If a guy adds me on FB, does it mean anything?

[soyou]

I had a casual hook-up with this guy 3 times more than a month ago.

 

He did something stupid and disrespectul toward me, so I stopped contact with him immeditely. He aplogised twice but I never responded.

 

2 days ago, he added me on FB after a month of NC. I was surpised. I never add any of my hook-ups on my fb since FB is quite a personal thing for me.

 

I accepted his request anyway because I was curious what he was up tp.

 

Later that night he texted me on FB" where were we? ;-)"

 

I told him that what he did was very disrepectful and I refused to accept that behavior.

 

He replied 'I ackwlowedge that what I did was very disrespecful and therefore I had apologised twice but you never responded. You should at least have been mature enough to tell me that you didnt accept my behavior. I'm cool with leaving it as the way it is. Enjoy your holidays"

 

 

I told him that "you're forgiven. Enjoy your holidays too"

 

No more response.

 

I'm curious to know What his motive is behind adding me on fb?

[cactusgal]

So he can hook up with you again.

[Rydo]

So he can hook up with you again.

 

I agree, this is a very obvious one.

[Kamila]

So if a guy doesn't add you on FB, that means ... ?

[Rydo]

So if a guy doesn't add you on FB, that means ... ?

 

He doesn't think about you or want to be friends? He lost his computer in a poker game? He lost his fingers in a jam jar accident? Etc etc.

[Tayken]

So if a guy doesn't add you on FB, that means ... ?

 

 

Very good question Lets not forget, this guy "disrespected her", but she still decided that his friend request was worth it, as she "wanted to see what he has been up to"....more like pry into his business

 

You have to wonder what goes through the head of some people when they complain that a guy / gal has been nasty to them, but then they go and open themselves back up for more agony

[soyou]

Thanks everyone for the opnions. Sometimes, all I need are such direct, harsh, and diffucult to swallow piece of advices like this.

[DancinBallerina]

Usually to be nosey . . find out more about you, gawp at your pictures and etc? That is what I have found! . . .

[d0nnivain]

It doesn't mean anything good or significant.

 

 

If he was already disrespectful, what do you think changed?

[thelonewolflegend]

How was he disrespectful

[Kamila]

I don't use FB anymore. I prefer real human interactions.

[fred123]

facebook isnt great in reading people

[JaneDoe12]

If he was disrespectful towards you, just ignore him. He's not worthy of your time.

[Popsicle]

You should feel satisfied with this interaction and leave it be. I'm actually quite impressed and proud of you for handling it the way you have. Don't screw it up by talking to him more.

[candie13]

be patient. don't do a thing, I am sure that after some time and after your last message, he'll make a move.

 

and if he does not, there are always other men

[soyou]

Thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts.

I've not had any contact with him anymore since the last message and I'm also not going to.

 

What he did which I found so disrespectful and therefore decided to cut off everything altogether was:

 

A month ago, we agreed to go out for a dinner together. We agreed to meet at 17:00 at my place and fron there we went out together.

 

10mins before the dinner date, he texted me that the night before he had too much drinks and he was so ****ed up now, having a terrible hangover (his national sport team won a big time that night). And he was sorry, I'd make it up to me next time.

 

I removed his contact and didnt reply.

2 days later he texted again and said that he was sorry and how was my day.

 

I blocked his number and didnt reply.

 

A few weeks later, he found and added me on FB. That's where and why I created this post to see what his real intention was.

 

But doesnt matter what it is. That chapter has been closed. I dont feel bothered about it anymore