spanishchick00 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I don't understand why you have to make a thread about this topic. Looks like you have a problem with it. How about I make a post about white guys/black girls??? Or would that be racist?
the tank Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 It's not because you are white, you will get a realtionship with an asian girl.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 But as a bottom line, if I was a white woman who was a bit longer in the tooth who lives in a more diverse area, yea I would be a little worried. Because there's many, many Asian women taking white men and so that essentially dilutes their dating pool I really don't think that aging white women need to be afraid that Asian women are going to grab up all the men! OP I know 2 white guys who are ONLY attracted to Asian women but I also know a guy who is only attracted to women who have big boobs and another one who only is interested in petite blondes, it's just a matter of attraction. Also there is this Internet thing about "western women" being bad and the guys who participate in that believe that any woman from someplace that is not "west" is going to be a better woman. 1
Danda Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) I've read from multiple sources and would agree that Asian men and black women tend to be the most disadvantaged groups when it comes to dating... I don't really get this honestly. I lurk Craigslist casual encounters all the time, and I see several ads on a regular basis specifically looking for black women. Casual encounters is nothing but raw lusty attraction, which means there are plenty of guys who find black women to be very sexually attractive, to the point that despite how few women are actually on CL casual encounters, several men will narrow down their chances even more in search of what they really want only, and in those cases, black women. I can't give an opinion on the Asian men thing because the number of w4m ads in the casual encounters section is substantially lower and so not enough to even see any trends. I think race is just such a touchy subject given actual racism that many people are just PC-blinded to the notion that preference for race is like preference for any other combination of aesthetic features, so people get extra bent out of shape over it. I mean can you imagine a pouty thread on why do men prefer blonds? It would be a very silly thread full of responses saying that they just do, or either they don't care or that they actually prefer brunette/red/raven/whatever. I can almost guarantee that nobody would find it super offensive or start theorizing that brunettes have a harder time finding love/sex lol. Edited December 30, 2014 by Danda 1
organizedchaos Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I don't really get this honestly. I lurk Craigslist casual encounters all the time, and I see several ads on a regular basis specifically looking for black women. Casual encounters is nothing but raw lusty attraction, which means there are plenty of guys who find black women to be very sexually attractive, to the point that despite how few women are actually on CL casual encounters, several men will narrow down their chances even more in search of what they really want only, and in those cases, black women. I can't give an opinion on the Asian men thing because the number of w4m ads in the casual encounters section is substantially lower and so not enough to even see any trends. I think race is just such a touchy subject given actual racism that many people are just PC-blinded to the notion that preference for race is like preference for any other combination of aesthetic features, so people get extra bent out of shape over it. I mean can you imagine a pouty thread on why do men prefer blonds? It would be a very silly thread full of responses saying that either they don't care or that they actually prefer brunette/red/raven/whatever. I can almost guarantee that nobody would find it super offensive or start theorizing that brunettes have a harder time finding love/sex lol. Last paragraph is spot on. Everyone has certain things that attract them to someone. Something that catches their eye that might not catch someone else's eye. So what is the point of this thread again? I've dated women of just about every race. Ex wife is white. Last ex gf is asian and current gf is asian. I've dated black women, hispanic women, Indian women, etc. What is the common denominator for me: They were/are all beautiful women. Something about them caught my attraction. As far as the Asian thing since this is the topic of this thread. For me, it's not about them being submissive, them looking to date up, or how they age, or whatever. Ex gf was highly successful in her career in entertainment. We had fun, she was very cute, a lot in common. Current gf is drop dead gorgeous, very fit, hardly submissive, has a good career, we have a lot in common. So what's the point? There is none. I'm attracted to beautiful, successful, fit women, with whom there is great chemistry and similar interests. The last two just happen to be Asian. Yes, some guys do have a fetish or will only date Asian women. But you could substitute "Asian" for any ethnicity or feature and you'd have the same thing. 1
