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Im not supposed to behave like a friend, otherwise ill end up in the friend zone. But also im not allowed to tell her my feelings for her and let her know how much I love her...

So how am I suppose to act to get her to like me for a relationship?

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Does she like you romantically?

 

You cannot force someone to like you that way.

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Be honest about your feelings......if she isnt interested its better to know than not know and keep on wondering what if.......deb

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Ask her out on a date. Her response is very telling as to whether she has feeling for you too. If she says yes it may be the beginning of something great. If no, you have your answer and it will set you free to move on to meet someone else who is interested (btw, sticking around if she says no will just cause you unnecessary pain).

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You're screwed either way. That's love I guess.

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Take her on a date. It's the social convention for getting to know someone romantically.

 

 

The problems & confusion occur when you try to befriend somebody to get to know then before asking for the date.

 

 

The date signals romantic interest & then you go on that being friendly but not overly sexual.

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Im not supposed to behave like a friend, otherwise ill end up in the friend zone. But also im not allowed to tell her my feelings for her and let her know how much I love her...

So how am I suppose to act to get her to like me for a relationship?

 

How long have you been dating? If it's a short time and you are already declaring you love her, tread lightly. And, you cannot "get" her to like you for a relationship. Either it happens for her or it doesn't.

 

The best way to at least get that ball rolling, is to have a casual, open discussion about what each of you is looking for in your dating experiences. You can casually say that you are hoping to find someone with whom you can have a long term relationship. Do not be specific at that point that you want that with her. Then let her tell you whether she even wants that with anyone at this point in her life.

 

If she is looking for that, then you continue dating her without pressure for sex for a while. Just show her you care for her in your way. If it's working for her, she will reciprocate and let things develop naturally.

 

If you've been dating for some time and you're asking this question, you may already have the answer because she isn't making you feel that she does want to have a real relationship with you. And, if it's been a while, you have nothing to lose by telling her how you feel and what you want with her. Be prepared to move on though when you do it. But, you may be happily surprised.

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