d3m04517 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Before we broke up, we were together for a year. I screwed up and broke up with her. After our break up, she found someone else and started dating him. I went back to her and asked for her back. This is where everything got messed up. She started missing me gravely, so she decided to stop dating him because she knew that she was not ready for another relationship. Now she is stuck between picking me or the other guy. The thing is, I know that guy is better than me. I believe he could make her happier than I can, but I love her very much and I can't leave her. I've done so much for her over the couple weeks and she still can't decide whether to be with me or him. I've told her many times it is either him or me, but she can't ever decide. Ive even told her that i would leave if she went out with the other guy. She then told me she doesnt want to leave me nor the other guy. What should I do? I'm very unhappy because all I have ever been doing is trying to make her happy.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 You need to pretty much man and walk away...women do this all the time and end up getting hurt and cut up over it, it's not the kind of situation you want to be in and you don't allow yourself to be if you find yourself in it...that's the choice you need to make. They all move on, doesn't matter what you had, or how she felt for you or what not...once women decide it's over and move on, they throw the vagina and heart at another guy, it's part of the casual process of getting over another guy. Now the only reason she's even conflicted with this is because she knows that the guy she's with now isn't exactly what she wants...in fact he's probably unavailable and isn't as interested in her as she is him..she's probably having a hard time tying the guy down into a relationship. And that's when your dopey @ss comes into the picture...thinking you're a changed man and going to save the world and her heart..she likes the attention, and now she actually has a choice...but neither choice is that great or ideal...in fact she'd probably already been done with you if whatever was wrong with the situation with the other guy was magically fixed...which it won't be. So nothing being entirely perfect...and after all, you left her once already, there's really little incentive for her to move from her position....go backwards to the same thing? eh, what's the fun in that...that didn't work out. But with the NEW GUY, ohhhh the possibilities are endless...if only "X" was fixed. You're fighting a losing battle...in fact you're way too available and easy now, I doubt she's going to have little attraction towards you...before it was probably her trying to chase you and make you happy but now it's you crawling at the floor after all...that's not very attractive, I mean I'm sure likes it and is soaking it up, but she's not that interested in it anymore...especially now with this new guy involved. So you need to realize it's not the same anymore...things have changed....times have changed...there's a new sheriff in town and you're kind of old news. The best case scenario is she falls back on you because this other guy eventually kicks her to the curb, but it'll never go back to what you had before the break-up or whatever...if you're even being realistic...all you care about is winning her back and you think good times will come after that...but they won't, and you'll see...even if you "win" her back which is more of her just deciding to do so because some guy claims to love her now, it won't be the same and you'll have other problems. Do yourself a favor and take the advice of someone much wiser than yourself...and move on, before you learn the hard way why I was right...the beauty of life is, no matter how many lessons are taught...most people have to do them anyway just to learn the same damn lesson...isn't life and "love" grand? good luck making a fool out of yourself, it ain't the same girl anymore. 1
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