sanne Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Wow, well this rollercoaster of a relationship has finally come to a complete halt. I'm pretty positive that it is over for good this time. We've broken up in the past only to get back together a day later, but this time I think its for good. We actually broke up a week ago, but decided we'd try being friends with benefits so we were still sleeping with each other. I was hoping we could keep this up, and keep the relationship light so that we would both have time to ourselves to work things out. On Tuesday, we went to Disneyland together and had an amazing time there. However, we fought again at night at the hotel because she was tired and wanted to sleep right away. Well it was all downhill from there, and let's just say that I think I've finally pushed her completely away from me. I've been debating being her friend, but I don't think that is a good idea as my intentions are not purely friendly. I know I would be setting myself up for a lot of hurt. So i've decided NC is the way to go. I still love her so much, and miss her like crazy, but I know that when I had her and when I was with her I was never completely happy. It really sucks because when we get along, we get along amazingly well and have the most amazing time together. But we just couldn't make that last or keep it up. I still want to be with her though, despite all of our problems. I want to get back together and give it another go. I just don't want to erase her from my life, but I know this is what I have to do. It's going to suck, I'm going to be miserable, but I'll be better off for it in the long run. She has taught me a lot about relationships and life itself, and has made me realize a lot of things about myself. I have strong willpower, but this will be the hardest thing for me to do ever. There is no more future to look forward to with her, we are completely over as a couple. I don't even think we would work out as friends to be honest. We just had the kind of relationship that was full of passion, I don't think people like us could ever be friends.
supergirl7777 Posted March 24, 2005 Posted March 24, 2005 Hey sanne i know what you mean, it's hard but ask yourself what went wrong? why did it happen? if there is no hope then you are right you must move on, yeah cut contact with her for a while, or at least until you feel strong enough to be able to talk to her, you see that what i'm doing with my ex i havent seen or talked to him for a month, i had to let him go because he wasent in love with me anymore, he was confused and his indifference hurt me so much, but hey i'm supergirl or i pretend i am, you must be strong buddy to get on with life, when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. Remember you will always have all of us for advice, good luck and hang in there. Supergirl
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted March 25, 2005 Posted March 25, 2005 If you dont think it can work as a long term, then NC is probably the best way to go. That's all I can come up with seeing as my 6month relationship is ending and we are both still in love. We have nothing in common, don't really do the same things, it's very passionate though and we make each other feel good on an emotional level. My bf is going away for a few months, so that will help with the NC, but does that help stop the loving feelings? What happens when he's back?
acidrein_08 Posted March 26, 2005 Posted March 26, 2005 Your situation is very similair to mine a few years ago and probably to most loveshackers here. The fact that things were great when you got along and you had so much fun with this individual still does not erase the fact that you couldn't maintain that and no matter how great the good times were if you argue all the time and find yourself unhappy then chances are they are not the right person for you. But you never know maybe they are 'the one' for you but maybe the time is wrong, so for now I think you should continue no contact, get out and have fun by yourself. Learn from your mistakes and use it in your next relationship, whether it be with her or not. I wish you the best of luck, God Bless.
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