GSP21 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) Okay... I am an Asian man (Chinese) who was raised in Canada, perhaps I can give some insight. I don't care about being politically correct on a forum, this is just my own opinion. 1) Asian women (and men) tend to have smaller frames and slimmer bodies, in addition to smaller hands/feet etc. which is seen as more feminine. 2) Asian women are generally less promiscuous then westerners due to culture - this only applies to immigrants or people who at least grew up with traditional Asian parents. Asians who have been in the west for several generations would likely be the same as westerners. 3) Asian women age better - there are a lot of 35+ year old Asians that look like they are in their 20s. My father is about 50 years old but looks like he is 35. Also, the aging graphic posted a couple of posts ago is deceptive. It's not that Asian women suddenly go through a change around 50-60; it's the conditions that different generations were exposed to. In my grandparents' generation, food was extremely scarce in China, medical treatment was poor and the living conditions in general were terrible; that's why a lot of the older generation age so poorly. When you see the present generation age, I think there will be a significant difference. 4) Asian women are seen as more submissive - whether or not this is true, this is what many white guys think. I think Asian girls act more *cutesy* and submissive in the early stages of a relationship, but in marriage, Asian women are definitely NOT submissive, lol, from my experiences with family friends. They are like tigresses. 5) A lot of Asian women like Caucasian features - specifically Eastern European features. Pale skin, large eyes, a certain nose bridge. We should note the difference between Asians. Japanese and Koreans tend to be less enamored with white people, but Chinese people, many of whom just a generation ago were in poverty and are still considered a 3rd-world country love white people. As a Asian guy, it kind of sucks. The same traits that make Asian girls attractive to white guys (small/skinny, shy, cute) is not nearly as appealing to women of other races as a guy. But hey, my first girlfriend was white. It's just a lot harder to date outside of your race as an Asian guy. Edited December 30, 2014 by GSP21 5
newmoon Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 i - white female - have been to japan and china several times. the first time i was in china i was like "oh, now i get why white guys want asian women.' the women - in china - are very feminine in comparison to your typical white/american women. they dress really well, look very frail and dainty, seemed to always have hair/makeup done, in japan the women are often into wigs and costumes and very unique looks that showcase (perhaps) a willingness to be more outgoing in other ways as well. the women are just very different and after visiting these countries i now see the appeal that asian women have to white men. i didn't see many white guys w/asian women in the asian countries, the girls were mainly with their own men. it's much more prominent here in the us, which might also mean the girls are more americanized-asians, perhaps.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I really don't think that aging white women need to be afraid that Asian women are going to grab up all the men! OP I know 2 white guys who are ONLY attracted to Asian women but I also know a guy who is only attracted to women who have big boobs and another one who only is interested in petite blondes, it's just a matter of attraction. Also there is this Internet thing about "western women" being bad and the guys who participate in that believe that any woman from someplace that is not "west" is going to be a better woman. There aren't too many white guys who like ONLY Asian women, but there are being scooped up by Asian women, so it dilutes the pool. It's moreso that white women really mostly only want white men, so that pool of age appropriate, successful white men dries up.
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 My theory is that Asian women are so infatuated with white men that they make it easy for the white guys to meet women who will fawn over them. So white guys will gravitate towards the Asian women because they are relatively easy to attract, so long as you're white. Ha! I've been rejected by every flavor of Asian woman. In my experience those girls I knew only dated Asian men.
