Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Seriously, here I am thinking she's excited about me. I ask her what she's up to tomorrow and that I have nothing going on. What do I get? "I don't know, the game is on". Really? I like football like anyone else. Hell, I'm even a NE fan. But if I was excited about someone, I wouldn't put that ahead of a girl that I was genuinely interested in. To me that might be it. Here's the thing about sports fanatics...they love a team that never loves them back. Whatever.
Dontfindme Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I don't get it. This doesn't mean that she isn't excited about you. Some people just need down-time, and to be able to do their own thing. Just as it would be wrong for her to expect you to drop everything and run to her every chance you are free, the reverse is also true. 5
AVarma Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 In Alabama I've heard that married couples have divorced over supporting Alabama or Auburn. For some people football is like a religion.
Ann253 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Why not respond with an invitation to watch it together? I'm not a football fan, but will watch it with my bf to get to spend time with him. 8
AVarma Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Who was playing? contact1 with the big picture ladies and gentlemen. 5
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Seriously, here I am thinking she's excited about me. I ask her what she's up to tomorrow and that I have nothing going on. What do I get? "I don't know, the game is on". To me that might be it. Here's the thing about sports fanatics...they love a team that never loves them back. Whatever. So, because she didn't jump at the chance to see you, you're done? She didn't say she didn't want to see you. She said she didn't know, and mentioned the game. Perhaps you might want to watch it with her?!?! Dating is going to be impossible for you if this is really how you're going to handle it. 2
USMCHokie Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Uh...you're the guy, right...? In the early stages of dating (and really, in the entire relationship), you need to take the lead. When you asked her what she was up to tomorrow, she answered by saying that she didn't know but that the game was on. She answered your question. Why get upset that you asked a crappy question? Or didn't follow up her response by suggesting something that the two of you could do? Don't expect her to suggest that you get together. That's your job. 13
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 Uh...you're the guy, right...? In the early stages of dating (and really, in the entire relationship), you need to take the lead. When you asked her what she was up to tomorrow, she answered by saying that she didn't know but that the game was on. She answered your question. Why get upset that you asked a crappy question? Or didn't follow up her response by suggesting something that the two of you could do? Don't expect her to suggest that you get together. That's your job. Crappy question? See this is where I get confused. If I ask her to see me, I'm pushing it. If I ask what she is up to, then its a crappy question. I guess I should be a mind reader too. That will help. 2
USMCHokie Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I guess I should be a mind reader too. That will help. Yes, you need to be a mind reader. Try this exercise: Trenton: "Hey Trenton, do you want to see this girl?" Trenton's Mind: "Why yes, I'd love to." In the above exercise, you read your own mind. It's the only mind you need to read. By demonstrating to yourself that you are interested in seeing her tomorrow, you can safely guide your actions to ask if she'd be interested in seeing you. You don't need to lead with asking her to hang out, but you should follow up with her and ask her to do something when she responds that she doesn't have plans. If she thinks it's pushy that you're asking her out, then she probably isn't interested in you. 5
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 I don't get it. This doesn't mean that she isn't excited about you. Some people just need down-time, and to be able to do their own thing. Just as it would be wrong for her to expect you to drop everything and run to her every chance you are free, the reverse is also true. I'm not expecting her to drop everything. We both get plenty of downtime as it is. My point is with our busy schedules we hardly have time as it is. You know, I've heard so much complaining from girls about men putting sports above everything. What about vice versa? What if she asked me what I was doing and I came back with that? I guarantee I would be getting hammered with "a football game shouldn't be more important". Not only that, its the freaking eagles-giants game are you serious? Do you even know their records? 1
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I'm not expecting her to drop everything. We both get plenty of downtime as it is. My point is with our busy schedules we hardly have time as it is. You know, I've heard so much complaining from girls about men putting sports above everything. What about vice versa? What if she asked me what I was doing and I came back with that? I guarantee I would be getting hammered with "a football game shouldn't be more important". Not only that, its the freaking eagles-giants game are you serious? Do you even know their records? After two dates, she shouldn't be the one asking you out. As USMC said, that's your job.
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 I don't get it. This doesn't mean that she isn't excited about you. Some people just need down-time, and to be able to do their own thing. Just as it would be wrong for her to expect you to drop everything and run to her every chance you are free, the reverse is also true. Yes, you need to be a mind reader. Try this exercise: Trenton: "Hey Trenton, do you want to see this girl?" Trenton's Mind: "Why yes, I'd love to." In the above exercise, you read your own mind. It's the only mind you need to read. By demonstrating to yourself that you are interested in seeing her tomorrow, you can safely guide your actions to ask if she'd be interested in seeing you. You don't need to lead with asking her to hang out, but you should follow up with her and ask her to do something when she responds that she doesn't have plans. If she thinks it's pushy that you're asking her out, then she probably isn't interested in you. Dude if I read my own mind the world would explode.
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 After two dates, she shouldn't be the one asking you out. As USMC said, that's your job. But I am asking her out. I said "Hey, what are doing tomorrow? I have all day and could see you." What's that?
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 But I am asking her out. I said "Hey, what are doing tomorrow? I have all day and could see you." What's that? You didn't ask her out. You asked her what she's up to, and she answered with her tentative/unknown plans. 3
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 Seriously, the whole thing is stupid. I'm not asking her what she's doing tomorrow while telling her I have all day because I'm bored. I'm actually doing two things by asking that. A) being considerate of her space B) suggesting I want to see her. It doesn't take a genius to figure this out. I'm the one going there, not the other way around. I'm not going to invite myself to watch a freaking game. She isn't stupid. I guess only guys are supposed to get the hint? I'm laughing.
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 "Great, beer, wings, and football at my place!!" Why did you not follow up with this? She wins, you win. Relationships are about compromise. 6
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 And in the same breath they will claim that if you do push to see them then all of a sudden you're clingy. You've only had two dates. I think that in expecting her to prioritize you over anything at this point you're being unfair and unreasonable.
aggie382 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 "Great, beer, wings, and football at my place!!" Why did you not follow up with this? She wins, you win. Relationships are about compromise. I love your posts about dating, sir! Guys, listen to this one! And USMC!
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 (edited) "Great, beer, wings, and football at my place!!" Why did you not follow up with this? Oh I don't know...because having a girl at my place and mixing alcohol with it this early in the game is probably a bit too much? Especially at 1pm when she would have to drive home? Or how about I have a 7 year old I need to watch over? Ya know, responsible sh#t. Edited December 28, 2014 by Trenton100
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Oh I don't know...because having a girl at my place and mixing alcohol with it this early in the game is probably a bit too much? Especially at 1pm when she would have to drive home? Or how about I have a 7 year old I need to watch over? Ya know, responsible sh#t. What?? Is this girl a minor or something? None of that was a legit excuse except for the 7 yr old, and that's what babysitters are for. 1
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 (edited) What?? Is this girl a minor or something? None of that was a legit excuse except for the 7 yr old, and that's what babysitters are for. Oh right, because you would have someone get loaded at your house and expect them to drive 30 miles home. As far as babysitters, do you have a kid? Edited December 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited out deleted quote.
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Oh right, because you would have someone get loaded at your house and expect them to drive 30 miles home. As far as babysitters, do you have a kid? I'm curious how old you are. I don't feel like searching though all your threads.... 1
Author Trenton100 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 I'm curious how old you are. I don't feel like searching though all your threads.... I'm curious about why that matters.
SomeDude16 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I'm curious about why that matters. Trust me, just let me know how old you are and the last time you were in a relationship. I'm asking for your trust....
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