OLD is just a sick game and Im done with it [update]

[Trenton100]

Done. Over it. Here has been my experiences up to this point.

 

First girl I met online. One date. It went well. First one since my divorce. Kiss at the end. Told her its been a while since I kissed another girl (obviously) so I hope it was ok. She said yes. Next day we text. I send about two simply describing some of my hobbies and what I liked about her. Simple things. Nothing heavy. She tells me that it was a turn off that I asked if the kiss was ok and told me I lacked confidence. Done.

 

Second girl. Talked for a week. Took her out and she got hammered off of 75 bucks, acted like a jerk and left. My car was parked at her place and I walked back to it myself. She texts me the next day "I guess I was a jerk last night. Oh well. It happens." Done.

 

Third girl. Had a nice dinner. 90 bucks. No chemistry. Not so sour over that one. She was cool. But from what could tell, she dates alot. Done.

 

Fourth girl. Ended up being a four month deal. But for those four months all I heard about was her kids, her kids and nothing but sexting. As soon as I tried sparking some romantic emotion into it, she avoided me. No thanks. Done.

 

Fifth is the exception to online. Met her outside. She was addicted to Adderall, texted at 3am, never appreciated ant gesture of romance and was so vain it drove me nuts. All about the sex though. Done.

 

Sixth girl never saw a date. She called me, had a great 2 hour conversation. Told me she would talk to me tomorrow. Never called. Texted and said she had a court that morning, her dad had to go to the hospital and she left her phone there. Bull. Done.

 

And now this one. The one I actually like. She is so guarded from being treated like crap, I can't get a conversation about us out of her. She likes me. We are attracted to each other. But she's fading and fading fast. Mostly everything is text. We will see each other on Sat but by then it might be too late. Today she did nothing but complain about everything going on in her life. She tells me I'm blind for calling her beautiful and tells me she must be flawed because guys have treated her like crap. I'm half done so far. I'm not texting a single thing tomorrow. Let her come after me now. Screw this game. I'm not playing this validation crap.

 

Damn right my patience is run out. I'm getting to old for this crap. OLD is bye bye. Time to take my chances out in the real world, the way it should be.

[toscaroscura]

If quitting OLD is what you must do, then that is what you must do.

 

I'm with you, for what it's worth. No more OLD for me either. I found nothing but liars, jerks, and nice yet clingy men without boundaries. OLD fosters a bizarre paradoxical mixture of detachment and false intimacy that I found unnerving.

 

I'm taking time to reflect and explore my spirituality and where my life is going. I figure if a man is in the cards for me, it'll happen, out here in real life. If not, well, I will continue to better myself and create happiness where I can.

 

I am less angry than you are...just more resigned.

[mortensorchid]

Everyone who has ever tried OLD has had some hilarious stories (just scroll through this forum) and they are all somewhat if not completely similar to your stories shared. Quite honestly, I have given up on trying to find someone through OLD that has anything to offer other than a free drink / dinner / cup of coffee. We have to ask ourselves why we do it. The answer is that because it's there, and the world is full of lonely people.

 

 

You will of course hear the story about the person who met their spouse / SO through OLD of some kind. I think this only happens once in a blue moon myself. OLD will increase your volume of people that you will talk to, perhaps meet, but ... that's all it is. Truth.

[Danda]

Why are you spending so much money on your dates? Goodness.

 

But yeah OLD is weird in some ways. Some people have been through way more than 7 hoops to no avail, but yeah the weirdness will probably continue, and you never know how many hoops are left until you find something worthwhile.

 

You can also try random stuff in your community. I went to this wine glass painting thing. In retrospect I guess I shouldn't have expected to see many guys there lol. But, I did spend an evening getting smashed and playing with paint with a bunch of cool people. Was probably more fun than a date would have been anyway lol. Just gotta keep gettin out there I guess.

[toscaroscura]

Which one of these was the football girl?

