eblude Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Hey all my wife have left around 4 months ago . We have been married for 5 years. My wife has betrayed me and tried to ruin me "do not want to go in details". Anyway first month was hell, been having thoughts of suicide on daily basis but thank lord I feel like moving on. well I do not miss my ex wife anymore and I believe that i am better without her. but for last days I been having sadness coming from middle of nowhere and at times I feel like in want to cry as a child. I think about her sometimes like wondering where she is what she is doin? or is she with another man , I am just trying to understand where this sadness coming from and Still love her but i want to move on
StalwartMind Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 If you are spiritual then take comfort in your faith. Despite people handle things quite differently, I'd say you are still very early in grieving process. Think of your mind as the ocean near a beach, that keeps sending waves of water towards the shore. Each swell has a different set of emotions it brings with it, sometimes it's that of negative thoughts and events that has happened to you. This is why it's difficult to completely rid yourself of going through those stages. With time the water changes, and new waves make their way to your beach that carry entirely different things with them. While it's easy for someone to tell you the classic quote that "time heals all wounds", it is indeed with time you'll understand better too. Your ex has hurt you, and to quote another wonderful thought which has been said across this board too more than a few times, these events are actually a blessing in disguise. A new life awaits you, it'll feel unpleasant at first, but through your own will you'll learn to appreciate things once again. 1
ralfgarnett Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Your feelings are normal my friend, I too am depressed and have had a good cry this morning even though it is nearly 6 months that we have been apart, last night with it being NYE I thought the tears would of arrived but nothing, I felt a bit down and lost don't get me wrong, but this morning a friend rang me and something he said triggered an emotion and I have cried, so just go with the flow and cry if you need to, but keep an eye on the depression and seek help from your doctor if you need to, I am being well looked after by my doctor as she realises the deep depression that I have been in, good luck mate I am thinking of you and I feel your pain.
Author eblude Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 I am currently at work .. All in my head right now is an overwhelming sadness . remembering how she dumped me betrayed me and tried to destroy me. I know It is better for me she is gone . but I am not happy . I feel so alone abandonment and wish i could cry right now but I have to suck it up since I am at my desk. I wish I never met her loved her .. I am honestly scared to be stuck in despair while she is singing her way out laughing at the fool guy who she destroyed. Sorry I need to speak I am afraid I am overwhelming my friends but none of them had been married or divorced . it is hard to to explain it to myself at times why I am sad but .. I am SCARED TO DEATH. that one day I will give up . Again things are not bad at least dealing with suicide which i overcame but things are not that great neither and it worries me makes me unable to breath at times. I still LOVE her but I do not want her in my life
OneConfuzedGuy Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 I am currently at work .. All in my head right now is an overwhelming sadness . remembering how she dumped me betrayed me and tried to destroy me. I know It is better for me she is gone . but I am not happy . I feel so alone abandonment and wish i could cry right now but I have to suck it up since I am at my desk. I wish I never met her loved her .. I am honestly scared to be stuck in despair while she is singing her way out laughing at the fool guy who she destroyed. Sorry I need to speak I am afraid I am overwhelming my friends but none of them had been married or divorced . it is hard to to explain it to myself at times why I am sad but .. I am SCARED TO DEATH. that one day I will give up . Again things are not bad at least dealing with suicide which i overcame but things are not that great neither and it worries me makes me unable to breath at times. I still LOVE her but I do not want her in my life Dont be sorry about posting. Thats what we are all here for. Im sorry man I know its tough im at work too. Even though I wasnt married it sure felt like it living together for 4 years. Stay strong my friend. Keep posting here whenever you feel like it.
Author eblude Posted January 8, 2015 Author Posted January 8, 2015 At times it feels like climbing a mountain . I went back to my doctor to adjust my depression medication but still feel like I need to crawl and shut everything out for few days ,,, now thinking that I am doing that for someone who doesnt deserve my love and passion makes me want to disappear . I really do whatever I can to move on .. but it seems like constant battle to move on
KBarletta Posted January 8, 2015 Posted January 8, 2015 At times it feels like climbing a mountain . I went back to my doctor to adjust my depression medication but still feel like I need to crawl and shut everything out for few days ,,, now thinking that I am doing that for someone who doesnt deserve my love and passion makes me want to disappear . I really do whatever I can to move on .. but it seems like constant battle to move on The most important thing you can do right now is remember that what happened with her is in the past, where it belongs, and to concentrate all of your energy on your own future. It is the only option. When you feel yourself thinking of her, feeling sad about the past and getting depressed, you have to force yourself out of it and think about other things. Believe me, I know how hard that is. But you have to do it. My advice: Think about things you always wanted to do but never did. Then DO them. Exercise every day while listening to loud, happy music (this REALLY helps clear your mind and fills you with positive energy). Learn a new instrument. Go see a play or a great band. Hang out with friends. Take a trip somewhere warm. Anything to move your mind to a better place. Hang in there, man. I know it's hard, but what's done is done. You have your entire life ahead of you and you need to start living it.
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