sophiestic Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Well, I had a crash on someone who is older than me from when I was a child. The previous summer we - sort of - used to see each other secretly but nothing happened - just a kiss. We come from a small island and people talk a lot... so he was probably afraid. Anyway, he is 37 and I am 24. He is very secretive, doesn't talk much and I can't figure him out. I returned to the city in september, while he was still on the island since he has a cafe/bar to run. He used to text me once/twice a week. Then, our connection got lost and now suddenly he wants to talk to me and calls me "his girl" without even dating me properly. Is he a mysterious prince or just an *******? [i believe the latter] Let me know what you think... What would you do?
bnx Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 If I were you, my next step of action would depend on his history prior to you both losing contact and then speaking again. Is he just getting out of a relationship? Is he lonely? Would he have any selfish motives in contacting you all of a sudden? 1
Author sophiestic Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 His previous serious relationship was 1 year ago and lasted 5 years or so. He used to be "Don Juan" - if you know what I mean - but after the breakup he became lonely. He smokes a lot and has a very mysterious behaviour. He flirts a lot and hugs his female friends and acquaintances. I am getting tired of him. He admitted that I wouldn't be able to figure him out because he doesn't open himeself easily. Not even his previous girlfriend managed to get to know him - he told me in the summer. I am sick of this situation.
Satu Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 He sounds like he's a man who likes women, rather than a man who likes you.
bnx Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 His previous serious relationship was 1 year ago and lasted 5 years or so. He used to be "Don Juan" - if you know what I mean - but after the breakup he became lonely. He smokes a lot and has a very mysterious behaviour. He flirts a lot and hugs his female friends and acquaintances. I am getting tired of him. He admitted that I wouldn't be able to figure him out because he doesn't open himeself easily. Not even his previous girlfriend managed to get to know him - he told me in the summer. I am sick of this situation. Is he only smoking cigarettes? 1
Author sophiestic Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 I think he smokes pot other than cigarettes.. His mother has a serious health problem. I forgot to mention that. So, this affects his behaviour. I sent him a message and told him that he can't talk to me whenever he remembers and then suddenly telling me he wants to kiss me. I told him to go kiss his other girls. His answer was: "It's my fault contacting you now that I am in Athens.. You didn't text me either. Don't talk* to me again. That's all I wanted to hear." *although he was the one who stopped talking to me and was very abrupt. As if I would go after him like a desperate little girl. ooh please...
lovexocoach Posted January 16, 2015 Posted January 16, 2015 Let go of it and move on. There's nothing there. 2
Nina1 Posted January 18, 2015 Posted January 18, 2015 This guy is really really weird, and not in a good way.. He clearly is playing with you, he is hiding you a lot of things. In my opinion, you should move on, and stop with him for good. He's 37 and is acting like a 16 yr old boy, he doesn't want stability so stop wasting your time with him.
Author sophiestic Posted February 3, 2015 Author Posted February 3, 2015 Thank you Nina for your advice. I believe the same. I should move on.
preraph Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Well, he's hiding things about himself and so he probably isn't trustworthy. I'm glad you're smart enough not to just assume because he doesn't show you what he's like that he's better than what he appears. You know he was a player. He probably still is when he can. Yes, even players can get lonely. I wouldn't think for someone your age he would be a great bargain, probably just add chaos to your life -- and you have good instincts, and the experts say you should ALWAYS listen to your instincts. Remember it took centuries and centuries of survival to make those instincts you have that so few women want to listen to anymore.
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