Otter2569 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 My new GF of 8 months want pics of my old GF deleted from Facebook. Its funny because new GF is not even on Facebook but must have been looking through my page with her friend and saw them. There were only a few pics from parties etc and I did deleted them without an issue. My last GF (the deleted one) was crazy jealous. I mean CRAZY jealous and I swore I wouldn't put up with that crap ever again. The new GF is amazing and other than asking me to delete the ex from my phone and Facebook she has been great. For a while the ex was commenting on my FB posts, texting me to go out and wanting to come over when she was out drinking so I don't think the requests to block this chic were unreasonable?!
WonderWoman911 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 It's reasonable for your new GF to want you to get rid of the pictures of your ex. If you're in this new relationship, why are still holding on to the ex? And even still texting you? You've been in this current relationship for 8 months and the old GF is still in the picture?The old GF will be the downfall for your current relationship. You already said your new GF is amazing, so why mess up a good thing. On the flipside, Im not sure if you're replying back to your old GF texts or FB posts,because you can be leading her on. 7
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 (edited) I get it, she shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable like that.. no different than having a picture in a frame on the nightstand... You should delete them.. but if you want to save them pull them off of FB and archive them to a disk.. I think everybody has a past and as such you shouldn't get rid of the past but it needs to be put in the past and not the present.. old pictures should find themselves into shoe boxes etc etc... Edited December 29, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 6
Winterina Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 You did the right thing for the health of your relationship by deleting your ex and stopping contact. 3
Author Otter2569 Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Wonderwoman, I never initiated contact after breaking it off with the ex. Every time she asked how things were going with the new GF I said great. Every time she wanted to come over in the middle of the night or wanted to meet for drinks I either said no or ignored the message all together. She could also see on Facebook that things were going well. The ex is deleted from my phone and FB. I do not want to ruin the great thing I have going 1
Satu Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Wonderwoman, I never initiated contact after breaking it off with the ex. Every time she asked how things were going with the new GF I said great. Every time she wanted to come over in the middle of the night or wanted to meet for drinks I either said no or ignored the message all together. She could also see on Facebook that things were going well. The ex is deleted from my phone and FB. I do not want to ruin the great thing I have going You did the right thing - well done
Els Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 For a while the ex was commenting on my FB posts, texting me to go out and wanting to come over when she was out drinking so I don't think the requests to block this chic were unreasonable?! Absolutely not unreasonable! IMO you should have actually put a stop to this without needing your current gf to request for it. Old pics is one thing - allowing an ex to keep texting you about coming over to your place is another thing entirely. I'm glad you've blocked her, it was certainly the right thing to do. 3
WonderWoman911 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Wonderwoman, I never initiated contact after breaking it off with the ex. Every time she asked how things were going with the new GF I said great. Every time she wanted to come over in the middle of the night or wanted to meet for drinks I either said no or ignored the message all together. She could also see on Facebook that things were going well. The ex is deleted from my phone and FB. I do not want to ruin the great thing I have going Good job;)
soyou Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Wonderwoman, I never initiated contact after breaking it off with the ex. Every time she asked how things were going with the new GF I said great. Every time she wanted to come over in the middle of the night or wanted to meet for drinks I either said no or ignored the message all together. She could also see on Facebook that things were going well. The ex is deleted from my phone and FB. I do not want to ruin the great thing I have going GOOD JOB! I'M PROUD OF YOU Such a smart man. I hope that my future boyfriend will be this smart too. Otherwise, I will have to come on loveshack and create a thread about him not deleting his ex pictures on FB or still being in contact with her ;-) 2
sm2281 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 (edited) My new GF of 8 months want pics of my old GF deleted from Facebook. Its funny because new GF is not even on Facebook but must have been looking through my page with her friend and saw them. There were only a few pics from parties etc and I did deleted them without an issue. My last GF (the deleted one) was crazy jealous. I mean CRAZY jealous and I swore I wouldn't put up with that crap ever again. The new GF is amazing and other than asking me to delete the ex from my phone and Facebook she has been great. For a while the ex was commenting on my FB posts, texting me to go out and wanting to come over when she was out drinking so I don't think the requests to block this chic were unreasonable?! I had the same problem with my boyfriend. I wanted him to delete his ex gf pics. It's not that I was jealous....if your current is having a huge jealous issue pay attention to the red flags. . . But anyway, I wasn't jealous, but I found it to be disrespectful to my current relationship for him to have pictures of his ex up. Epecially because we were telling our family members etc, and had one of my family members or friends asked me about it I wouldn't know what to say. I think it's an aweful way to hold onto an ex and your page should reflect your current relationships and life. Especially if your partner is going to let you on their facebook page. Their friends and family members are going to see your pictures as well, and when her friends, her brothers, and sisters go look, she wants them, and herself, to be reassured that you are presenting your online self as in a reltaionship with HER and not your ex. That was how I felt about it. Disrespected. Not jealous. I asked him to delete the pictures and her as well from his facebook - he did. But he did not defriend her - which I think is also a bad move. I am going to request he do that again sometime, but I am hoping he will do so on his own. Edited December 29, 2014 by sm2281
Rydo Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I have years worth of ex gf pictures on facebook, nothing coupley though so I wouldn't delete them if asked. Thankfully nobody has asked.
