smg15 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 My mom is constantly arguing with her sisters like she is 15 and just turned 61 years old. And then she wants to call me and tell me about why she is mad at them and I had to let her know that starting Jan 1st, I don't want to hear about the 2 sisters she is upset with. Why can't she just squash it and arrange a meet up for lunch instead of bickering like teens. You would think women 55 and older would not be involved in this silly mess 3
bathtub-row Posted December 28, 2014 Posted December 28, 2014 It's extremely childish, and even more childish that she involves you. Some people just never grow up, I suppose. 1
Author smg15 Posted December 28, 2014 Author Posted December 28, 2014 It's extremely childish, and even more childish that she involves you. Some people just never grow up, I suppose. Yup that's why I told her as of Jan 1st I don't want to hear anything else about it
purpleprincess75 Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Do they argue over anything in particular or just quarrel all the time over nothing? Either way, I agree, she needs to keep you out of it.
ASG Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 My mom and my aunt are the same these days... It's not an all the time thing, but due to circumstances, I feel like my mom is now ready to go at any minor thing. The last was on Christmas eve. Supposedly my aunt had a massive go at my mom about exchanging presents. She then bitches to me about it. I have never actually seen them arguing, so only hear the ONE side of the story. They make up all the time as well. But it's becoming very exhausting... And my mom is becoming a very exhausting person to be around, as she's very negative all the time, these days (with some good reason, but still!) 2
Satu Posted December 30, 2014 Posted December 30, 2014 Why can't she just squash it and arrange a meet up for lunch instead of bickering like teens. You would think women 55 and older would not be involved in this silly mess Family structures are very rigid, inflexible, and hard to change. People have roles they didn't necessarily get to choose, and are often involved in power games they don't want to play. Abandon all hope - they'll never be very different 4
preraph Posted January 1, 2015 Posted January 1, 2015 Sibling rivalry never goes away. My mom had 12 siblings and though fairly close, the sisters bickered over everything from whose cobbler crust was best to who showed up at someone's sickbed with who. One of the aunts gets puffed up at everyone and stops talking for periods of time. No one ever knows exactly why. But then they all got mad at her for bringing in her priest and trying to convert one of the dying brothers on his deathbed. (She's a religious zealot.) They can get quite snippy. It never ends. If you have any siblings, you should sort of get it. If not, I can see why you're puzzled. My mother was fairly good about not involving me too much in their squabbles, but I overheard and witnessed stuff. 3
Author smg15 Posted January 1, 2015 Author Posted January 1, 2015 Sibling rivalry never goes away. My mom had 12 siblings and though fairly close, the sisters bickered over everything from whose cobbler crust was best to who showed up at someone's sickbed with who. One of the aunts gets puffed up at everyone and stops talking for periods of time. No one ever knows exactly why. But then they all got mad at her for bringing in her priest and trying to convert one of the dying brothers on his deathbed. (She's a religious zealot.) They can get quite snippy. It never ends. If you have any siblings, you should sort of get it. If not, I can see why you're puzzled. My mother was fairly good about not involving me too much in their squabbles, but I overheard and witnessed stuff. Just surprising that it's going on when one is 57 and the other is 62
preraph Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 Patterns formed in childhood with siblings are kind of hard-wired. 1
UpwardForward Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 My mom is constantly arguing with her sisters like she is 15 and just turned 61 years old. And then she wants to call me and tell me about why she is mad at them and I had to let her know that starting Jan 1st, I don't want to hear about the 2 sisters she is upset with. Why can't she just squash it and arrange a meet up for lunch instead of bickering like teens. You would think women 55 and older would not be involved in this silly mess I've never known it any other way. My husband was a middle child and always resented his older brother. They were in competition, didn't speak to one another, (or fought) - for years. etc etc My mother was a middle child and hates her older sister and hasn't spoken to her in at least 24 years. I'm an only child. And Hooray for me! Have always taught my sons the importance of loyalty toward one another - and they Are. But probably would have been, anyway. 1
UpwardForward Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 It's extremely childish, and even more childish that she involves you. Some people just never grow up, I suppose. Exactly. The same as those who do these things, make life hell for others in having to listen to it. My father died in self-defense. Now my sons, grandson, and myself have to listen to it. People like this, think everything's about themselves. Oblivious to others' burdens.
pink_sugar Posted January 2, 2015 Posted January 2, 2015 My aunt and mom are well into their 40's and don't get along.
Leegh Posted January 11, 2015 Posted January 11, 2015 My mom and my aunt are the same these days... It's not an all the time thing, but due to circumstances, I feel like my mom is now ready to go at any minor thing. The last was on Christmas eve. Supposedly my aunt had a massive go at my mom about exchanging presents. She then bitches to me about it. I have never actually seen them arguing, so only hear the ONE side of the story. They make up all the time as well. But it's becoming very exhausting... And my mom is becoming a very exhausting person to be around, as she's very negative all the time, these days (with some good reason, but still!) Yes, exhausting is a great word for people who are negative all the time. Being around negative people can truly make a person feel tired, fatigued and exhausted.
La Trese Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 Tell me about it. I have this petty ass aunt who is 60 right about now. Her and my mom haven't spoken in over 20 years because my dad (who my mom is divorced from now "disrespected" my aunt by refusing to have my 1st birthday at her house instead of our own house and my mom admitted she agreed with him on that one. For 20 years my aunt is hellbent on being a bitch to my mom for such a stupid argument LOL. And my grandma will not help she just stirs the pot even more. 1
Mittens Posted January 12, 2015 Posted January 12, 2015 My mother is in her mid 70s and still has petty arguments with her brothers and sisters. It never ends.
Radu Posted January 13, 2015 Posted January 13, 2015 When i was 14 we moved into a nice house and our neighbour was this nice old lady. A few yrs ago she got sick and i managed to find out her life story. She married a guy who got widowed who had 3 girls. She had another 4 girls with him, so basically 7 sisters overall. You would not believe the amount of bitching, of drama, of stress over her and her property. At least half of them are paying attention like hawks to make sure they don't lose out on the property, on the inheritence [which is not even enough to buy a car by today]. They constantly try to involve the neighbours [us] in their petty squabbles. When this old lady's dog had major problems, they would not even authorize vet care for it. That dog was her best and last friend, it broke her heart when he died.
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