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Ha! I've been rejected by every flavor of Asian woman. In my experience those girls I knew only dated Asian men. No woman is going to accept a guy just because he is of a certain race. More accurately, some Asian women prefer or even exclusively prefer white men, but that doesn't mean you still don't have to be handsome, tall, successful, smooth, or whatever type they are specifically looking for. You still have to bring all the goods. 1
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 No woman is going to accept a guy just because he is of a certain race. More accurately, some Asian women prefer or even exclusively prefer white men, but that doesn't mean you still don't have to be handsome, tall, successful, smooth, or whatever type they are specifically looking for. You still have to bring all the goods. The bold is what some people are trying to say. That just because a guy is white Asian women will date him. Of course that is completely false. What's actually true is what you said, Asian women want a white guy who who is tall and good looking, they want pretty much the same thing that white women want from white guys. Imagine that. 2
hotpotato Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Im cool with it. In a few years he will be dating a latina or black chic like me. White men/black women is one of the fastest interracial pairings. There are many of the same bennies-like black women looking younger and some of us very pettite. I imagine tgat white men generally treat them better than men of their ethnicity particularly if the woman is fob from Korea, Vietnam, etc. 1
central Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I've dated a couple of Asian women, and they weren't that different except in appearance. I like the Asian look - but as with western women, there's a wide range of appearances, and far from all are attractive. I also happen to like western women. Heck, regardless of race, I just like women in general, and attractive women in particular! 1
jessicachoi Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 My personal experience, many korean family's in america are still very traditional. The korean family never imigrate well (what I mean; they hangout with other koreans mostly and speak korean and keep their culture. ) So obviously the girls are too, and what I see & hear from my family and friends is that they never should (and never want) to date a non-korean man. Koreans are very proud of their race and don't want to mix blood for sure. Actually, you get looked down if you date/marry someone who isn't korean. Besides that, South Korea is still pretty xenophobic. (traditional) koreans are so proud of their race and country, the girls think the korean men are the best (ehh hehe I agree on that part.) But I am sure there are also Americanized Korean girls who do date nonkoreans.. 1
hotpotato Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 The bold is what some people are trying to say. That just because a guy is white Asian women will date him. Of course that is completely false. What's actually true is what you said, Asian women want a white guy who who is tall and good looking, they want pretty much the same thing that white women want from white guys. Imagine that. Thats how I feel lol. Im not trying to date just any white guy. I want some attractive, athletic, the same as any white woman. I have the same standards for any man except id like the white guy to be blonde or very dark haired. I remember an African girl from another site who dated a lot of white men. She would have passive aggressive falling outs with jelly white women. She had to tell them that her bf was attractive, financially stable, etc, and their faces would contort. Its a kind of jelly ill never understand. I think there is a hope that minority women will date bottom of the barrel white men. In all fairness ive caught the most flack from other black women. Its because I date who I want black, white, native. I was dating white men before it was cool. No one has an obligation to date within their race (thats being rhetorical, I know its very taboo in pac islander culture ). 1
Woggle Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I never dated based on race or ethnicity. I will say that I have dated women who trashed of their own ethnicity and it is an instant turn off. I went on a date with a black woman once and she talked like she in the KKK about black men. She didn't get a second date.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 It's moreso that white women really mostly only want white men, so that pool of age appropriate, successful white men dries up. Not everybody is thinking about this "love" thing as a finite pool, it just takes enough serendipity to encounter the right person. One of them. Just because somebody is getting older or is an Asian man doesn't mean that a diminishing "pool" is going to stand in the way of finding love! :love: 1
slizl Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I feel sorry for Asian men! Asian women don't even want Asian men. I work with a few Asian guys and the dating scene is very rough for them. White guys want Asian women (besides being beautiful and aging well) because they see them as submissive. I have a couple of buddies that married Asian woman and they found out the hard way that the Asian women run the family/relationship. Having said that, the stereotypes above do not account for everyone, just from what I have seen/heard from my experinces.
stillafool Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Why do white guys love Asian women? I have a few white guy friends who have been with Asian women in the past and seem to love them as opposed to white women. I know two white guys who date nothing but Asian women and both have said they like the fact that they are very small and feminine and don't gain weight easily because of their diet and genes.
