kittenhead Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 I’ve been a monster for the last few days –difficult—insecure—paranoid—and huffy. I just quit smoking cigarettes. My BF quit too. I haven’t exactly been a sweetheart and I’ve just guilted him into visiting me tonight. He’s busy with stuff he’s got to do and he is still vulnerable to smoking. But he’s taking the time to see me anyway. What would be a really cool thing to have for him when he gets to my house to really show my appreciation?
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Cook him dinner... Make him something Home-Made! That will work like a charm or make a dessert Chocolate works like wonders sometimes!
Merin Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 A pack of cigarettes? JK JK JK JK Why not get some take out you both like, get some DVD's and make it your treat?
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Originally posted by Merin A pack of cigarettes? Nicotine Gum... YUM!!! Just Kidding... [color=red]I would do the homemade thing... Good Luck with the non smoking thing!!!!!!!![/color]
Merin Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Originally posted by tiki A blowjob. This will only encourage smoking.... Seriously.. try to maintain the good vibes and feed him, who doesn't like that? AND Tiki's idea.. who doesn't like that either?! LOL should be a good night
Author kittenhead Posted March 25, 2005 Author Posted March 25, 2005 Oh well--certainly a blowjob. That goes without sayng.
Pendawn Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Why not offer him a full body massage to take away the stress you're given him over the week?
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Seduce him (whips, chains and handcuff style).... Get some tips from Hotgurl... This will make him really feel appreciated...
Author kittenhead Posted March 26, 2005 Author Posted March 26, 2005 well-- it went horribly. i bought him some treats to curb the cravings, i gave him a card that said i know he had to drop his stuff in order to come see me--and that i know that stuff means a lot to him and that i appreciate it though for him coming--that it means a lot to me. i gave him a piece of artwork and a little toy robot. he thought that was sweet. the night progressed--but things were wierd--the connection was just not there. he was distant. and after a few hours he was really tired--i also baked chocolate chip cookies--he ate 8 of them--and was then in a sugar coma. we went to bed. no touching--no i love yous--no pillow talk--which we are famous for. he says he feels spiritually drained. i go very sick in the middle of the night--i had been fasting for a few days and i was losing energy--and i got sick (i wanted to break the fast early--but he thought this was an indication of us giving into our vices as we do with smoking). so i wasn't feeling good with fever chills and sneezing. i wake up at 8 and try to have a little cuddle time. but he is fast asleep. i go do stuff. i had to get ready for work at 1 pm so i went to see if he was up at 11:30. i got him to wake up and it was sweet but there was just no action or intimacy happenning so i said i was going to play dr. mario for since i was destroying the board. he came out then and asked me to make coffee -- i made him coffee while he played dr. mario. we traded off for a bit. then he grabbed my hands and said he was feeling amorous--so we went to bed. no sweet talk though--no nothing. it was weird. he couldn't stay hard--said he wasn't feeling it and i said that it was ok--thta i'd rather we connect then hook up. it's nicer that way. so we tried to talk and i basically said that it seems rough that the dynamics are weird when we try to stop smoking--that i get needy--he gets distant which makes me more needy and he--even more distant. he agreed then said he was getting dressed. i was crying at this point-not so he could see--but it was happenning here and there all morning without him knowing it. he basically just left then.
agnf666 Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 I'm sorry Kittenhead that your night was horrible. How long have you to not been smoking?? People get really wierd when they stop an addicrtion really fast!
Author kittenhead Posted March 26, 2005 Author Posted March 26, 2005 thanks for asking. we both quit just two days ago. i told him to watch out--that i will become insecure and everything else--that i just needed extra attention and increased reassurance. that was it. and he said he needed the same. which i provided. but he actually reduced. i don't get it. i was really trying to be proactive.
agnf666 Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 When you first start to quit it is hard. I have tried to stop but I haven't yet. I just try to keep smoking less cigarettes. Just take it slow. You guys r just having nicotine withdrawls. It will get better.
Pendawn Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 This may sound terrible but I'm thinking it maybe wasn't a good diea for you BOTH to quit at the same time as it means you are both not yourself and therefor not really able to make allowance sand support each other. But as you have I can only suggest you just keep at it, keep communication open as much as possible and keep saying it's due to the nictone and nothing else. At least for the next week or so. Good luck to you both on all accounts.
Hawaii Posted March 27, 2005 Posted March 27, 2005 Sounds terrible. I was going to post that it doesn' t often work for females to buy gifts to molify males or make them like us, but I see the problem as progressed. I went on a lot of fasts. I wouldn't do that again. My intention was health, but in retrospect, I don't think that it was healthy. Certainly we function poorly and may not be as steady emotionally without adequate food. In retrospect it is looking like you two should be in isolation from each other while you go through your respective withdrawals. I'm sorry it all went so badly. I hope you keep strong in your resolve stay free of cigarettes.
Author kittenhead Posted March 28, 2005 Author Posted March 28, 2005 hey--i wanted to post a thanks to everyone. i've made it through without a smoke--but everytime a feel an emotional avalanche coming I put in a piece of nicorette gum. my boy came over last night. he said he thought the whole thing wasn't my fault--that it was reallt due to the sugar coma he feel into. geez--so many vices here. still, i'm disappointed. you gotta understand this: if you've every been with someone and it is magic--like you look at this person and you're like "this is it--b/c if it isn't then I don't know what is" then you gat a pretty good feeling about my situation. it's mutual--but its fickle. i'm noticing a pattern. this wouldn't have been so bad if it just happenned once--but we've had our share of emotional problems to traverse. i think i freak out easily and am pacified within moments--but when he freaks out--he freak in a hard way--one that changes his behavior--and its like up and down--all the time. oh sorry. i believe i'm ranting. someone said before that maybe we should have quit a different times. --you are probably right.
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