Rexxy Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Hey everyone, so recently I met a girl at a nightclub and we hit it off. I don't usually have long conversations in nightclubs but I clicked with this girl and we had a lot of fun. We made out and she wanted to come back to mine but I couldn't for various reasons so I got her number and we went our separate ways. So I texted her a few days later (no game intended, just played out that way) to see how her christmas was going and she replied with "My Christmas is going great and how about yours?" I told her how mine was going then asked if she was going out the next night and she replied with "I might be going to 'place' tomorrow so I'm not sure yet, I'll let you know" I replied with okay and she texted back some smiley face blowing kisses. A few days later I asked her "Can I take you out next week when we're both free" and she texted back instantly and said "I'm away for a week or so in 'place' babe" so I texted back saying "Okay let me know when you get back" and she replied with "I will" Now my question is should I be text her in 3 days just to she how she's going or just wait till she gets back and texts me? Thanks for the help.
Poppyolive Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I'd wait. She told you she'd message when back. Gibe her space. 4
Author Rexxy Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 I'd wait. She told you she'd message when back. Gibe her space. Yeah it doesn't bother me to wait at all, I'm just not sure what goes through a girls mind. Thanks. 1
newlyborn Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Yeah it doesn't bother me to wait at all, I'm just not sure what goes through a girls mind. Thanks. by waiting and observing, you will soon find out... also, her following up will not only show her interest; it will also show her reliability and that her words and actions match. 2
Author Rexxy Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 by waiting and observing, you will soon find out... also, her following up will not only show her interest; it will also show her reliability and that her words and actions match. That's a really good way to think about it!
Author Rexxy Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Wait until she gets back and CALL her. Usually I call up for a second date and just organize the first date through text or facebook. So you think once she texts me that she's back I should call her? I feel as if that might be a bit strange for the first date when I don't really know her all that well.
SweetCharity Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Don't wait. Text her in a couple days to see how she's doing. As a woman I can tell you I like it when a man tects me. It shows interest. If a guy doesn't actively text me I assume he's not interested and I move on. Give her space but don't wait too long.
Author Rexxy Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Don't wait. Text her in a couple days to see how she's doing. As a woman I can tell you I like it when a man tects me. It shows interest. If a guy doesn't actively text me I assume he's not interested and I move on. Give her space but don't wait too long. And this is the point where I get confused. I think to save me from texting her on how she's going I'll just say something like "Happy new years 'name, hope you have a good time in 'place'" which will be in a few days. Or would it be better to say "happy new year 'name', how's it going in 'place'" to make it a bit more of an open text. I don't really enjoy talking over text and it doesn't mean much to me but if I acknowledge her a bit I suppose it'll let her know I'm somewhat thinking of her. Is that a better idea?
Quest Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 And this is the point where I get confused. I think to save me from texting her on how she's going I'll just say something like "Happy new years 'name, hope you have a good time in 'place'" which will be in a few days. Or would it be better to say "happy new year 'name', how's it going in 'place'" to make it a bit more of an open text. I don't really enjoy talking over text and it doesn't mean much to me but if I acknowledge her a bit I suppose it'll let her know I'm somewhat thinking of her. Is that a better idea? I'd wait and see if she texts when she's due to be back. If she doesn't, I'd send a quick text asking how things went and if she'd still like to meet. You could assume that if she doesn't text when she's due back then she's not interested but as one poster says, it could also mean she's assumed you're not that interested. Only one way to find out ...
Rydo Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Id wait. If she txt's then great, if not just move on. It can really be that simple if you let it.
Author Rexxy Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 I'd wait and see if she texts when she's due to be back. If she doesn't, I'd send a quick text asking how things went and if she'd still like to meet. You could assume that if she doesn't text when she's due back then she's not interested but as one poster says, it could also mean she's assumed you're not that interested. Only one way to find out ... Actually yeah, I'm just going to wait it out and see if she texts me when she gets back. It'll be a great indicator of her interest level at this point and even if she doesn't text back I can see if she's still interested in going out sometime by giving her a quick text. Thanks.
Author Rexxy Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 Id wait. If she txt's then great, if not just move on. It can really be that simple if you let it. I agree it'll show high interest if she texts back but I wouldn't give up so easily since we did meet at a nightclub both intoxicated. I would text her a few days after and see if she's still interested in going out. You never know.
Quest Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Actually yeah, I'm just going to wait it out and see if she texts me when she gets back. It'll be a great indicator of her interest level at this point and even if she doesn't text back I can see if she's still interested in going out sometime by giving her a quick text. Thanks. Great. Just be prepared at that point to accept what comes, or doesn't come. Go for it if she's interested and if she's not, move on, chin up, nothing lost.
d0nnivain Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 Usually I call up for a second date and just organize the first date through text or facebook. So you think once she texts me that she's back I should call her? I feel as if that might be a bit strange for the first date when I don't really know her all that well. If you are willing to spend time in person with her I don't see why talking on the phone is a big deal. It doesn't have to be a long conversation.
Quest Posted December 29, 2014 Posted December 29, 2014 If you are willing to spend time in person with her I don't see why talking on the phone is a big deal. It doesn't have to be a long conversation. Texting or calling is fine, I think. But endless texting gets monotonous so I guess it's good just to give her a call - either when she gets in touch, or when she hasn't (and you want to clarify things).
Author Rexxy Posted December 29, 2014 Author Posted December 29, 2014 If you are willing to spend time in person with her I don't see why talking on the phone is a big deal. It doesn't have to be a long conversation. I'll make a decision after I get a text from her and go from there.
Author Rexxy Posted January 11, 2015 Author Posted January 11, 2015 For all those wondering what happened in the end. She ended up going away for 2 weeks instead of one, I messaged her 1 week in to see how she was going and that was it. I got a message about 2 days ago from her telling me she is back, we met up and I ended up back at hers for some fun and stayed the night. We're going out again in 2 days with my family and others and she didn't even mention anything about meeting them too soon or anything which I guess is a positive thing. I'll let you know. 1
dragonfire13 Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 Honestly, I wouldn't risk her thinking you've lost interest. Take it from a woman who has had guys "fade", only to find out they were waiting for ME to initiate contact....which I struggle to do as I don't wanna look desperate (let's face it, certain things guys can get away with that just showing their interest, that if a girl did she would look desperate). She seems interested so I'm sure she'll welcome hearing from you...so like others have suggested, wait till she's back and ask her out.
Author Rexxy Posted January 12, 2015 Author Posted January 12, 2015 Honestly, I wouldn't risk her thinking you've lost interest. Take it from a woman who has had guys "fade", only to find out they were waiting for ME to initiate contact....which I struggle to do as I don't wanna look desperate (let's face it, certain things guys can get away with that just showing their interest, that if a girl did she would look desperate). She seems interested so I'm sure she'll welcome hearing from you...so like others have suggested, wait till she's back and ask her out. You must of missed my post just above your reply haha, but your advice would of been right! So thanks. This is what I said: "For all those wondering what happened in the end. She ended up going away for 2 weeks instead of one, I messaged her 1 week in to see how she was going and that was it. I got a message about 2 days ago from her telling me she is back, we met up and I ended up back at hers for some fun and stayed the night. We're going out again in 2 days with my family and others and she didn't even mention anything about meeting them too soon or anything which I guess is a positive thing. I'll let you know."
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