NGC1300 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 What is with so many women, particularly online, stating that the man must "make them laugh"???? Sure humor can go far, but it's almost like some sort of bizarre requirement for these women. I don't think I've ever dated a woman that said anything funny or "made me laugh", yet I was attracted regardless. I know this is a silly topic, and you can cue the jokes about my lack of humor, but geez maybe these women should just go to a circus or surf Youtube for funny videos, instead of dating men.
Ann253 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I think for me it's more of a "don't be boring". I'm a bit if a smart ass and I want a man who can handle joking around
EveAFlame Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 What is with so many women, particularly online, stating that the man must "make them laugh"???? Sure humor can go far, but it's almost like some sort of bizarre requirement for these women. I don't think I've ever dated a woman that said anything funny or "made me laugh", yet I was attracted regardless. I know this is a silly topic, and you can cue the jokes about my lack of humor, but geez maybe these women should just go to a circus or surf Youtube for funny videos, instead of dating men. Why is it so bizarre? For me, a great sense of humor is the sexiest trait a man can have as evidenced by my ridiculous crush on Will Ferrell. A man to sit and watch comedies, quote blocks of Simpsons dialogue...yeah I'm drooling. You've NEVER dated a woman who EVER said anything funny? Really? That seems farfetched.
d0nnivain Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 A good sense of humor & somebody I can laugh with are very important. Friends & family always joke that DH & I have so many inside jokes. We can make each other laugh from across a room without saying a word at this point. It's an important shared bond in our marriage. However, it grew over time. Very few people -- not even professional comedians -- can make somebody laugh on command. Perhaps if you are trying to date somebody who has that in a profile, practice your best jokes before the date so you can trot them out or plan a date to a comedy club.
Erised Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I've dated guys who would be considered not that attractive because their humor was incredibly appealing. Intellect and humor are two of the most important things to me. I mean, physical things... Those fade. I always make people laugh. Most often with me.
TheFinalWord Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 What is with so many women, particularly online, stating that the man must "make them laugh"???? Sure humor can go far, but it's almost like some sort of bizarre requirement for these women. I don't think I've ever dated a woman that said anything funny or "made me laugh", yet I was attracted regardless. I know this is a silly topic, and you can cue the jokes about my lack of humor, but geez maybe these women should just go to a circus or surf Youtube for funny videos, instead of dating men. I'm a guy, but this post is hilarious. I think you are pretty funny, but you have a sort of Jerry Seinfeld sarcastic observation humor (personally that's my favorite type). 1
Kamila Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Humour is good to break the ice. Mix it up with conversations. But for a serious relationship, one should handle serious topics. Just saying.
guest569 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I don't see the point in saying "make me laugh" because it depends what their sense of humour is. You just have to meet someone and find out. It's different for anyone. So it means nothing when "funny" is written on a dating profile. 1
callingyouuu Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I actually see where the OP might be coming from. "We should have a shared sense of humor" makes more sense as a requirement in a relationship than "You should make me laugh." The first one sounds like you're looking mutual compatibility in making each other laugh (which makes sense), while the second one sounds like you're asking for a stand-up comedian to follow you around wherever you go (which is kind of silly). 3
No Limit Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Maybe that's their way of saying they'd like to date an entertainer?
HereTodayGoneTomorow Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Laughter bonds us with people that's probably why most of us women want our men to 'make us laugh'. We mean someone who can bring joy/fun to the relationship.
Mirages Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Individuals who deliver scripted jokes of ~3 min in length, are a nuisance to me. I respond with a vinyl smile, unless offended. It also adds stress to the interaction as a yes/no whether the joke was enjoyed. Individuals who mix knowledge, wisdom, a few brainy quotes, and brief elements of comedy within the situation being described are good for me; being both more comical and attractive. "Make me laugh," profiles, to me, are too vague, and not particularly attractive. Actually anything that is cliche is a turn off in a profile...
