Scarlett_girl Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 hey all I have a friend that..anytime we are alone together..we land up in bed..it's already happened 3 times in the past month or so...I have nothing against it..cuz i'm physically attracted to him but not romantically..and i'm pretty sure he feels the same way..but now i'm not sure how to view our relationship..FWB? **** friends? casual lovers?? or maybe i should just not even attempt to define it?? and...another question..how would you go about discussing if this could become a regular thing??
Sckott Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Depending on how you feel about this sorta thing, FWB can wear thin in a short time, especially if two people aren't looking tword a real relationship. OK, we know the sex is good. How's the affection? Does he show he cares about you? If you needed a sholder or a friend, would he be there if you were in a tight situation? The number one cause of most "relationships" ending is when two people don't feel the same or aren't looking at the same goals. Enjoy it because it sounds like it's a happy thing for you, but also ask yourself what else you may want to make this pairing complete. HE may or may not want this. It's best to feel things out and communicate, especially if you're feeling something missing. Are you?
Author Scarlett_girl Posted March 25, 2005 Author Posted March 25, 2005 we have fun together..nothing serious..if I needed a shoulder to cry on or something I probably wouldnt turn to him..just because our friendship isnt like that..but ya...so far it's all fun...i'm enjoying it...
Hund1976 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 Well if you're cool with it don't rock the boat. I'm sure the guy is okay with it. If there was a girl I liked but she only wanted to use me for some casual sex I wouldn't complain. There are a lot worse deals then that out there!
Author Scarlett_girl Posted March 25, 2005 Author Posted March 25, 2005 hahahaha..well..if he likes me I woudnt mind trying something more with him..i'm just not dead set in love with him...u know???
fundamental Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 Scarlett_girl, It seems like you really do want something with this guy. Of course you are not in love with him because it's just the beginning of everything. You need to ask yourself how you really feel about this FWB thing. If you developed a better friendship with this guy, could he be someone for you? In most cases, it doesn't work and by the time it's over, you might realize that you do like him more than you thought.
Author Scarlett_girl Posted March 26, 2005 Author Posted March 26, 2005 if anything were to happen between us...it would only be very casual because I'm not interested in any type of real serious relationship...not at all..IF anything, something casual and fun..which is basially what we have already, we just havent talked about it yet.... one quick question..how would one go about finding out about his sexual history?? not that I want to know who and how many girls she slept with but i figure maybe i should know about any other people he is doing right now..std's..etc how do I go about asking for that info without sounding weird???
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