kmoney85 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I have known this guy for about 2 months. We work together - he is married. Our office likes to go out drinking quite often and can party pretty hard. I have gone out when he asked me to several times. We bonded quickly and we both shared things with each other. He knows I had a crush on a mutual coworker and would never tell anyone. We've hugged, drunk, in the "Youre great and so much fun!" kind of way. He's called me his "buddy" to other coworkers. The most recent time we went drinking was with a ton of my other coworkers. It was a holiday party so an all day drinking event. Later in the evening, after several shots, I told him I was going to kiss his cheek. He turned his head last minute and kissed my lips quicky. I was shocked, laughed, and got distracted with something else. Later in the evening when everyone was heading home, he pulled me into a corner and into his lap and we talked for a while before deciding to see who was still around and heading out. When we couldnt find anyone we decided to leave to go to subway. As soon as I did, I realized a friend of ours had something of mine I really needed. He was already home and would have to come back to give it to me. It was going to be a while so I needed to wait outside in the cold. My friend waited with me - he pulled me in between buildings to stay warmer. At one point, he said "Im not trying anything, but its cold" and pulled me tight into a hug to stay warm. We stayed like that talking for a while. My work crush came up and we talked about that for a bit. My friend said " I bet you like to be dominated in bed". Talking continued... its a bit foggy after drinking... but we did that until my other friend got back with what I needed. I then hopped in a cab and my friend went on his way too... The next day, we were recounting the evening with a female coworker. My male friend said he didnt remember leaving, then said he left alone, etc. I didnt know what to make of it and was kind of surprised. After she left, I asked him if he really didnt remember. He said, no I do and made a face that basically said he just didnt want to tell this girl about the end of our evening. While I wouldnt have shared all of the details, I was surprised that he didnt want to even tell her we left at the same time. So, what to make of this? He's married so until that night, I saw him as safe and a close friend. But now? I feel like he feels there is something more, or that he did something wrong. Please let me know your thoughts! I understand that I might be partially responsible here and I am not looking for judgement, I just want to know if I am reading too much into this.
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Ehhh, I'd say you're both at fault but......he has more fault here then you. He's the one who initiated and escalated the situation. Keep you're distance, actually increase your distance. No guy does this with people they want to be friends with, especially married men. Don't dwell too much on it, just move foward keeping your space. You have a great opportunity here to save yourself from future troubles.
SparklingandBroken Posted December 31, 2014 Posted December 31, 2014 He's getting the thrills of being mildly intimate with another female (you). I would avoid him at all costs. He's disrespecting his wife, and essentially using you for a little excitement. Happens all the time, and that is not something you want to be in the middle of.
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