Author chatsy Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Happy new year everyone. I can't get my head round something. Now she is exposed her family are all angry with me. For having found out and cause me of spying on her. The fact that she had an affair and left me is not the issue for them. The fact that she messed my sons life up is not an issue. Now I am even getting indirect threats via Facebook from her brother.
road Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Happy new year everyone. I can't get my head round something. Now she is exposed her family are all angry with me. For having found out and cause me of spying on her. The fact that she had an affair and left me is not the issue for them. The fact that she messed my sons life up is not an issue. Now I am even getting indirect threats via Facebook from her brother. Sit tight. Avoid debates such as her brother. The key to exposing is to not tell how you got the info. Simply respond is why are they angry with you it is your WW that had the affair. 1
sandylee1 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Happy new year everyone. I can't get my head round something. Now she is exposed her family are all angry with me. For having found out and cause me of spying on her. The fact that she had an affair and left me is not the issue for them. The fact that she messed my sons life up is not an issue. Now I am even getting indirect threats via Facebook from her brother. That's ridiculous of them to try and blame you. Ignore their stupidity and block her brother on fb. How dare he threaten you for exposing her affair. They should be embarrassed at her behaviour and supportive of what your going through. If anything I'd tell them sorry the Truth of their daughters/ sister's behaviour is causing them to lay the blame at your feet. I think they really are embarrassed and are thinking about her reputation, but you know what 'tough s**t'. Not your problem. If you cheated and were exposed I bet they would have no problem with it all getting out. I just hope they don't start bad mouthing you, especially to your son. Happy New year and sorry you continue to deal with this situation. Be tough and stay strong. It will get better and while it may be the furthest thing from your mind right now, you will find someone who loves and treats you right.
oldshirt Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Happy new year everyone. I can't get my head round something. Now she is exposed her family are all angry with me. For having found out and cause me of spying on her. The fact that she had an affair and left me is not the issue for them. The fact that she messed my sons life up is not an issue. Now I am even getting indirect threats via Facebook from her brother. The reason for disclosing her affair to her family is so that they know the truth of why you aren't together and so she can't pin everything on you and come off looking as the sweet innocent victim and you looking as some evil monster. It is not so that they rally around you and persecute her. 99% of the time they are going to stand behind her in some fashion. They are inappropriately lashing out at you out of embarrassment and shame. They would much rather you just fade away into the background and not say a word about her bad behavior. If they are acting this way, just leave them be and go on about your own business. If someone sincerely wants to know the truth you can be forthcoming and factual and objective about what took place and show them whatever corroborating evidence you have (don't let them take it or destroy it) and go on about your business. They aren't your family and aren't your friends. Protect yourself from them as you would protect yourself from her. Their inappropriate behavior will give you some insight as to her background and her character as well. 1
Oberfeldwebel Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Happy new year everyone. I can't get my head round something. Now she is exposed her family are all angry with me. For having found out and cause me of spying on her. The fact that she had an affair and left me is not the issue for them. The fact that she messed my sons life up is not an issue. Now I am even getting indirect threats via Facebook from her brother. Delete all of her family from FB, they are not your friends, buddy, pals, they are ex-inlaws and there is no need to engage them any further. Take care of the the legal issues as swiftly as possible, while she is still in the fog of the affair. Otherwise concentrate on you and your son. Exercise is good to help relieve the stress and makes a healthier you. Plan lots of fun things with you and son. Don't call STBX unless necessary. Use email to communicate and save copies of communication. Don't let her drag you into a fight, make it all business. The woman that you knew is gone and replaced by this other person. Keep your head about you and act swiftly and decisively. 1
spanz1 Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 As for what I am trying to discuss and get a lawyer, I have got one and the ball is rolling to fight for the best custody option and divorce proceedings. . excellent, good for you. as far as the bother in law threatening you, you need to go to the police and tell them. This is in case the brother in law actually DOES come to your house, and a fight ensues...you want a previous record of his threats and you being open with the police about the whole incident. Also, if you have a handgun, this is a good time to start concealed carrying it all the time.
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