I expressed my dislike to my b/f regarding him dancing with girls at the club

[Ashley1985]

I told my boyfriend that i find it disrespectful that he dances with girls when he goes to the club. He told me that he doesn't dance every time, but when he does the girl is just grinding on him and he just stands there. I told him again that I don't like that and it's disrespectful. I also asked him how he would feel if I was grinding on a guy in the club, and he stated that it's basically unacceptable for me to do that; he said i would be doing all the work by dancing on the guy, girls are held to a higher standard than guys, and that he just stands there and lets the girl dance on him. I again explained my dislike on the matter and told him that I would probably ignore him if i found out he danced with a girl after i expressed how i felt, and it didn't seem like he cared. He also said that every guy does it, even married guys. So, long story short, it seems like he's going to continue to do it.

[Tayken]

Well if he has no plans to change this period which is simply uncalled for especially when you are with someone else, they deserve to be dumped ASAP. I am guessing that you two are young, but that is no excuse for this behaviour because some adults do it too.

 

Clubs, facebook, pubs are typical examples of drama instigators for couples. A person you meet in a club, is bound to be lost to the club.

[toscaroscura]

Oh please. No one is forcing him to stand there, enjoying her gyrating butt rubbing up against his junk. Completely ridiculous.

 

This guy has sh*tty double standards, doesn't care about your feelings and needs to get dumped STAT.

[Ruby Slippers]

He's full of crap and will have a very hard time finding a decent girl who will accept this behavior. He just doesn't get it, and likely won't change anytime soon. I'd break up with him and move on. You can do better.

[Gloria25]

When I used to club, the only guy I'm grinding on is the guy I'm at the club with - someone I'm seeing.

 

I don't give "free dry humps" to strangers. I think it's gross, disrespectful, and rude. I mean, I see people do that all nite. They grind on several people just to "grind".

 

Even a lot of dances Hispanic people do (i.e. Salsa, Merengue, Bachata) requires holding hands, holding someone close. If I "do" dance with a guy on those ones, I may be holding hands, but it's a faint hold and our bodies do not touch. You could put an object between both bodies.

 

I also get approached in the clubs alot. When I'm dancing alone, yea, some guys - even gals - try to like "back into you" or just "jump in and start" "dancing" (I don't consider it dancing) with you. I'll turn around and walk away. If they get rude, I push them off, but that's rare.

 

Your bf grinds on others and doesn't distance himself when they grind on him. You informed him of how you feel about this. If he continues to do it, then I guess you got a decision to make.

[spanishchick00]

Why would he just be standing there, looks like he's allowing it to happen. Shouldn't he walk away???

[kmoney85]

Its disrespectful. And, he definitey lied! No guy just stands there! Especially when his friends are around, most likely egging him on. I would really consider if he respects you and your relationship enough to continue...

[Leigh 87]

 

So he girls does all the "work" by moving her body and grinding against him?

 

And your boyfriend is just an innocent bystander

 

Your boyfriend is a moron. To put it very nicely...

 

I am sure he wouldn't let a girl he found to be grossly unattractive "grind" against him. Something tells me he only lets women he finds attractive grind against his penis.

 

You do realise these girls are grinding against his dick, right?

 

If you have any self respect you will kick this guy to the curb.

 

Men who are serious about you just do not let random women in clubs grind on their genitals.

[d0nnivain]

Dancing is one thing. Grinding is something else.

 

 

Are you in these clubs with him? If not, why not?

[Winterina]

Dump him. ASAP.

[SomeDude16]

This guy is a child and an ass. Leave him....