 

The last one of course.

[Gloria25]

Why are you spending so much money on your dates? Goodness.

 

But yeah OLD is weird in some ways. Some people have been through way more than 7 hoops to no avail, but yeah the weirdness will probably continue, and you never know how many hoops are left until you find something worthwhile.

 

You can also try random stuff in your community. I went to this wine glass painting thing. In retrospect I guess I shouldn't have expected to see many guys there lol. But, I did spend an evening getting smashed and playing with paint with a bunch of cool people. Was probably more fun than a date would have been anyway lol. Just gotta keep gettin out there I guess.

 

Agreed, IMO, first dates should be over drinks or coffee...

[smg15]

well you doing better than me, I got no messages in December from multiple sites

 

so in 2015 I may consider dating outside my race

[Rommex]

Done. Over it. Here has been my experiences up to this point.

 

First girl I met online. One date. It went well. First one since my divorce. Kiss at the end. Told her its been a while since I kissed another girl (obviously) so I hope it was ok. She said yes. Next day we text. I send about two simply describing some of my hobbies and what I liked about her. Simple things. Nothing heavy. She tells me that it was a turn off that I asked if the kiss was ok and told me I lacked confidence. Done.

 

Second girl. Talked for a week. Took her out and she got hammered off of 75 bucks, acted like a jerk and left. My car was parked at her place and I walked back to it myself. She texts me the next day "I guess I was a jerk last night. Oh well. It happens." Done.

 

Third girl. Had a nice dinner. 90 bucks. No chemistry. Not so sour over that one. She was cool. But from what could tell, she dates alot. Done.

 

Fourth girl. Ended up being a four month deal. But for those four months all I heard about was her kids, her kids and nothing but sexting. As soon as I tried sparking some romantic emotion into it, she avoided me. No thanks. Done.

 

Fifth is the exception to online. Met her outside. She was addicted to Adderall, texted at 3am, never appreciated ant gesture of romance and was so vain it drove me nuts. All about the sex though. Done.

 

Sixth girl never saw a date. She called me, had a great 2 hour conversation. Told me she would talk to me tomorrow. Never called. Texted and said she had a court that morning, her dad had to go to the hospital and she left her phone there. Bull. Done.

 

And now this one. The one I actually like. She is so guarded from being treated like crap, I can't get a conversation about us out of her. She likes me. We are attracted to each other. But she's fading and fading fast. Mostly everything is text. We will see each other on Sat but by then it might be too late. Today she did nothing but complain about everything going on in her life. She tells me I'm blind for calling her beautiful and tells me she must be flawed because guys have treated her like crap. I'm half done so far. I'm not texting a single thing tomorrow. Let her come after me now. Screw this game. I'm not playing this validation crap.

 

Damn right my patience is run out. I'm getting to old for this crap. OLD is bye bye. Time to take my chances out in the real world, the way it should be.

 

It's a very sick game that's played on us. Some of your bad experiences I've had similar. Asking for a kiss and her saying 'no' and another time attempting a kiss and have her turn away. Talking and talking about exes, hell I prefer she'd talk about kids. Her drinking too much on my dime. Some ask me loaded questions. I'd prefer a job interview it's so bad. Cancelling dates when I'm driving there. Between all of this are stretches without anything.

[newlyborn]

if you start from the basic belief that nothing is owed to you in advance (why would it be? because you are a man and want a woman?), you will be more optimistic, confident, easy-going, and happy in dating -- whether on OLD or in real life.

[Diezel]

So if you have the same experiences in "real life", are you going to quit dating there too?

 

Because, that I know of, almost no one ever gets it right the first time and that applies to all dating. I'd have been ridiculously surprised if after getting divorced, the first woman you dated was your "soulmate".

 

It's all a learning process and definitely trial and error. I know you posted in another thread about how football girl is a downer... but man, you should read your threads/posts from the last week because when it comes to dating, you are just as much a downer.

