assumed it would be before I had one; was just sex. I don't think I would be having one again though If I'm honest, It was okay but I don't think I'm the ONS type of person. It is nice to think that some girls don't make themselves so easy I guess and wait, but what are others opinions on this? have some of you never had one either? I'm not judging anyone by the way, whether people have or don't have one, it's up to them.
Rydo Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 They are fun... That's pretty much as far as my opinion goes on it.
TouchedByViolet Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 It kinda got me thinking, I feel that everyone needs to experience one at some point, right? Generally speaking it doesn't interest me and I can live my whole life without it. If I ever did, the girl would have to be super hot. 1
Author Jimmyjackson Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 Call me old fashioned but I just think there's something nice about a girl who hasn't had one... 3
mr_dave Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I think it's nice that she hasn't had one! For some people (myself included) sex is an intimate act they only share with people they have deep feelings for. There would be no meaning behind a ONS for me, if I have a woman (and there have only been two so far) in bed, I love to caress her, kiss every inch of her body, go down on her, whisper sweet nothings into her ear and hold her afterwards. I like it to be romantic, and it can only be genuinely so if there is love behind the actions. Why would I do that with a woman who I might know nothing about? She might have STDs, be trying to get pregnant, be a complete b**ch, or might not have washed herself downstairs since the last bloke... Not for me thanks...
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 If you are the type that needs to get to know someone and feel a connection with someone a ONS is going to leave you feeling vulnerable & unhappy. It's like a roller coaster. Some people love the thrill. Other people just get dizzy & vomit. 3
losangelena Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I certainly don't think it's something everyone "needs" to do. Sex comes in a variety of flavors and experiences. I didn't start having sex until pretty late in the game, and what I quickly learned is that it's not the end-all-be-all some people make it out to be. As women, we're told to be selective and wait, because we'll bond quickly to our partners, but I didn't find that to be the case at all. I've never had a ONS (I almost had one but the guy fell asleep in the middle of it—long story), but I probably could because I don't attach easily. However, it does seem like a bit much for someone you're probably never gonna see again. There's very little appeal in it, to me.
Satu Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 It's not something that I would ever do, but that doesn't mean it's wrong. Each to their own.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 (edited) Generally speaking it doesn't interest me and I can live my whole life without it. If I ever did, the girl would have to be super hot. Yep. I always wanted to when I was younger, but I never came close. Not too much interest right now. At least not in the sex. Sex with a condom is not that good. I would have interest in making out with a cute woman, but getting that is just as impossible. My main interests lie in finding someone cool to share things with, so a ONS gets me nowhere except being able to brag to guy friends, which I don't care about, and even if I did they are all married with kids and they wouldn't give a ****. I would be interested in having FWB with a cute woman where even if we weren't relationship material, we could have unprotected sex. I'm also interested in a stranger walking down the street and giving me $10,000. And both are about as likely. Edited December 31, 2014 by JuneJulySeptember
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