Didn'tknow Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Can I get some advice on this please? I was with my ex for 3 years, only ended a few days ago. She said she still loves me, her feelings haven't changed but she needs to be alone and it feels like the right thing for her to do right now. She just started college in September and she said the thought of being so young and in a such a serious relationship at such a young age was frightening her. She said it's not about seeing other people either. She wants to work on herself, she doesn't want to be so dependant on me (she was kind of dependent). I could see it eating her up as she tried to make a decision. She felt she didn't want to leave me but she had to for her own sake. I watched as she had a war in her mind on what to do and what the right decision was and she was just as upset as I was about all this. I do actually believe her that her feelings haven't changed for me but her need to be alone and be her own person matter more to her right now. For this reason I do think there is a chance in the future we may reconcile (also we never had any problems in our relationship really) Now I did make one mistake, I text her the day after the breakup and said "I know we shouldn't speak but it's very difficult and I was wondering if you're ok? Just one text back is fine and I'll try harder not to text again after this one" to which she replied "I'm doing as okay as can be expected. Thank you for the concern. I hope you're ok as well". I haven't done anything else besides that. Is this a major blunder on the no contact rule or is it ok because it was only the day after the break up and just a minor text?
mineral27 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 You two were together for 3 years, she knows you well - one peaceful text you happened to send a day after the break up won't make her think any less of you. 1
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