 

Take a step back and come into it with a positive attitude and confidence or don't at all.

[LookAtThisPOst]

I'm not a huge advocate of "Chemistry" when it comes to dating and having been out on dates confirmed just that. Being pragmatic and realistic as I am, i did experience that "wave" of endearment or "chemistry" as some define it with a woman I totally clicked with from the interenet, to the phone, to face-to-face. Nothing changed from online to meeting her in person as far as behavior was concerned.

 

A lot of flirting, she couldn't get her smile off her face, and it was the first time I had EVER kissed a woman on a first date that I had met online. The "Chemistry" was there.

 

THen afterwards, she did the total fade-out. Never saw her again. Her account was deleted as well.

 

This told me that, though "Chemistry" does exist, I think it's simply overrated.

 

 

Done. Over it. Here has been my experiences up to this point.

 

First girl I met online. One date. It went well. First one since my divorce. Kiss at the end. Told her its been a while since I kissed another girl (obviously) so I hope it was ok. She said yes. Next day we text. I send about two simply describing some of my hobbies and what I liked about her. Simple things. Nothing heavy. She tells me that it was a turn off that I asked if the kiss was ok and told me I lacked confidence. Done.

 

Second girl. Talked for a week. Took her out and she got hammered off of 75 bucks, acted like a jerk and left. My car was parked at her place and I walked back to it myself. She texts me the next day "I guess I was a jerk last night. Oh well. It happens." Done.

 

Third girl. Had a nice dinner. 90 bucks. No chemistry. Not so sour over that one. She was cool. But from what could tell, she dates alot. Done.

 

Fourth girl. Ended up being a four month deal. But for those four months all I heard about was her kids, her kids and nothing but sexting. As soon as I tried sparking some romantic emotion into it, she avoided me. No thanks. Done.

 

Fifth is the exception to online. Met her outside. She was addicted to Adderall, texted at 3am, never appreciated ant gesture of romance and was so vain it drove me nuts. All about the sex though. Done.

 

Sixth girl never saw a date. She called me, had a great 2 hour conversation. Told me she would talk to me tomorrow. Never called. Texted and said she had a court that morning, her dad had to go to the hospital and she left her phone there. Bull. Done.

 

And now this one. The one I actually like. She is so guarded from being treated like crap, I can't get a conversation about us out of her. She likes me. We are attracted to each other. But she's fading and fading fast. Mostly everything is text. We will see each other on Sat but by then it might be too late. Today she did nothing but complain about everything going on in her life. She tells me I'm blind for calling her beautiful and tells me she must be flawed because guys have treated her like crap. I'm half done so far. I'm not texting a single thing tomorrow. Let her come after me now. Screw this game. I'm not playing this validation crap.

 

Damn right my patience is run out. I'm getting to old for this crap. OLD is bye bye. Time to take my chances out in the real world, the way it should be.

[Dallers]

The important thing with OLD is this.

 

1. Always make OLD a way to improve you. While you are busy with your own life and making you better use OLD as a way to test your progress.

2. Do not have any emotion or feeling that you intend to allow someone from OLD to touch.

3. Go in with no expectation and expect it to always be a one night stand.

4. Do not care.

5. Do not listen to what other people say.

 

Honestly all that stuff she said about you is nothing. She is just playing with you and testing you. I am confident in myself to know I am pretty damn good when it comes to the ladies but it means NOTHING. I still get chucked like everyone else and still get the same mouthy crap because OLD is full of people who are insecure and there to waste your time. Treat it like any other app that will expire and get boring with time not the only way to find a partner.

 

Used correctly OLD can be a great tool for self esteem. But desperation and need from OLD shows that you need to work on you because you have a lot of areas that need improvement.

[Toodaloo]

The important thing with OLD is this.

 

1. Always make OLD a way to improve you. While you are busy with your own life and making you better use OLD as a way to test your progress.

