nofeelings22 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 This is unbelievable. After an inbox and Meet Me section filled with horribly out of shape, uninteresting people, a true rarity found me!! She is 5"4, in absolutely perfect shape, cute, sane and has set her life up around travel! What a breath of fresh air for online dating. Wow. We are still getting to know each other, but I've never felt this type of compatibility. She prefers BACKPACKING Europe, which screams down to Earth. Very excited. Will update this thread on how I blow it. 2
Andy_K Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I always find the ones who say they love to travel are virtually undateable, but there's an exception to every rule. Good luck! 3
Rydo Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Ive set my profile on pof to hidden currently. So everyone else can expect to get more interest from now on 2
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 @OP...Sounds like you are besides yourself, but calm down and take it slow. Everything you described is just words used to bait. Hopefully she is "sane", as that means a lot in a relationship. You've only got to read some posts on here to see what the length some people will go, and their thinking faculty. Remember, there is plenty more in that sea 3
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 I always find the ones who say they love to travel are virtually undateable, but there's an exception to every rule. Good luck! Thanks! I think I'm the guy version of the undateable traveler. I can't even count how many times I've left and the girl was too stuck in her local life to come with me. I need someone with no ties and a want to see new things. This is the first attractive, compatible one to come along in a huge number of girls I've seen in the past year. She's also in her 30's! Like... perfect on paper. We'll see though... It's just exciting to know one actually exists.... 1
Otter2569 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Excellent! The woman I am dating now is from POF - she is amazing! You have to wade through a lot of garbage but Iv'e had very good luck on that site. Ironically all the pay sites like Match and Eharmony completely suck. I was warned from people that were on both that POF was way better plus its free. In a dry spell I joined a pay site and guess what - it sucked. Plus they sold my name to every other pay site so I received dozens of unwanted email. POF is the way to go!! 1
Satu Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I'm very happy for you, but remember to check if she can cross running water and that she shows a reflection in the mirror. Can't be too careful these days. 3
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Did you meet her yet? Not yet. I've been through at least a baker's dozen girls in 2014 with nobody free enough to travel or compatible enough. Lost count. This one found me through the common interests on POF and has everything I'm looking for. First one since I've been divorced that I actually feel 100% compatible with. I'm genuinely excited to get to know her and meet up. We are 10 hours apart. Just took it to text. Will be suggesting a meet up soon. I have to explore this one fully. 1
toscaroscura Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Not yet. I've been through at least a baker's dozen girls in 2014 with nobody free enough to travel or compatible enough. Lost count. This one found me through the common interests on POF and has everything I'm looking for. First one since I've been divorced that I actually feel 100% compatible with. I'm genuinely excited to get to know her and meet up. We are 10 hours apart. Just took it to text. Will be suggesting a meet up soon. I have to explore this one fully. I know you're super excited and stuff, and I don't want to be a Debbie Downer, but slow down! 100% compatible based on a POF profile and you haven't even met yet? Your expectations are sky high and the possible disappointment will be crushing. What people present online is but a tiny infinitesimal fraction of who they actually are. But good luck! 2
mammasita Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Good luck! Its very possible to meet someone on line.....even *gasp* POF lol. I met my man on POF - its been over a year now. 1
organizedchaos Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Not yet. I've been through at least a baker's dozen girls in 2014 with nobody free enough to travel or compatible enough. Lost count. This one found me through the common interests on POF and has everything I'm looking for. First one since I've been divorced that I actually feel 100% compatible with. I'm genuinely excited to get to know her and meet up. We are 10 hours apart. Just took it to text. Will be suggesting a meet up soon. I have to explore this one fully. Chill man. You're building her up way too much before meeting. But the bigger question: you are 10 hours apart??? How are you planning to meet and develop a relationship?
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 Chaos... we are travelers. Location is irrelevant. If we join up, we would both leave our current locations anyway. So we texted for about 3 hours tonight. She is coming the 10 hours away from her current location to see me, staying with a family member at first (our first date, so that's appropriate). This girl is off the charts compatibility wise. It's very exciting. I've never met someone who was so compatible before. Ever. Not even my ex wife. This is a whole new level.
Diezel Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 That is a pretty tall pedestal you've built so far. 3
Toodaloo Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 That is a pretty tall pedestal you've built so far. Can't help but think this... Please be careful...
