spanishchick00 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 There's this guy that I'm into, but he doesn't feel the same way. Basically he's putting me on the back burner and keeping his options open. Well, I've been thinking about lying to him-just a few minor things to make me sound more interesting and maybe he will realize that I'm an interesting woman and that he will change his mind about me. Just minor things, like going on cool vacations, etc, etc. Or will that be useless, b/c if a guy doesn't have feelings for a girl, that won't change no matter what?
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Worst idea ever. He doesn't like you as you are. If you lie to him to make yourself more desirable, what do you think will happen when he finds out it was a lie?
avintagegirl Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 There's this guy that I'm into, but he doesn't feel the same way. Basically he's putting me on the back burner and keeping his options open. Well, I've been thinking about lying to him-just a few minor things to make me sound more interesting and maybe he will realize that I'm an interesting woman and that he will change his mind about me. Just minor things, like going on cool vacations, etc, etc. Or will that be useless, b/c if a guy doesn't have feelings for a girl, that won't change no matter what? You be you, boo. You can't be someone else. Only you can be the best you, so be YOU. If he is not into you, that is A-ok. You will find someone who values you - no deceit (no matter how small needed). Besides, what if he founds out about the lies? Best to have him not interested in you, than to have him not interested and think you are a liar.
WonderWoman911 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I wouldn't lie because it simply isn't worth it. Then suppose you tell him the lies,and for some apparent reason he starts to like you.But the moment he finds out that they were all lies, he'll look at you as being deceptive and he'll just cut you off. And besides, he shouldn't like you because of trips, etc. He should like you for your inner character.
toscaroscura Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 It's not worth it. Trust me. There's something freeing in being boldly, unabashedly yourself. Often, the urge to lie about ourselves is fueled by insecurity that who we really are is not interesting or worthy enough to keep anyone's attention. I understand this fear; I'm an introverted woman who lives a quiet life. I sometimes have wondered if I'm just not exciting enough to be loved. But I am, and so are you, to the right person.
Diezel Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Dishonesty? Manipulation? Sounds like wonderful foundation for a long-lasting relationship. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Bad idea. You should never try to change yourself (or who people think you are) to impress a guy. Your lies are going to come back to bite you.
Leigh 87 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Better still, why don't you save up and travel? Life is short. Live it to the fullest. Explore new interests. Travelling overseas is amazing and character building to have to meet new people of an entirely different cultural background and perhaps even making new friends that are different to the ones you currently have.
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