2. Do not have any emotion or feeling that you intend to allow someone from OLD to touch.

3. Go in with no expectation and expect it to always be a one night stand.

4. Do not care.

5. Do not listen to what other people say.

 

Honestly all that stuff she said about you is nothing. She is just playing with you and testing you. I am confident in myself to know I am pretty damn good when it comes to the ladies but it means NOTHING. I still get chucked like everyone else and still get the same mouthy crap because OLD is full of people who are insecure and there to waste your time. Treat it like any other app that will expire and get boring with time not the only way to find a partner.

 

Used correctly OLD can be a great tool for self esteem. But desperation and need from OLD shows that you need to work on you because you have a lot of areas that need improvement.

 

I really like this post.

 

OLD is rubbish to be honest. I am sure that there must be some normal people out there but I sure as heck haven't found any of them yet either that or they just assume that I am another freaky lady and will not talk to me

 

Either way I just can't be bothered with it. It would appear that people are rude on there for no better reason than they can be. Enough already.

 

Its back out into the real wide world for me and to heck with it. I followed all the advice about messages etc. I have checked to ensure that I do not look like the back end of a bus and was told by people who are bluntly honest that no I do not... On several occasions in real life I have been hit on by chaps that are "out of my league" - sadly I haven't noticed until its pointed out to me later. So this is going to be my game plan. Learn to notice when a chap is hitting on me and not just chatting because he is just being nice! I am sure I am going to make mistakes along the way but what the heck.

[elaine567]

In several occasions in real life I have been hit on by chaps that are "out of my league" - sadly I haven't noticed until its pointed out to me later. So this is going to be my game plan. Learn to notice when a chap is hitting on me and not just chatting because he is just being nice! I am sure I am going to make mistakes along the way but what the heck.

 

I believe that failing to read signs accurately is a huge problem for loads of people trying to find a partner.

Their radar is off, it needs re-calibrated.

They either misinterpret naturally friendly people as "being a sure thing" and get sorely disappointed or they fail to see someone bending over themselves to be noticed and write them off as "he/she is just not into me." or as in your case "out of my league".

 

I feel texting causes chaos too, it is so open to misinterpretation it is laughable.

At least face to face or on a call there are some clues as to how a person feels, but texting...

[central]

I had to meet over 50 apparently compatible women to find a few I wanted to continue dating. You can't expect great results quickly - unless you get very lucky. After all, most people you meet aren't really compatible, so it takes time and many dates to find one who is.

[Toodaloo]

I believe that failing to read signs accurately is a huge problem for loads of people trying to find a partner.

Their radar is off, it needs re-calibrated.

They either misinterpret naturally friendly people as "being a sure thing" and get sorely disappointed or they fail to see someone bending over themselves to be noticed and write them off as "he/she is just not into me." or as in your case "out of my league".

 

I feel texting causes chaos too, it is so open to misinterpretation it is laughable.

At least face to face or on a call there are some clues as to how a person feels, but texting...

 

I am useless at reading the signs... Unless its pinned to their forehead flashing brightly like a neon strip bar style sign!!!

 

Problem is at my age is that most people (men and women) are already married or in relationships. Really do not want to go there... So I always assume that everyone is taken unless they tell me directly that they are not!

 

Another problem is that I flirt and natter with EVERYONE. Regardless of age gender etc. Had a lovely conversation with an older lady in the super market the other day because she was wearing a stunning skirt and just looked so beautiful so I told her. So I always think if someone natters back that they are just being nice and a bit daft like myself... It doesn't occur to me that they may be trying to chat me up... Always been like it. No idea how to change it but am going to give it a go. So annoying when the people I am with point it out several hours/ days later instead of there and then!

 

Either way far better than this OLD thing and do not get me started on texting... gah I hate it.

[nofeelings22]

Why are you spending so much money on your dates? Goodness.

 

 

It's all relative. I've spent a grand on a date several times in NY and Miami.