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 That is a pretty tall pedestal you've built so far. I wouldn't say that. A pedestal is when you think somebody is better than you, that they can do no wrong, that they are some kind of God. This is called being excited. Excited after screwing soooo many chicks that weren't cool or compatible, about someone I actually have compatibility with. I'm not a boring person. I don't sit around stoically theorizing about things like this. I dive right in with passion and excitement. My new Buddhist style relationship philosophy is that they will all end, through breakups or death, so why worry about that? Why care? Why "desire" an infinitely long relationship? There is a new girl right around the corner at all times. So... have fun and be in the moment with someone now. After being in an 18-23 year old age group for 2 years now and finding little lifestyle compatibility, I'm damn excited to have met a hot, thin, muscular, in shape, 32 year old registered nurse who is free to drop everything and travel indefinitely. Someone who understands no kids, perpetual travel and has a lot of the same views I do. A female me. There is no reason not to be excited about that!
elaine567 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 After being in an 18-23 year old age group for 2 years now and finding little lifestyle compatibility.. But how could there be? ...They are a different generation from you. Hope it all goes well for you.
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 But how could there be? ...They are a different generation from you. Hope it all goes well for you. Actually, im very compatible with that age group, except i want more than the average woman can deliver. I want cool, adventurous, a traveler and someone who has no ties keeping them from wandering the globe with me. This, is incredibly rare in all the age groups. Has zero to do with generational differences. I am usually quite incompatible with women in my age group.
newlyborn Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Actually, im very compatible with that age group, except i want more than the average woman can deliver. I want cool, adventurous, a traveler and someone who has no ties keeping them from wandering the globe with me. This, is incredibly rare in all the age groups. Has zero to do with generational differences. I am usually quite incompatible with women in my age group. aren't most 18-23 year-olds untethered to place, partner, family? most could travel the world with you. and most universities have study abroad and summer programs that facilitate world travel fairly cheaply for that age group. congrats, by the way, on the new compatible woman!
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 aren't most 18-23 year-olds untethered to place, partner, family? most could travel the world with you. and most universities have study abroad and summer programs that facilitate world travel fairly cheaply for that age group. congrats, by the way, on the new compatible woman! That was my theory too! As it turns out, they are stuck, like most everyone else. They enjoy a sense of community, familiar surroundings, have jobs or college keeping them in one spot. Many also want to be near family. And thanks!!
SunnySide0418 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Screw that. I am wildly successful with getting girls in a dating sense. I'm sure I wouldn't be if I used the phone. I use text at first, then go right to meeting in person. Phones are annoying and impersonal. They are awkward and don't allow you to see the reactions of someone you are having a real time conversation with. I don't use phones. I completely disagree with this philosophy. You can tell a lot by speaking with someone even over the phone. You can be texting to anyone .. at least have a convo prior to meeting. What if you can't stand each others personalities? I have had many great text conversations only to be disappointed when talking on the phone. Just my 2cents. Best of luck to you!
Author nofeelings22 Posted December 30, 2014 Author Posted December 30, 2014 (edited) I have had many great text conversations only to be disappointed when talking on the phone. Just my 2cents. Best of luck to you! Don't you realize you probably blew many potential relationships with these bad phone calls? You should just meet them in person, so you can get a better feel for them. At the point in the courtship where you call them, I'm already sitting at a bar or restaurant with them (on the same side of the table). I can safely say there has never once, in my entire dating life, not been a second date wanted by the girl. If it works, why change it? Edited December 30, 2014 by nofeelings22
Detectingfreak Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I always find the ones who say they love to travel are virtually undateable, but there's an exception to every rule. Good luck! People who like to travel a lot or think of themselves elsewhere have no time to date. I refuse to date people who want to go away and get their masters degrees. I would prefer to date a woman who wants to be a stay at home mom or at least go to school in the same area. If your planning on gettinng your masters degree that is a deal breaker immediatly. Same goes for traveling unless your planning on bringing me.
Diezel Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 A pedestal is when you think somebody is better than you, that they can do no wrong, that they are some kind of God. Have you read your own thread? 2
Frivolous Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 This is unbelievable. After an inbox and Meet Me section filled with horribly out of shape, uninteresting people, a true rarity found me!! She is 5"4, in absolutely perfect shape, cute, sane and has set her life up around travel! What a breath of fresh air for online dating. Wow. We are still getting to know each other, but I've never felt this type of compatibility. She prefers BACKPACKING Europe, which screams down to Earth. Very excited. Will update this thread on how I blow it. Man that's great i feel really excited for you as I feel pretty much in the same dating boat. After lots of online dating it feels like compatibility becomes more important than anything so I understand your excitement. Just getting a message from "normal" type of girl the other day fot me going haha. Best of luck!
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