tito1501 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I am 22 years old man, dating a girl for 2 months, she is 20. We haven't seen each other for 15 days now and we always text each other in What's App. However, 8 out of 10 times I am the one who starts texting and, when I do, she is very cheerful and we always have great conversations, she sends me pictures, says she misses me and wanted to be with me; altogether this is really awesome but I feel that it is not nice that she almost never starts talking to me. Last time we texted each other (I started as usual) was 2 days ago and since we said good night, she didn't send me anything, neither did I. I am trying to see if she misses me or starts something. I know that if I texted her now, she would be very nice and we would have a good talk but sometimes we need to make some effort to change the way things are. My question is, am I thinking in the right way? I feel that I cannot be always the one who needs to take the initiative here. I know I still have a lot to learn and I am sure you can help me with this issue.
most_distant_galaxy Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Yes, you're thinking the right way... Keep initiating now and then, and when she texts you first (2 of 10 times) tell her that you have an enormous smile because she thought of you. This will give her some reassurance, because she's probably afraid of appearing intrusive, clingy or easy.
coolheadal Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 So much texts! Don't you ever call to say hello instead and talk things out! Sounds all you do is text and nothing else. What happens when you go on a date? Does she talk to you or do you do all the talking? When you talk does she looks the other way? Next time when and if you do go on another date let her do the talking. As for the texts talk, cool down on that habit too. Every one text each other today but it would be nice to get a call from that person too. 1
Author tito1501 Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Yes, you're thinking the right way... Keep initiating now and then, and when she texts you first (2 of 10 times) tell her that you have an enormous smile because she thought of you. This will give her some reassurance, because she's probably afraid of appearing intrusive, clingy or easy. Thank you, I know this girl is not a player or something, but that is quite strange when she stays days without saying anything, so if I don't take the initiative, she won't either. Btw, when she texts me, I will tell her that
Author tito1501 Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 So much texts! Don't you ever call to say hello instead and talk things out! Sounds all you do is text and nothing else. What happens when you go on a date? Does she talk to you or do you do all the talking? When you talk does she looks the other way? Next time when and if you do go on another date let her do the talking. As for the texts talk, cool down on that habit too. Every one text each other today but it would be nice to get a call from that person too. everything is fine when we are in a date, we act normally, however, she doesn't like for example what's app audios because she doesn't like her voice, then I don't feel comfortable to call her, and we will be apart for a month only
Redhead14 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Yes, you're thinking the right way... Keep initiating now and then, and when she texts you first (2 of 10 times) tell her that you have an enormous smile because she thought of you. This will give her some reassurance, because she's probably afraid of appearing intrusive, clingy or easy. Yes, I agree with this. Everytime she does initiate, you make sure to thank her and tell her you appreciate it. At some point open a casual conversation about communication style, what your likes and dislikes are in general, nothing directed at her specifically. Then listen to what she says her likes and dislikes are. You may find that she's not really into texting, prefers phones calls, etc. If she knows you enjoy texting throughout the day especially when you haven't seen each other for a while, she may pick up the slack.
TB Rhine Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 You haven't seen each other in 15 days? Why? Maybe I'm old-fashioned but this doesn't strike me as a relationship that's going to go anywhere.
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 She may be very old fashioned & afraid of looking like she's chasing you. Call her. Stop texting. When you see her again. tell her you would like it if she would initiate.
Brooke02 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Not everyone likes to talk on the phone. They are in their early 20's, texting is the norm. A phone call now and then maybe, but stop texting? Come on. There is nothing wrong with texting.
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