Tina747 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I have a question that I hope does not sound too trivial but for some reason something my (older) sister said really bothered me and was wondering your thoughts... background: When we were younger there was an older guy who completely broke my heart. I mean really COMPLETELY....I mean, talk about "the first cut is the deepest". I honestly to this day cannot think about it without feeling pain. It devastated me beyond belief and don't think I ever really recovered. as a matter of fact I don't think i had ever cried over a guy since then because it left a cold spot in my heart ... At the time, I, thinking my sister at that time was my "friend" had confided in her about it. She actually saw me completely emotionally break down from it. Well, I found out later the reason he ended it was because he had had feelings for her, which she knew, and she actually liked that he did and had feelings for him too but she already had a boyfriend (she actually admitted this to me years later). She even admitted to me her resentment that we were together. Even though the whole time during my breakdown she was consoling me! well i don't like to dwell in the past so I forgot about it long ago and left it behind me ... we are usually friends but every so often there is an emotional betrayal, of some kind or back stab... but then we will make up and be friends again... I know it sounds weird as sometimes are a lot of sister relationships, but she is really the only family I have. well fast forward years later, she and I had an argument and had stopped talking for a few weeks, but her daughter had a daughter and i broke the ice and things were friendly again for a few days. And I was really excited about my new great niece and mentioned the birthdate... She made a long pause and said ".... guess who's birthday that is?"... "and she let me guess a lot of people...I mean it went on and on "...till finally she tells me. it is him, the guy who broke my heart. It felt really weird, like she was expecting some meaningful response from me or some reaction... but i just said ..." oh, who cares about that, anybody else's birthday that is?..." and just changed the subject. So, like i said, i know how trivial this must sound, And i may need to figure out why it bothered and confused me so much that she felt so inclined to tell me this that i am writing about it.... but why do you think she told me knowing what she knows? do you think it was innocent or was there a motive or intent behind it? I do really appreciate your thoughts.
WonderWoman911 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Wow!!! That is definitely a "messed" up situation,knowing I want to say the other word if you know what I mean. I don't understand your sister reason to want to play a guessing game about your niece b-day as she knows that it's the same day as your ex.What type of pleasure does she get out of that? It's like knowing how much heartache you went through with him and somehow she feels the need to bring him up into the picture and tie it with the birth of your neice. Im sure it definitely put a damper on the news when you're supposed to be happy and excited. 1
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