elaine567 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I have years worth of ex gf pictures on facebook, nothing coupley though so I wouldn't delete them if asked. Thankfully nobody has asked. I suggest you take them off of FB and archive them now in a safe place. I do not think anyone bf or gf, husband or wife should make anyone delete their past and pictures are part of that past. However, there is a big difference between keeping old pics in a shoe box and hanging them up in the front hall, FB can be a bit like hanging them up in front hall. 1
Rydo Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I suggest you take them off of FB and archive them now in a safe place. I do not think anyone bf or gf, husband or wife should make anyone delete their past and pictures are part of that past. However, there is a big difference between keeping old pics in a shoe box and hanging them up in the front hall, FB can be a bit like hanging them up in front hall. There are way too many for me to be bothered. They are several ex's and not one of them mentioned the previous girls photos. I'm also friends with a lot of girls ive previously dated and nobody has cared about that. I think facebook is more important to some than others.
Winterina Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 There are way too many for me to be bothered. They are several ex's and not one of them mentioned the previous girls photos. I'm also friends with a lot of girls ive previously dated and nobody has cared about that. I think facebook is more important to some than others. Oh yes, you will be bothered and you will do it all once someone walks into your life that you actually love and care about. The fact that nobody TOLD you does not mean they were not bothered by it. Think about it... no woman describes her ideal partner in terms of him having a close relationship with his ex, or millions pictures of two of them on his FB. That is something that people tolerate in relationships that are not too serious. Once you start planning a life with someone, these things will have to be cleared out but then it will be with a lot of accumulated resentment if someone had to tolerate your pics with ex for long time. Such resentment can result in, and attract all sorts of problems, including someone cheating on you, you making the woman you love feel bad about the two of you, etc... Watch out for that snowball effect! People are sensitive to these things, I would not play with it and would be on the safe side without testing anyone's limits. I second the opinion that you should do it NOW so that you do not create issues for your future relationships. But I guess you are too young to understand this. 1
Rydo Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 No I really won't. How young do you assume I am?
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 My new GF of 8 months want pics of my old GF deleted from Facebook. Its funny because new GF is not even on Facebook but must have been looking through my page with her friend and saw them. There were only a few pics from parties etc and I did deleted them without an issue. My last GF (the deleted one) was crazy jealous. I mean CRAZY jealous and I swore I wouldn't put up with that crap ever again. The new GF is amazing and other than asking me to delete the ex from my phone and Facebook she has been great. For a while the ex was commenting on my FB posts, texting me to go out and wanting to come over when she was out drinking so I don't think the requests to block this chic were unreasonable?! What you really mean is that she is better looking and great in bed? Don't let your judgement be clouded. This is how it all starts, and before you know it the control starts to transcend into other parts of your life. I bet she still has pics of her ex and numbers on her phone, as backup or just for rendezvous.
