NopeNah Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Not saying I want to see her and a guy hanging out, I just dont go anywhere she is..anywhere! Talking to a few girls,not looking for anything(they know),doing what I want... Just not sure that I 100% want to hop in to anything right now...weird!
kenmore Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Hi prayingfordaylight, I have struggled with "doing anything" for awhile. I feel so alone. My history, my first wife died in 2007 (yes, that's when my history starts lol. I was fantastic before that!) I was in a pit of depression. I joined a forum just like this one but for widow(er)s. It was mostly women. I had fun there for that reason and they had fun with me (one of the only men around.) Eventually, several of them told me to try dating in my area. I think they were tiring of me I took their advice and found my current soon-to-be-ex wife. It was so wonderful! I have been happy since...except for the last six months. My own past is telling me that I need to be careful. I know I'm damaged goods right now and won't subject a woman to that! Anyway, I'm not sure what you're asking, but if it's advice about whether you should get serious with someone now, I think you answered your own question in your post. No, you shouldn't. You are not ready. If you have to ask, then you're not. When you date someone, you need to be able to give if not 100%, at least a solid 90%. Nobody is perfect and nobody ever gets completely over their ex, but if you are still hurting, you are not ready IMO. You seem ready to give about 60%, and that number is based upon solid science gleaned from your two sentence post LOL
Author NopeNah Posted December 27, 2014 Author Posted December 27, 2014 Sorry about your first wife...thats horrible! I like to get it out on here instead of bothering the friends with it.... They are done with it,as they should be.. BAD! I know I dont need to get in to another relationship.. Just looks like thats all any lady wants(33+ plus)...ehhh...ill lay off for a bit.
kenmore Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Thank you for your condolences. Yes it is horrible! But, post away here. You are right to vent here rather than bother your friends. I'm sure they mean well, but nobody wants to be around someone who is always talking about how rotten they feel or asking for advice which once given will most likely fall of deaf ears. I say that because I believe that deep inside all of us, we know the answers we seek. Many of us are here for one of two reasons: Validation or a strong kick in the ass! It's much easier to give someone that kick here than it is face to face, and if it's validation someone needs, it's available here from many people going through the same thing. Take care, I hope things improve for you sooner rather than later.
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