Gloria25 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I don't know about most women, but on my OLD profile I don't "expect" a guy to "make" me anything. I also don't like "funny" guys and/or people. I have a sarcastic/dry sense of humor. If you are "funny", I'm probably gonna consider you an idiot or a clown. I like comedies, I even watch corny cartoons - all to get a laugh. I don't want some guy I'm boinking something that makes me laugh. If something "funny" happens (i.e. in bed we're fooling around), I'm cool with that. But I don't need some guy telling me jokes, trying to make me laugh, again, I don't need Bozo or Seinfeld in my bedroom.
toscaroscura Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 "Make me laugh" sounds too demanding to me and would turn me off. A "funny" guy isn't necessarily a draw to me. I actually like more stoic types, as I tend to be the silly and funny one. A guy that can really appreciate my silliness goes a long way! But he does need to not take himself very seriously. One guy I know, a self-described "funny guy", is one of my least favorite people because he can dish out mean-spirited "jokes" but he definitely can't take it. And he gets very offended if you don't think he's funny, ie. he takes himself deadly seriously. No thanks. 1
Diezel Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 They want a court jester before their royal throne. 1
Gloria25 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 They want a court jester before their royal throne. Exactly... "You better make me laugh", Ha!!!! If you don't do her bidding, it's "off with your head".
Diezel Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Exactly... If you don't do her bidding, it's "off with your head". BOTH of them. OUCH.
Gloria25 Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 BOTH of them. OUCH. Nah, isn't that "heads (his noggin) and tails (the testicles)"? See, I can be funny too!!!
Erised Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 (edited) I admit to having written the cliché into my profile. I believe the precise wording of my profile in that section of what you are looking was, "If you can make offhand allusions, we will definitely get along. If you can make me laugh, I'll swoon. If you can teach me things I don't yet know, I might fall in love. So, you might want to be careful there. Danger, Will Robinson!" This was one part of a (too?) large, detailed profile that was chock full of examples of my sense of humor and I surely got a lot of responses from guys who could in fact make me laugh because they had a similar sense of humor, and because humor was important to them. I'm not very disappointed in having used the cliché, because I was quite pleased with my results from online dating in general. I got a fair number of messages from some really awesome guys. I'm still friends with each of them I responded to for whom it didn't work out, and we hang out and have grand time. Laughing together just is that important to me. I think I'd have to see it in context before I'd be too judgmental of it. Which, of course, tends to be the case when it's your own behavior called to task. Edited December 28, 2014 by Erised
Erised Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 I'm sure you've had a hard time of it, but really, if your jokes are offending "half a dozen" you might want to rethink your material and/or delivery. The only time I've gotten really offended was a guy who approached me in person (I like to think I would have picked it up online before meeting him). He was making incredibly racist jokes out of nowhere, that coincidentally were not funny in any case. Crossing lines can be funny, but not if you can't handle it with a light touch at the appropriate time. Heavy handed, and you come off like a moron who is trying to hard.
Zing Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Why don't women have to make me laugh? You all want equality right! I hate this "dance monkey, dance!" entitlement attitude.
CaliGypsy Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 Why don't women have to make me laugh? You all want equality right! I hate this "dance monkey, dance!" entitlement attitude. Yes, of course. Really, that's a big part of it. Making each other laugh. Sharing similar senses of humor. I can't imagine most women are looking for trained monkeys or entertainers I didn't put it in my online dating profile when I had one, I just find it out organically. I just call it incompatible. 1
bathtub-row Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 As with most things on dating sites, it's probably just an extremely poor way of saying that they appreciate someone with a sense of humor. But they're saying it in such a way that it comes across as a command. It puts you in the position of having to decide if they're just unskilled at expressing themselves in writing, if they're actually issuing a directive, or trying to come across as knowing what they want and being assertive (when they have no real clue as to what that actually means). Usually, it's the latter. 1
Diezel Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 It's probably "best" when I see them write: I love to smile and laugh and sometimes I love to smile and laugh at the same time so someone who can make me smile and laugh is a MUST. That makes me sad.
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