Mark1 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 (edited) I’ll try to be brief: December 2013: -I worked at Barnes and Noble -Met an awesome women -Remembered her name, added her on FB, she lives 8 hours away and is only in my town every so often to visit family Summer 2014: -I’m in her town for a wedding -I message her asking if she wants to meet up. (Keep in mind, we hadn’t talked at all on FB before this) -I figure I'd get a reply that just says "hey, i'm busy but thanks.' Instead, she sends "I'm out of town this weekend, but I'll be in your town in September, wanna get coffee?" -I figure this initiative is good. September 2014: -September comes around and we meet up in my town for coffee -Had a lot of fun -Afterwards she gave me a kiss on the cheek and messaged me that night saying I'm "awesome" and shed "love to do it again." Also she paid for the coffee even though I insisted. December 2014 -I messaged her to see if she was around for the holidays in my town. -She says, “how about the 26th?” -I tell her “sure, thats my birthday, that’ll be fun!” She replies “I can treat you to cake!” -We get pizza/cake. She lets me pick her up from her parents house. -Great conversation, but not much flirting/touching on her end -She said she hates meeting guys at bars because she's not into the one night stand thing and she can't imagine having sex with someone she can't see herself in a relationship with (I figured this was a bad sign, that she said this) -On the other hand, she asked me what I like about older women, which sounds like she's interested. -She does however, tell me I have great eyes, got me a card and chocolate for my bday and paid for dinner -She then tells me she wants me to meet her family, and she’s already told them all about me, and where we met, and my picture. -We go back to her parents house and I chill with her family for an hour or so, really fun. Unfortunately she sat on one end of the room, and she sat on the other. I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of mixed signals. On one hand she treats me for my birthday when we barely know each other, and invites me over to her family, and let me pick her up, and told her family about me. On the other hand she didn’t flirt much, and jokingly commented how I was so young (I’m 26 she’s 45), which is a sign she is uncomfortable with the age difference. It seemed to me she wanted a FWB for when she’s in town visiting her family, but now I’m thinking she just wants to be friends. Which is fine, but I was surprised she just wanted to be friends considered our age difference. Afterwards she gave me a hug and said she’d call me soon and happy birthday. I messaged her after saying "thanks for the bday gifts, you are wonderful," and she replied "my family loved you. I think you're wonderful too!" Thoughts? I just want to know I’m not crazy to think I got mixed signals. Edited December 27, 2014 by Mark1
Country_Girl Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I think u need to make a move, she might be in a little disbelief you are interested given the age difference. I'm a woman, I think she's interested. I only pay for guys meals /dates/drinks for those I am interested in. I mean I have paid for guy friends but it was more like I owed them gas money for a hiking trip. Plus, there's no reason for her to tell her family about u if u are just a friend. I only tell my mom about guys I am interested in. I don't tell her about guys I am just friends with and have no interest in. I say ask her to dinner and say it's your treat. And make move. Gently touch her arm/wrist/shoulder in conversation to build report. 1
Author Mark1 Posted December 27, 2014 Author Posted December 27, 2014 I think u need to make a move, she might be in a little disbelief you are interested given the age difference. I'm a woman, I think she's interested. I only pay for guys meals /dates/drinks for those I am interested in. I mean I have paid for guy friends but it was more like I owed them gas money for a hiking trip. Plus, there's no reason for her to tell her family about u if u are just a friend. I only tell my mom about guys I am interested in. I don't tell her about guys I am just friends with and have no interest in. I say ask her to dinner and say it's your treat. And make move. Gently touch her arm/wrist/shoulder in conversation to build report. I did that and got nothing!!
Country_Girl Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I did that and got nothing!! Try one more time. There was a date I had with a guy I liked but I wasn't very responsive, I was a little in shock and didn't know what to do. Give it one more date, if she isn't receptive during/ after then u have your answer. Try to pay her a compliment during dinner and note the reaction. If she enjoys the compliment she will either blush/smile/be coy/or thank you. 70% of communication is non verbal, if she's not feeling it, u should be able to tell by her facial expression that the compliment is not invited. 1
Tayken Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 @OP.....sometimes you really have to be consistent with that "making a move" (but not in an aggressive way). Some women misinterpret the subtle move, and need to be handheld i.e. drawn a map. I highly doubt this woman went through all this length, only to treat you as her son. She wants that magic stick, and the sooner you dangle it in front of her, the better maestro 1
Satu Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 She sounds really nice. Arrange that second date.
preraph Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 She sounds like she's really tight with her family. I don't know too many 45 year olds who'd dare bring a young guy over to meet them that they barely know because you can usually expect shock and derision -- and that's what leads me to believe she's thinking of you as a friend. Otherwise, there'd have been tension with her family. She does sound nice.
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