Seven year relationship ended over the phone

[Endalos]

Our relationship started of as a long distance one that we managed to get to work. Four years ago I moved to England to be closer and a year later we moved together to Wales so she could do her Masters. During this time she has relied on me more and more for financial support and I have ended up paying for her last two years of her degree.

 

This morning while visiting my family in Norway I got a phone call from her saying she can't marry me and ended the relationship. She gave my addiction to games and wish to travel a lot as reasons for the breakup, but even through I told her we could work things out, she has ended it and broke off communication with me.

 

I am lucky that I have a large family to support me and believe I will do fine. Initially I wanted to try and win her back, but as the day progressed I realized that if she wanted to end the relationship this way, perhaps it is better for us to part ways. My flight back is tomorrow, and even though my family offered to pay for an extension, I decided to fly back anyway.

 

I sent myself a plan with the end result of moving back to Norway for a while so I can think on what I want to do. I also with to work on my Video Game Addiction and am considering professional help as it is something my own family were worried about. Yet throughout the day I struggled, keep looking for any message or sign hoping that deep down, it was all a dream.

 

So after reading for an hour or two as I couldnt sleep, I decided that perhaps the best way forward was to use the no communication. I have removed her from my skype account and facebook, the two places I checked the most, yet there is still the difficulty of sharing a flat together.

 

I have no idea what her plans are, as currently I am paying 100% of the bills, but I am trying to figure out how to go about nc when she might walk in on the 5th of Jan. I really dont think I can sort everything and move in that space of time, especially to another country.

 

Any help would be apprechiated.

[ExpatInItaly]

if you live together and you are footing all the bills, it is simply not realistic to break off all communication. I think you were wise to delete her from social media, but eventually the two of you will need to talk to sort out the logistics of your living situation. She can't exactly expect that you will continue to pay for her. Whose name is on the lease?

[Endalos]

Both our names are on the lease which I suppose complicates things a little. I suppose I will have to wait and see what happens in regard to the living situation.