Trotters Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 If you seem distant etc, wont that push your spouse away even more?. It'll look like "you" don't care?.
oldshirt Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 The 180 is not reconciliation or a program to fix a broken relationship or to get someone back. It is designed to shield yourself and protect yourself from someone that is hurting you or treating you bad. It is a mechanism to disengage with someone and move forward with your life in the most healthy and efficient means possible. It is also a means to keep someone that you used to be involved with to you from being kept on a hook and manipulated by them. It's a means to preserve yourself in the face of being mistreated or a break up. That being said, sometimes when someone sees the person they cheated or or mistreated moving on with their life and doing well, sometimes they have a change of heart and want to come back but that is not the intent of the 180 or what it was designed for. If you want to remain together and reconcile, you need to state that up front. If someone rebuffs that attempt and/or continues their cheating or continues the break up process, that is when you employ the 180 and move on with your life without them. Don't confuse the 180 as a reconciliation process. It is a moving on process. 2
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