ExtraSpice Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I was just curious as to people who are in relationships but differ greatly from their significant other. For example I am dating a girl right now whose personality is very different from my own. She is an extrovert whereas I am an introvert. She liked parties, concerts, meeting new people, social events and so on. I like those things as well but only with close friends. I am not the most comfortable when dropped in a gathering where I don't know anybody. She seems to flourish in those situations. I mean we get along pretty good, have had no issues really. But I wanted to know what other peoples experiences are. Did they have to make certain adjustments? Were they comfortable? Did something bother them and so on.
WonderWoman911 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I wouldn't say my significant other and I have different personalities, but I will say that we have different views on a lot of stuff. It can be political topics, music/entertainment topics, or just basic general news.We sometimes get into arguments about it. We would agree to disagree, then let it go.
aggie382 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 You sound like the guy I'm dating! I would suggest just trying to befriend her friends so that you never feel like you got dropped into something where you don't know anyone.
me85 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Hey man, opposites attract. It's a very healthy situation.
Author ExtraSpice Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 True opposites do attract. I am good with her friends so that def helps. Its just I am not exactly the textbook definition of cool so I feel somewhat lame sometimes or the need to be cool. But even I realize that is a very silly thought so I let it go. I just find it interesting how sometimes the image I have of myself gets influenced by the person I am seeing whether it be positive or negative. If anything her ability to socialize with people is impressive to me and slightly intimidating.
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Contrary to popular beliefs, opposites only attract in Physics (magnetism), as opposed to in Chemistry (relationships)
WonderWoman911 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 True opposites do attract. I am good with her friends so that def helps. Its just I am not exactly the textbook definition of cool so I feel somewhat lame sometimes or the need to be cool. But even I realize that is a very silly thought so I let it go. I just find it interesting how sometimes the image I have of myself gets influenced by the person I am seeing whether it be positive or negative. If anything her ability to socialize with people is impressive to me and slightly intimidating. Well since you do find her social skills impressive and slightly intimidating, why don't you ask her what makes her so comfortable around people,basically take notes from her about it. Also, probably the more you go out to different social gatherings you'll feel at ease. In addition, make sure that when the two of you go out places, she doesn't have you feeling left out. That can cause you to feel awkward and out of place.
Author ExtraSpice Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 I had thought about that so I decided to ask her. She said that she goes up to people and just starts conversation because that way they feel awkward instead of her. Which I suppose works for her lol. She said she doesn't like being that awkward person who is not talking to anyone at a party
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I think introverts & extroverts can compliment each other. One wants to talk while the other prefers to listen. DH is stoic & I'm a chatterbox. I am learning to listen more & he's learning to open up.
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