Broke up 2 months ago, but EX called to apologize and a week later blocks me

[TB1608]

Ex called to apologise for how he treated and to say he's single again, then got back with new girlfriend a week later and blocked me.

 

I dated this guy for about 5 months and he pulled the "slow fade" where he slowly stopped responding to my text messages and calls. He never really ended things until I found out he was seeing someone else, and when I called him he just flat out said he was with someone else and seemed pretty content with his decision. I felt horrible but stopped all contact. He said he was sorry for how it happened but that was it.

 

I blocked him from social media and whatsapp, and I didn't talk with any of his friends. I pretty much went NC for over a month until he called.

 

About a month and a half later, he calls me from another number and says he wants to apologise for how he treated me. We talked for a while and he revealed that he was no longer in a relationship with this previous girl who ended up being a huge party girl and he didnt trust her. This girl is 5 years younger than him, shes 19 and doesn't go to school, just parties etc and hes 24 and just started a new job and I'm 28 so our age differences are huge... I had heard about this girl from friends and told him I knew all the things he had just found out about her but I didn't want to get in the middle of anything. He said I was always so nice with him and should have told him. He wanted us to remain friends and asked me to unblock him but it was all a bit bizarre since he talked so badly about this girl and said he would not get back with her. He asked me to unblock him and to message him whenever I wanted.

 

I unblocked him and I went back on fb (I had been off the entire time we broke up), but I didn't message him after we talked because I found out he had just broken up with that girl the DAY he called me. IT seems like he waited to talk to me before breaking up with her since I had info about this girl because a mutual friend knows her very well so he kepts asking questions about her to see if I knew if she was slutty etc. I felt it was all about weird and wanted to give it time...and about 2 weeks later I found out he was seeing the new girl once again and blocked ME this time. I had no idea what had happened this time. I was so confused and angry and felt duped. In our convo the week before, he revealed horrible things about her to me and talked horribly about her which made me even more angry that he would now go back and not answer my calls, and simply texted me back saying, "I only called you to say sorry and that was it" and blocked me. I found out that during the 6 weeks they dated, he put up a million things on fb about them and how happy they were. He called her the best girlfriend ever (He never did that with me and wouldn't tell people we were dating) And just two days before calling me, he made their relationship official on fb which is pretty embarrassing as they broke up two days after and he immediately called me. I don't get why he would pretend his life is perfect with her on facebook then a day later breaks up with her and calls me. He told me she was acting weird and he didnt trust her.

 

Here's my mistake: Out of pure fury and resentment, I then told the girl everything he told me about her and told her he had contacted me just a week prior to them getting back together. I told her how weird it was for him to say all he did was apologize to me. But why the apology? WAs is it resentment? Why did he call me so quickly after and more importantly, i feel like he thinks us talking bad about her made him make a rash decision and thus its my fauly now, and now him getting back together with her a week later and deleting me was an obvious reaction.

 

He called me to yell at me a few minutes after I sent her a message. He was livid but I hung up after he said to stay out of his life. I told him he was the one who called me again and to stay out of mine as well but I now feel sad and angry and regret telling the girl everything, but feel like she had a right to know he was calling me.

 

I feel horrible and angry with myself. I know I shouldnt have called him or worse yet- told her he did, but I was so confused and now I don't know what to do. They only dated a month and a half so im sure in a few weeks they will break up again since it seems like they are doomed and he doesnt know what he wants, but I just don;t know what to do or say if I see him again. I feel like he just wanted to see me miserable

[EgoJoe]

Move on with your self respect and the knowledge of his immaturity and pathetic behavior.

[Ieris]

Don't feel bad about what you did, he deserves it. He didn't treat you with any respect so he shouldn't expect any in return. He wants to see you miserable, well then don't give him the satisfaction, more forward and leave him in the dust.

 

I have had girls call me up before letting me know what my bf was up to and I am extremely grateful that they did. You're simply letting the other girl know how two faced he is and that is a good thing so another girl doesn't get hurt by this loser.