 

Depends where you are. Midwest? A lot more reasonable.

[Dallers]

I really like this post.

 

OLD is rubbish to be honest. I am sure that there must be some normal people out there but I sure as heck haven't found any of them yet either that or they just assume that I am another freaky lady and will not talk to me

 

Either way I just can't be bothered with it. It would appear that people are rude on there for no better reason than they can be. Enough already.

 

Its back out into the real wide world for me and to heck with it. I followed all the advice about messages etc. I have checked to ensure that I do not look like the back end of a bus and was told by people who are bluntly honest that no I do not... On several occasions in real life I have been hit on by chaps that are "out of my league" - sadly I haven't noticed until its pointed out to me later. So this is going to be my game plan. Learn to notice when a chap is hitting on me and not just chatting because he is just being nice! I am sure I am going to make mistakes along the way but what the heck.

 

There is no right or wrong..

There is no league that you are out of..

There is no person on this planet that is better than the next..

 

There is just the right time at the right place. OLD is the wrong time every time.

 

It has become a playground of the wrong people dancing together with as much make-up on as possible trying to prove that they are worth more than each other so that they can lie, cheat and continue to live in a fantasy world while letting the other person chase endlessly and still have options.

 

We are just normal people trying to understand what is wrong with us because we are unable to adapt to this modern world which is.. such a mess.

 

Laugh about it, never let it get to you. x

[Toodaloo]

It's all relative. I've spent a grand on a date several times in NY and Miami.

 

Depends where you are. Midwest? A lot more reasonable.

 

I have eaten in restaurants the Royal family frequent and they do not cost that much for a party of 6...! Heck I plan to take my Granny there soon...

 

No Feelings your wasting your money mate!

 

OK I am not in London but a meal at the finest local hotel (Several of your presidents have stayed there regularly when in the UK it is that exclusive) doesn't cost that much for a party of 4, three courses, with wine...

[Toodaloo]

Laugh about it, never let it get to you. x

 

Oh I do!

 

My exes include lawyers, doctors, models etc... They are just the ones I got rid of!

 

The last ex was *how to put it politely* the ugliest and stupidest of the bunch... I quite liked the simplicity of it at the time, until the simplicity became a chore... it would never have lasted. Even still several women have asked if I would mind them taking a shot (go ahead and good luck as he is not what he was last time you saw him...).

 

Just makes me laugh that these guys are snubbing their nose at someone who is lovely to all (unless there is a reason not to be), independent and secure (most of the time!)... Scrubs up well and looks darn fine in a ball gown (no pics of that), that is safe to introduce to mother and has a knack of making people feel like a million bucks. Simply because they do not want to say hello. I can't be insulted as they have no idea who I am!

 

I am not into all that mind feckery so I shall leave them to it. If that means I have to start buying copious numbers of cats and wearing angora hats then so be it. At least I will be happy. Suggest anyone remotely normal do the same.

[Jules Dash]

I believe that failing to read signs accurately is a huge problem for loads of people trying to find a partner.

Their radar is off, it needs re-calibrated.

They either misinterpret naturally friendly people as "being a sure thing" and get sorely disappointed or they fail to see someone bending over themselves to be noticed and write them off as "he/she is just not into me." or as in your case "out of my league".

 

I feel texting causes chaos too, it is so open to misinterpretation it is laughable.

At least face to face or on a call there are some clues as to how a person feels, but texting...

 

This brief post really says so much.

 

Picking up on signs does not necessarily mean you have to flee every time you see a flag, it just means to be aware and keeps things in proper perspective in regards to want you want or looking for in a date.

 

I think the OP is just frustrated. Everyone becomes frustrated at some point in dating no matter whether it's online or offline. Sometimes you have to step back, take a breather and come back refreshed.