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 While I agree with the odd post of yours I have to say in all honesty you come across quite bitter towards woman as if you have been emasculated in the past and have done a complete 180. I really don't mean this in an offensive way but that's how you come across. You did say "woman"...so 1 person from a herd isn't bad then. Oh, glad to hear that your intent is not to offend me How is your Monday going thus far?
Winterina Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 No I really won't. How young do you assume I am? OK. So according to you it will be like this. You meet a girl whom you fall in love with. You move in together. You plan the future together. You propose. She tells you that she is bothered by the pictures of your ex all over your FB. You tell her you cannot be bothered and to go fornicate herself. She picks up and leaves. Not because of pictures per se, but because nobody wants to settle down with a guy that will not give a damn about their feelings. Never say never, especially not in regard to something like this.
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 OK. So according to you it will be like this. You meet a girl whom you fall in love with. You move in together. You plan the future together. You propose. She tells you that she is bothered by the pictures of your ex all over your FB. You tell her you cannot be bothered and to go fornicate herself. She picks up and leaves. Not because of pictures per se, but because nobody wants to settle down with a guy that will not give a damn about their feelings. Never say never, especially not in regard to something like this. A lot of men are saying just that to marriage :-) I am saying that to the messed up institution of marriage that only stands to benefit one party. I have been there once, and was lucky to get off lightly compared to many.
SomeDude16 Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Holy ****, reach into your pocket, grab your nuts, and squeeze tight. Realize that you are still living and still a man. Stop complaining about your own failures and living in the past. You still have your balls, grow up and live in the now. Do something productive instead of whining about things and categorizing the whole universe based on your very limited and narrow minded experiences. My goodness. And who the hell cares about deleting Facebook pictures? I promise you society will not judge you for trying to make your signifgant other happy. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I think I'm gonna add a guy who has endless FB photos of people he dated and never got married to as a red flag and reason to dump. Just like people who use FB as a platform to make it look like they have a life, IMO, same way people who are in the fakest RLs use it to scream to the world that they are a "couple" when there are so many piles of poop under those photos - if people knew in real life what was taking place. I've never posted pics of someone I've dated on FB and would never do so unless he was my husband. Also, I don't use FB to perpetrate a fraud. I'm not there with endless updates pics, etc - trying to be "popular" or make people think I have some life like the Crocodile Hunter. Idiots...all of them on FB with their nonsense and competition. Like freakin' high school clowns. 2
stillafool Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 My new GF of 8 months want pics of my old GF deleted from Facebook. 8 months and it's not already deleted?????
DazedandConfused8 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 My new GF of 8 months want pics of my old GF deleted from Facebook. Its funny because new GF is not even on Facebook but must have been looking through my page with her friend and saw them. There were only a few pics from parties etc and I did deleted them without an issue. My last GF (the deleted one) was crazy jealous. I mean CRAZY jealous and I swore I wouldn't put up with that crap ever again. The new GF is amazing and other than asking me to delete the ex from my phone and Facebook she has been great. For a while the ex was commenting on my FB posts, texting me to go out and wanting to come over when she was out drinking so I don't think the requests to block this chic were unreasonable?! Uh... 1. Why would you have public pictures of you and your ex-girlfriend up? 2. Why are you so jealously guarding your 'right' to keep those pictures online? I don't think the pictures are the real issue. You obviously have feelings for your ex and the new girlfriend is testing you. Take the pictures down. If you really want to keep them, you can 'download' your entire Facebook profile, which includes pictures, videos, statuses, etc.
green_tea Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I"m obviously in the minority here but I don't see a problem with photos of exes on FB... you actually have to go digging to see older photos anyway so they wouldn't just be on display. And most people only allow friends to see photos so they are not on public display either. One of my male friends still has photos with his ex-wife on his FB, as well as photos of his current gf. The current gf obviously doesn't mind. 2
guest569 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 I am with you green_tea, I really don't see the problem. I don't think I would particularly mind if my partner had photos of him and his ex, be it on his phone or on facebook. It's part of their life and their history. It doesn't necessarily mean anything.. it's no cause for concern or insecurities. A photo of them on his bedside table might be an issue. But buried somewhere on Facebook, couldn't care less. 2
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