No contact but he won't stop!!!

[Tlhopper]

My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago and initially I begged, cried etc but I came to my senses and went into no contact. The very next day, he was on my doorstep devastated that I'd cut him off. So I stopped no contact. Now, he messages me everyday, and is always hot and cold. One day he'll be telling me how much he loves and misses me then the next he's saying stuff like "I need to focus on myself". When he says things like that I say "ok, I'll leave you alone" but he keeps messaging. I've asked him what he wants and he says things like "I don't know" and "I never said I didn't want you" and "this won't fix itself overnight"

What the hell do I do?

Please don't sugar coat anything for me, I am not delusional just very lost

[Invictus01]

You walk away. Trust me, hot and cold never ends well for the person who is always hot.

[Diezel]

You cut him off, again... but this time for good.

Why would you want to keep torturing yourself like this? Block him from your phone and your life.

[Elle1975]

Ask him how it's going with the new girl. That's what I assume it is. Hot and cold is not good. Either he's in, or he's out. It really looks like one of those back burner situations. He keeps you around just in case.

[Spongerob]

This sounds a lot like my situation. At the start of our breakup my ex went from saying she wanted me back to saying she wanted to stick with dating someone else. I've had her blocked now for 10 days and when I last checked she has called/texted me every day (2 days ago she tried ringing me 12 times in 1 day.)

 

I think you just have to walk away and show your ex what their life is like without you in it. Only then will they be able to see if they have made the right decision or not, and during this time you will start to feel better too. It's only been a short period of time for me but I feel so much better about things now.