 

I just got into an exclusive relationship with someone I met online almost 4 months ago. We have such polar opposite views (we laugh about it) on so many things but we always have a great time, enjoy each other's company, laugh a lot, respect each other and otherwise have great chemistry. I want to try a relationship because she is a great person and I really like her but I am keeping things in perspective. We do look at a lot of things differently but it is worth a try. If it doesn't work out, I will be prepared for that. I think you just have to have this approach and keep your radar on but don't let it stop you from having fun and building new relationships. Monitor the frustration level hard well.

[elaine567]

I am not into all that mind feckery so I shall leave them to it. If that means I have to start buying copious numbers of cats and wearing angora hats then so be it. At least I will be happy. Suggest anyone remotely normal do the same.

 

NOT angora - very unethical and cruel, but the cats - tick.

[Detectingfreak]

Done. Over it. Here has been my experiences up to this point.

 

First girl I met online. One date. It went well. First one since my divorce. Kiss at the end. Told her its been a while since I kissed another girl (obviously) so I hope it was ok. She said yes. Next day we text. I send about two simply describing some of my hobbies and what I liked about her. Simple things. Nothing heavy. She tells me that it was a turn off that I asked if the kiss was ok and told me I lacked confidence. Done.

 

Second girl. Talked for a week. Took her out and she got hammered off of 75 bucks, acted like a jerk and left. My car was parked at her place and I walked back to it myself. She texts me the next day "I guess I was a jerk last night. Oh well. It happens." Done.

 

Third girl. Had a nice dinner. 90 bucks. No chemistry. Not so sour over that one. She was cool. But from what could tell, she dates alot. Done.

 

Fourth girl. Ended up being a four month deal. But for those four months all I heard about was her kids, her kids and nothing but sexting. As soon as I tried sparking some romantic emotion into it, she avoided me. No thanks. Done.

 

Fifth is the exception to online. Met her outside. She was addicted to Adderall, texted at 3am, never appreciated ant gesture of romance and was so vain it drove me nuts. All about the sex though. Done.

 

Sixth girl never saw a date. She called me, had a great 2 hour conversation. Told me she would talk to me tomorrow. Never called. Texted and said she had a court that morning, her dad had to go to the hospital and she left her phone there. Bull. Done.

 

And now this one. The one I actually like. She is so guarded from being treated like crap, I can't get a conversation about us out of her. She likes me. We are attracted to each other. But she's fading and fading fast. Mostly everything is text. We will see each other on Sat but by then it might be too late. Today she did nothing but complain about everything going on in her life. She tells me I'm blind for calling her beautiful and tells me she must be flawed because guys have treated her like crap. I'm half done so far. I'm not texting a single thing tomorrow. Let her come after me now. Screw this game. I'm not playing this validation crap.

 

Damn right my patience is run out. I'm getting to old for this crap. OLD is bye bye. Time to take my chances out in the real world, the way it should be.

 

 

This is how it was for me and thats why I hate OLD and want to warn many people about it. I started online dating after I broke up with my ex girlfriend of two years.

 

1st date with 1st girl - Took her to red robin and the bill was $40. Ended up finding out she was hardcore christian and didn't like weed. Texts slowly faded away after first date.

 

2nd date with 2nd girl - She came to my apartment! I dunno how I got her into doing that to be honest. I thought it was very odd. We made out a lot and then watched a movie on the couch. I was trying to be confident but then the next day I get a text saying that she was not okay with that. She was done with me. I told her well you should have told me I was going to fast if you were uncomfortable. Then we were finally done.

 

3rd date with third girl - With some gothic style girl. I gave her a chance. We met up in the historic district of my city and walked around and talked. She swore a lot, and bought her a meal for $15 at subway. We made out and I asked if that was okay and she said it was fine. Then she kept telling me how she went on a date with another guy who asked about making moves every time because he was nervous. Well that ended that date and I left. No texts or anything.

