Biscous Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Do you guys think that this sort of thing exists for men and women? I am going to speak from a male's perspective. Supposedly we appreciate in value as we get older assuming we are doing things right career wise, goal wise , etc. My 21 year old self was a bit lost in life. A bit more optimistic in life and more idealistic as a whole, but my current self at 31 would beat him in many other categories: -better body -great career -high income -better looking -more knowledgeable I think that does offer me a bit more selectivity in the dating game. My uncle was talking to me about my "stock" as a man. Being an older man who is in good shape, good credit, no kids, no divorces or anything. I think women dominate the dating game in their mid 20s more. Thoughts? 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 No one have anything? Of course it exists. Those who have high to medium value will deny it exists and those who have lower value will say the system sucks. Everybody knows what their inherent value is in the dating game. You can either choose to capitalize on it or cash in all your chips, or eschew the system. And a number of people do actually do that. However, very few people settle on looks. That is so strongly ingrained in our system. And yes, it is part of the value system, though most will not admit it. 1
Andy_K Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Of course it does. There's a reason that it's so common for older boss to get involved with the hot young secretary. Women's value is primary in looks and youth, which deteriorate as you get older. Sure, intelligence, humour etc matter too, but they make less difference to the general appeal than most would like to admit/believe. Men's value is a bit more complicated as women tend to look for different things at different ages and are a lot more varied in their tastes. But suffice to say, you'll get most options if you're well off, attractive, intelligent, high status, and so forth. Most things that will appreciate with age as your career improves. You can see an interesting trend at seat-limited speed dating events. For the 20s age group male places fill up first, in the 30s it's about even, and in the 40s the female places are all gone first. That alone tells you something about the supply/demand at different age groups.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 What do you mean by "the dating game"? Are you looking for a long term partner or marriage because if you are, the gains you have accomplished are really important!! If you're just talking about lots of women and sex, like always that comes down to mostly sex appeal, there are guys and women who are just plain sexy and they get a lot of play in that arena when they are young or older!
Phoe Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 I haven't particularly thought about it that extensively. To some, me being young and in good shape gives me "value", but I don't see it that way. Who I am as a person is the only thing of real value. I don't think me right now, at 25, is any more or less valuable than me at 20 or me at 30. 1
central Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Yes, there is sexual/dating market/mate value, and it's mostly biological in nature. Women's value is in large part due to fertility, which is greatest from late teens to early thirties, and then declines due to decreasing fertility and youthful appeal. Men's value generally increases with age due to increasing resources and experience, but generally declines after 50 because age reduces the chance they'll live long enough to raise any new children to adulthood. However, men who stay healthy and have life success retain more value, as there is a declining number of them available to women in their own age group. They are in higher demand than the women in that group, no matter how attractive - because they are no longer fertile. Dating and sexual appeal is all based on the mating drive.
Tayken Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Do you guys think that this sort of thing exists for men and women? I am going to speak from a male's perspective. Supposedly we appreciate in value as we get older assuming we are doing things right career wise, goal wise , etc. My 21 year old self was a bit lost in life. A bit more optimistic in life and more idealistic as a whole, but my current self at 31 would beat him in many other categories: -better body -great career -high income -better looking -more knowledgeable I think that does offer me a bit more selectivity in the dating game. My uncle was talking to me about my "stock" as a man. Being an older man who is in good shape, good credit, no kids, no divorces or anything. I think women dominate the dating game in their mid 20s more. Thoughts? What you are asking is pretty clear and I concur with the sentiments in your overall post. Speaking for myself and those that I know, the following is true we appreciate in value as we get older assuming we are doing things right career wise, goal wise , etc. The following continue to be the case for me, and I expect the same in a mate if I am to live comfortable in the future and retire well without depending on the state for handouts -better body -great career -high income -better looking -more knowledgeable
Author Biscous Posted December 31, 2014 Author Posted December 31, 2014 What do you mean by "the dating game"? Are you looking for a long term partner or marriage because if you are, the gains you have accomplished are really important!! If you're just talking about lots of women and sex, like always that comes down to mostly sex appeal, there are guys and women who are just plain sexy and they get a lot of play in that arena when they are young or older! Both really.
Assada Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 Not much to argue with in your first post. Knowledge & experience goes a looooong way. And that is very attractive to women. IMO. I think all women with a fun outgoing playful personality stock is high
Anela Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 No one have anything? I don't think of myself or others, in terms of the stock market, and sell-by dates. Sorry.
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