Ashley1985 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 I want to bring in the New Years with my boyfriend, but I don’t enjoy going to the club, which is what he wants to do. His older sister is having a small get together for New Years tonight and I’d like to attend that because my family will be there. Although I rather be with him and my family to bring in the New Years, I would compromise and go to the club with him and his friends if their girlfriends were also going, which isn’t the case. It’s basically going to be my boyfriend and his friends (all boys) and myself. I expressed my feelings and told him that I’d rather ring in the New Years with my family and that I don’t like the club, which he knows, and his response was “that’s fine, I’m going to have fun regardless”. So my thought is, as a boyfriend he should want to be with me to bring in the New Years. Should I just compromise and go to the club with him although it seems like he doesn’t really mind if I attend? Am I being selfish? Should I just compromise and go out with him and his friends to the club or just bring in the New Years with my family alone? Thoughts?
Diezel Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 You are both being selfish, which is perfectly fine because guess what... you are human beings and it's within our nature to want to do two different things. He wants to go out, you want to stay in with family. So, he goes out, you stay in. But his response to you with "I'll have fun, regardless"... kinda, doesn't... sit well. So wait... HIS family is having a get together and your family is going to be there? I just re-read the first two sentences. I do have to admit, I always hate these "Should my boyfriend want to spend NYE with me" threads, but in this case, it seems like it IS a little different than the rest.
Gaeta Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Let him spend the NYE with his friends. It's not interesting for you to spend tonight with a bunch of guys in a place you don't like. Also, a bunch of guys don't want that ONE girlfriend cligning to one of them when they party. If you go you will want his attention, you won't get it as much as you wish and it's going to create drama and you will resent him. There are plenty of other events during the year you can spend together as a couple. Also, he does not want to compromise on his night so why would you? He could spend part of the night with you and family then go join his buddy. That's called compromising.
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 What are the other guys' GFs doing? Why aren't they spending NYE with their BFs? Are you really sure they won't be at the club? I don't know what I'd do in your situation. If the other GFs were going to be at the club, I'd go there. Then again I spent a life time avoiding my parents on NYE. I think you are both being a little intractable. The inability to compromise doesn't bode well for the future of your relationship.
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