NOHOPE-LEFT-HERE Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 i know that many on here will probably think i shouldn't have but just couldn't sit back and do nothing. bought xmas gifts for separated wife from our kids,was something i know she really needed and was not expecting something like that as it was expensive took them over to give them to my kids,but she opened the door, she wasnt horrid or anything just said thanks,it was really awkward,cant explain how it just felt,but loved seeing her, walked away and just felt empty inside she msg me christmas day and all it said was thanks for the presents no emotion no feelings,no happy Christmas etc just feel empty inside,thinking things are never going to change think its time to just vanish from her life for good.....i feel that would make her very happy
NopeNah Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I also got/held to nothing. The $$$ that was to be spent on her was instead spent on trips and gifts for my teenage daughter. I did send her son,that I helped raise, a gift..
Habs33 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I think it was very nice you got her presents from the kids. I am sure your kids appreciated it as well. You are a good person for doing.
road Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I think it was very nice you got her presents from the kids. I am sure your kids appreciated it as well. You are a good person for doing. Good works do not get the apparent recognition they deserve.
kenmore Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 You're not alone, I bought gifts for separated wife and step daughter and her entire family too. I got simple thank yous too. I got one gift this year, and that was an hour and a half with her. Many will think that's stupid, but it was all I had hoped for. You know what? You did something that was right for YOU. I have been saying this here for days or even weeks (I haven't been here very long.) Do what makes you feel better, holier, more fulfilled, righteous, equal, or even revenged IF THAT'S WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART! I'm relatively new here but not new to grieving for a wife. I lost my first wife to death in 2007, and I lost this wife to separation (now divorce) in July. I don't need people to tell me how to feel, how to act or how to respond, I'm here to either help others or get advice I can use or sympathy / empathy. Sometimes I have moments of weakness and it's nice to have ears to tell who understand, and I can't afford counseling. That said, I will do what's in my heart no matter what, because it's who I am, not who some other person in a forum is. Rejoice in giving and take that as your gift. giving is what it's all about, and I feel so much better for giving my gifts this year than I would have if I got gifts and didn't return them. Peace to you, and I wish you better in the coming year! Ken
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