GSP21 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) I feel sorry for Asian men! Asian women don't even want Asian men. I work with a few Asian guys and the dating scene is very rough for them. White guys want Asian women (besides being beautiful and aging well) because they see them as submissive. I have a couple of buddies that married Asian woman and they found out the hard way that the Asian women run the family/relationship. Having said that, the stereotypes above do not account for everyone, just from what I have seen/heard from my experinces. Unfortunately, this is true a lot of the time. My current gf is Chinese (like me) and she only likes Asian guys. But her mother (a divorcee) ONLY likes white guys (her ex-boyfriend was Greek) and wants her daughter to date white guys. It's kind of funny because my first girlfriend was white and I was scared to meet her parents for fear of racism (they were completely cool though) and I am scared to meet my current gf's mom (who is the same race as me) for the same reason. Edited December 30, 2014 by GSP21 1
hotpotato Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I feel sorry for Asian men! Asian women don't even want Asian men. I work with a few Asian guys and the dating scene is very rough for them. White guys want Asian women (besides being beautiful and aging well) because they see them as submissive. I have a couple of buddies that married Asian woman and they found out the hard way that the Asian women run the family/relationship. Having said that, the stereotypes above do not account for everyone, just from what I have seen/heard from my experinces. I feel bad for asian men, too. An asian girl stabbed my ex. He has seen quite the opposite of the submissive asian girl stereotype. 2
CrystalCastles Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 There is no one answer to this question, you might as well ask what the meaning of life is as you will not find one answer that will appease all parties. Why do white guys love Asian women? I have a few white guy friends who have been with Asian women in the past and seem to love them as opposed to white women. Of course you could apply this question to any combo of racial paring, but what is the specific pull of the white man to the Asian woman? Before anyone jumps down my throat and says "you are being stereotypical", I have seen it enough and surely others have seen it enough to know that it's true enough. So please tell me what it's about. I think that many guys who like Asian women the same way they like any women: attractive, fit, smart, etc. Of course, there are men who only date Asian women. Just like most of my guy friends, some of who are Asian, don't date Asian women because in their words, "Asian women are unattractive". So I think it just comes down to what you're attracted to. Asian women are not superior to other women, I think its more a matter of taste. I think it also depends on the population. In my city there are frequently such pairings because there are a lot of immigrants in my city, many of which are Asian. Finally, the whole "dainty and feminine" thing people here mention depends on the man's preference. My boyfriend doesn't do dainty and feminine. He likes a fearless, fun girl. He likes to go climbing, hiking, camping. I'm anything but dainty and feminine. I can be but I hate it. I like doing sports, being outdoors, enjoying nature. I'm very fit. Me and my bf bond when we spend time with each other, as any couple, and a lot of that comes from doing various activities together. He wouldn't want a dainty and feminine woman who would be against getting her hands dirty and doing rough activities. 2
Harradin Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Race isn't a factor in the girls I want to date. I'm either blind or in the wrong area, but where I live in the UK its rare to see an asian girl with a white guy. I only know two asian girls (one indian and one half spanish/phillipines) who actively seek out white guys. The asian girls stick to asian guys! Shame as there are some hot asian girls in my area!
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Guys also care less about race. So that's partially a factor. White guys might think white, Asian, and latina women are hot, but white women only want white guys or etc. Women are much more selective about race and if Match.com is any indicator, it's not even close.
somedude81 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Thats how I feel lol. Im not trying to date just any white guy. I want some attractive, athletic, the same as any white woman. I have the same standards for any man except id like the white guy to be blonde or very dark haired. I remember an African girl from another site who dated a lot of white men. She would have passive aggressive falling outs with jelly white women. She had to tell them that her bf was attractive, financially stable, etc, and their faces would contort. Its a kind of jelly ill never understand. I think there is a hope that minority women will date bottom of the barrel white men. In all fairness ive caught the most flack from other black women. Its because I date who I want black, white, native. I was dating white men before it was cool. No one has an obligation to date within their race (thats being rhetorical, I know its very taboo in pac islander culture ). I didn't know you were black. Though that's probably me just being ethnocentric. I pretty much think that everybody online is a white male Yeah, regardless of the race, women tend to want the same physical characteristics in a man, though there are some exceptions; for example the rare girl that is into me Interracial dating or not wanting to date people of the same race seems to be an interesting yet touchy subject. For example I know of black women that have no interest in dating black guys and Indian guys who have no interest in dating Indian girls. I wonder what it is that causes people to seek out others of a different race and to have no interest in their own race. I'm white and Cuban though I identify as white. My racial preferences are white, Hispanic (as long as they act American) and Asian (with the same restriction as Hispanic women).
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