Gloria25 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Persistent questioners fall into 2 categories: the social awkward person who doesn't realize where to draw the line when following the advice to be interested in the other person or the professional (lawyer or journalist) who just does this out of habit. Gently but firmly tell the pest, I mean persistent questioner, that he needs to back off & power down. Give him a bit of a break / the benefit of the doubt until you actually meet. It's tough to maintain witty & charming via e-mail / text. Go to the 1st meeting sooner rather than later & see if he's any better in person. Agreed, give him a chance - or two. OLD often makes us wanna diss people quickly. If he persists, then that's probably his personality and would be difficult to deal with. I hate being "interviewed" or "interrogated" too. I often worry about what will happen once I get past the initial stages of "getting to know each other" cuz, I'm sure I'm gonna bore the heck out of him...lol. I like to let things develop slowly and naturally. Of the few times I engaged in endless banter via text, phone, or even e-mail - especially before a first meet - it usually didn't work out. I guess it was cuz you are already bummed out from all the contact so soon, so quick.
Gloria25 Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Trust its for the best i have milk allergy, heart problems and cant have kids. No one wants someone as damaged goods as me. Its better then having a gf like i did complain about everything including not going anywhere out tk eat when we went to new places every week and also complaing about not being able to HAve kids and saying like its my fault when i was born with all that stuff. At least you have a better chance and im rooting for you to find someone i got to have a 2 year relationship and sex. Both were on my bucket list for life accomplishments Not to hijack this thread - but no one is saying the "chatty guy" is damaged goods, he's just not a "match" for the OP. I'm sure there's someone out there who he'd probably click with. BTW, did you ever consider alternate substitutions for "milk"? Can't recall when I last drank milk on the regular. I've been drinking Silk soy milk for years. I even read in the "Skinny B" something I suspected for the longest - which is, we don't need milk after our formative years (as a child). We can get what we need from milk from other sources. I really think that's why a lot of people have lactose issues. I still eat ice cream, but small amounts. I also use milk once in a while for cooking.
LookAtThisPOst Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 What I am having a hard time understanding is...after having given up on the "tall, dark and handsome" types as you consider them a "fantasy" at this time in your life....you seem to tie into the "Men you would have never dated before." into some kind of nagging questioner? Not sure if this is a completely different conversation. Hey all, So after having a date with a guy beginning of December, which seems to have run its course, I think (you can read about it here), I decided to try PoF once more. I know . .I know, I really should give it up, but my friend who met her now husband, met him online and keeps encouraging me to keep at it. PoF I know perhaps not being one of the great sites to join but hey ho. Anyway 2 x guys messaged me a few days ago, both not really my cup of tea, but I thought I need to broaden my horizons, in terms of ditching the ideal man ''Tall, Dark, Handsome'' which is nothing more than a fantasy I think and date men I would never go for. I have been nattering with both for a couple of days, and both seem very keen to meet, which is no problem. However out of the 2, one just seems to persistently message, to the point where I feel a bit suffocated? It's no longer banter, more like a forced conversation which makes me think when/if I am to meet this man, will there be anything left to talk about? Not only that I feel like I am being interviewed - I do enough of that in my job, don't need it whilst dating. However the other guy I seem to click with quite well; 3 years older than myself (the persistent questioner is giving me 8 years), seems to get/understand my wit and sense of humour, and doesn't take himself seriously or bombard with me XYZ questions. So my question to you all is this - have any of you faced the persistent questioner? Bombarded with messages to the point where you can't think?? Look forward to hearing from you all PS: Oh, and I don't think I will go on a date with this guy . . it's all a bit too much! Don't quite know how to 'shake' him off politely though..suggestions? Or shall I do the 'fade out' technique? . .
Author DancinBallerina Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 What I am having a hard time understanding is...after having given up on the "tall, dark and handsome" types as you consider them a "fantasy" at this time in your life....you seem to tie into the "Men you would have never dated before." into some kind of nagging questioner? Not sure if this is a completely different conversation. You've completely misunderstood what I've written. My type of man is tall, dark and handsome, meaning I don't usually date men who are shorter than 6ft (I'm 5ft 9). Usually they're dark in terms of hair and eye colour, & are pretty decent. These blokes I've chatted to aren't my usual type meaning the persistent guy was blonde and an inch taller than me, & the other one I'm still talking to is again an inch taller with brown hair and blue eyes. Many people have told me to ditch the 'tall dark handsome' guy as its nothing more than fantasy & I'm perhaps restricting myself to something that does not exist. So I have done that & the first bloke who is not my usual type so happens to be a persistent questioner! Hope that now clarifies any confusion for you.
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