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E-Squared Established Member

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When do you draw the line in regards to age gaps? I am interested in some girl, but I found out recently she is 21, and I am 28. However, I am starting to wonder if I should try going for her. I still like her, but at the same time, I kind of wonder about the difference in age.

 

That isn't to say that I don't have other options. One is turning 25 really soon for example. However, people say that age is irrelevant in maturity level. I am mature enough, even though there are some things that I question my maturity on.

 

Friends of mine have told that age is only a number. I know a girl who is 22 and is dating someone who is about a decade older than she is. I've worked with someone who is 24 and her boyfriend is 33. Hell, my grandparents have an 11-year age gap, and they've been married for more than 50 years.

 

What's your stance on this? I am still in school by the way and I am at the point where I am finishing. However, I don't pursue women much over there because a lot of women I see are fresh out of high school.

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I wouldn't consider that an age gap to worry about. Personally, I draw the line when someone could have been my father or son. One of my exes was twelve years my senior. The age difference was not a factor in us splitting up. We did occasionally notice it, but it wasn't a general problem in our relationship.

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Divide your age in half and add 7 years...that's your limit. For you, that means to date anyone 21 and up :)

 

In more realistic terms, age difference matters less as you get older. If she's mature enough it'll be fine but you'll only find out by spending time with her.

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I don't remember the last time I dated someone that wasn't at least 8 years older than me. That tends to be my average. I wouldn't really worry about your age difference too much...

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I've always dated guys older than me.The least, the guy was five years older than me. The most, the guy was fifteen years older and I'm 25. I've always been mature so older guys don't worry about it.

Rydo Established Member

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I'm 30, the oldest girl ive dated is currently 26, the youngest ive accidently slept with is 18 in February, she was 16 at the time so about a 13.5 year age gap. I would say I average 9 years younger. I prefer a girl around 21 usually but I am currently dating someone at 25

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I don't find this age gap big at all. I'm 28 and I'd rather date men 22 to 32 years old. I could see myself falling for a much older man as well. I just don't tend to notice 40 year olds romantically most of the times. I've been immensely attracted to one or two though :love:.

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I'm 30, the oldest girl ive dated is currently 26, the youngest ive accidently slept with is 18 in February, she was 16 at the time so about a 13.5 year age gap. I would say I average 9 years younger. I prefer a girl around 21 usually but I am currently dating someone at 25

 

That's sketchy man...

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Rydo Established Member

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That's sketchy man...

 

Why? Is it worse than the women above who like older men?

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When I was 34 and I fell for a 22 year old man (35 and 23 now). The feeling is mutual :love: but unfortunately life circumstances have separated us for the moment.

 

It really depends on the people involved. I will say that I was surprised he was so young as he has an extremely mature bearing. Plus, I am very youthful and no one believes my age when I tell them. When we were together, we didn't "feel" the age difference at all.

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aggie382 Established Member

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Why? Is it worse than the women above who like older men?

 

You had sex with a 16 year old when you were 13.5 years older than her.

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aggie382 Established Member

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When do you draw the line in regards to age gaps? I am interested in some girl, but I found out recently she is 21, and I am 28. However, I am starting to wonder if I should try going for her. I still like her, but at the same time, I kind of wonder about the difference in age.

 

That isn't to say that I don't have other options. One is turning 25 really soon for example. However, people say that age is irrelevant in maturity level. I am mature enough, even though there are some things that I question my maturity on.

 

Friends of mine have told that age is only a number. I know a girl who is 22 and is dating someone who is about a decade older than she is. I've worked with someone who is 24 and her boyfriend is 33. Hell, my grandparents have an 11-year age gap, and they've been married for more than 50 years.

 

What's your stance on this? I am still in school by the way and I am at the point where I am finishing. However, I don't pursue women much over there because a lot of women I see are fresh out of high school.

 

A girl being 21 and a guy being 28, when both are still in school, isn't that big of a difference to worry about. You're in the same stage of life and are close in terms of maturity level.

 

She might not be into it though.

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Why? Is it worse than the women above who like older men?

 

That would peg you around 28 when you assumed she was 18. You are basically playing with fire and lucky you are not being charged with rape. Next time ask to see an I.D. Or something. But this is under the assumption you live I the U.S.

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You had sex with a 16 year old when you were 13.5 years older than her.

 

Yeh... So? There have been bigger age gaps mentioned in this very thread. Plus tbh she came on to me, I didn't ask her age til after. I only saw her a few more times after that, no fun seeing a girl you cant take to the pub.

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IMO .... its at who mature the individual(s) are ....

 

 

age is just a number ( in most cases )

Rydo Established Member

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That would peg you around 28 when you assumed she was 18. You are basically playing with fire and lucky you are not being charged with rape. Next time ask to see an I.D. Or something. But this is under the assumption you live I the U.S.

 

I was 29, I dont live in the US though.

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That would peg you around 28 when you assumed she was 18. You are basically playing with fire and lucky you are not being charged with rape. Next time ask to see an I.D. Or something. But this is under the assumption you live I the U.S.

 

No, he didn't think she was 18. She's turning 18, and he knew she was 16 when he slept with her.

Rydo Established Member

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No, he didn't think she was 18. She's turning 18, and he knew she was 16 when he slept with her.

 

Not the first time I didn't.

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I was 29, I dont live in the US though.

 

Ehhh, by the use of the word "pub" I'd say you live in Europe then where age of consent is around 16. God forbid you got her pregnant, a 13.5 year age difference is not a good situation for either of you. But it's your life man......

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WonderWoman911 Established Member

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Yeh... So? There have been bigger age gaps mentioned in this very thread. Plus tbh she came on to me, I didn't ask her age til after. I only saw her a few more times after that, no fun seeing a girl you cant take to the pub.

 

 

WOWWW!:mad:

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toscaroscura Established Member

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IMO once you are both adults, all age differences are fair game. But if someone is a minor (or could be one, and it doesn't take a genius to know that your partner is probably a teenager, especially when you are an adult), then it's indeed very sketchy.

aggie382 Established Member

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Not the first time I didn't.

 

Is it accurate that at some point you learned you were 13.5 years older than her and had sex with her again?

 

And she is currently 17, turning 18 in February. Is that right?

 

What country are you in?

aggie382 Established Member

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There's scientific research out there that clearly shows a teenager's brain is not yet fully developed and thus they are not able to fully appreciate their choices, and the choices they do make can literally affect their brain, changing it forever.

 

Reason number 6000 to not have sex with a teenager at 29 years old.

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Rydo Established Member

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Yep I learned I was 13.5 years older than her. Yes I'm from Europe where only turkey has an age of consent of 18, the rest vary between 13-16 the age of consent in my country is 16. Of course I knew she was a teenager from the start but she was drinking so I assumed 18 as that's technically when we are allowed to drink in this country.

 

Would you feel better if I married her? You can get married at 16 here too. :rolleyes:

 

The USA isnt the centre of earth people...

Rydo Established Member

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There's scientific research out there that clearly shows a teenager's brain is not yet fully developed and thus they are not able to fully appreciate their choices, and the choices they do make can literally affect their brain, changing it forever.

 

Reason number 6000 to not have sex with a teenager at 29 years old.

 

Brilliant. Is it peer reviewed and where can I read it?

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