 

4th date with 4th girl - I ended up going on a date with a girl who had mental issues. I looked past them because she told me before hand. In person she wasn't that bad. She however, talked about her future a lot more then I did. She would talk about how she wanted all her kids home schooled. After almost planning a future with my ex girlfriend and having it all fall flat on my face. I was not about to start planning a future with anyone else. After a few texts she faded away and was done.

 

5th date with 5th girl - Tried to date a girl who had kids. Thought that at least they would have respect for not wasting someones time. Boy was I wrong. First date spent $70 going to the cheesecake factory with her and everything was fine. Second date, she brought her girlfriend along. I had to pay for both of them the whole time. We got high, drunk and smoked cigarettes. I never smoke a cigarette but the girl laced my weed with a swisher which was not okay. I also bought $40 worth of alcohol for us and on top of that her friend who was with us took the $40 worth of hard alcohol.

 

At the end of the date I was pretty much done. Dropped them both off at their place and never texted her again.

 

I had two other dates, with two other women, but they were so bad that I don't even remember. So people please read this thread and read both of our posts before you think about OLD. Also, this is why I am so byaist towards woman now. All they did was take my money and get a free meal. I didn't get anything from it. Now that is not right. I should at least get a friendship, but nothing.

Edited December 30, 2014 by Detectingfreak

[elaine567]

This is how it was for me and thats why I hate OLD and want to warn many people about it. I started online dating after I broke up with my ex girlfriend of two years.

 

1st date with 1st girl - Took her to red robin and the bill was $40. Ended up finding out she was hardcore christian and didn't like weed. Texts slowly faded away after first date.

 

2nd date with 2nd girl - She came to my apartment! I dunno how I got her into doing that to be honest. I thought it was very odd. We made out a lot and then watched a movie on the couch. I was trying to be confident but then the next day I get a text saying that she was not okay with that. She was done with me. I told her well you should have told me I was going to fast if you were uncomfortable. Then we were finally done.

 

3rd date with third girl - With some gothic style girl. I gave her a chance. We met up in the historic district of my city and walked around and talked. She swore a lot, and bought her a meal for $15 at subway. We made out and I asked if that was okay and she said it was fine. Then she kept telling me how she went on a date with another guy who asked about making moves every time because he was nervous. Well that ended that date and I left. No texts or anything.

 

4th date with 4th girl - I ended up going on a date with a girl who had mental issues. I looked past them because she told me before hand. In person she wasn't that bad. She however, talked about her future a lot more then I did. She would talk about how she wanted all her kids home schooled. After almost planning a future with my ex girlfriend and having it all fall flat on my face. I was not about to start planning a future with anyone else. After a few texts she faded away and was done.

 

5th date with 5th girl - Tried to date a girl who had kids. Thought that at least they would have respect for not wasting someones time. Boy was I wrong. First date spent $70 going to the cheesecake factory with her and everything was fine. Second date, she brought her girlfriend along. I had to pay for both of them the whole time. We got high, drunk and smoked cigarettes. I never smoke a cigarette but the girl laced my weed with a swisher which was not okay. I also bought $40 worth of alcohol for us and on top of that her friend who was with us took the $40 worth of hard alcohol.

 

At the end of the date I was pretty much done. Dropped them both off at their place and never texted her again.

 

I had two other dates, with two other women, but they were so bad that I don't even remember. So people please read this thread and read both of our posts before you think about OLD. Also, this is why I am so byaist towards woman now. All they did was take my money and get a free meal. I didn't get anything from it. Now that is not right. I should at least get a friendship, but nothing.

 

B-b-b-b-but none of those people, apart (maybe) from the hardcore Christian (not liking weed is hardly an offence and I know little else about her), could be seen in a million years as being normal women.

A few phone calls with each over about a week, would have sorted all that incompatiblity out for you, and you wouldn't have had to spend a penny on meals and drink.

[Rydo]

I think its weird you remember how much money you spent. I dont remember what I spent on lunch 2 hours ago.