Would you date someone HIV +

[gaius]

Erm, HIV is not airborne. You also need to be HIV before you get Aids. I suggest you read this:

 

AIDS Resource Alliance - About Us

You knew that was sarcasm, you're just mad about the ebola crack. What imaginary back woods people have you dreamed up that actually still think you can get Aids from a sneeze? I'm pretty sure even the Africans who run around blaming Ebola on voodoo are aware of how HIV is transmitted at this point after all the educational initiatives.

 

The bottom line is, despite your friends feelings, lot's of people still die from HIV/Aids and it's perfectly fine to not pretend it's somehow not a big deal and say you wouldn't date someone like that, because you don't want to wait a month after the condom breaks to find out if you're stuck taking expensive medication for the rest of your life or dying a slow and painful death. That is if you're lucky enough and the treatment goes perfectly in the first place.

 

And that's all I really have to say about that. I have to go do laundry.

[anne1707]

You knew that was sarcasm, you're just mad about the ebola crack.

 

Somehow I think you are back peddling and trying to call it sarcasm as you have been called out on your lack of knowledge.

 

As for your "crack" about Ebola... Well if you think it is funny to "crack" about people dying then go ahead. I doubt many others will join you in that one.

 

 

Oh and don't worry. I am quite sure the person I know who is HIV would not want to date you either.

[No Limit]

No. I wouldn't even get involved with someone who I know has syphilis or one of those other STDs. I'm not putting my health at risk.

 

Yes, I know full well that chance to infect myself can be decreased greatly when taking the right precautions, and I know HIV isn't a death sentence (for the majority who wasn't suffering from a declining health prior to catching it), but I don't want this risk to be ever-present in my relationship, not to mention the sex life.

[SomeDude16]

So y'all are saying that if you were compatible on every level with someone and physically attracted to them, but the only hang up was they had a form of HIV, you would pass them up soley for that reason?

[No Limit]

So y'all are saying that if you were compatible on every level with someone and physically attracted to them, but the only hang up was they had a form of HIV, you would pass them up soley for that reason?

 

Can't speak for the rest of the no-sayers, but yes, it would be enough for me.

To contract HIV through sex you have to leave the condoms away. Is he/she irresponsible? Did he/she sleep around? Of course there are plenty of bad-luck-people who contracted it through just that, bad luck in a one-time-ONS, or the classic case of the cheating partner infecting his partner. Either way, I don't want it around constantly. I'm well aware I can catch God knows what by people who don't have HIV, who knows maybe they just don't know they have it yet, but having it around myself knowingly - no.

 

Would you live at the edge of an active vulcano who didn't break out in centuries so the chance of you burning alive is slim enough?

Besides, there is no perfect partner, even if we leave out medical conditions.

[Danda]

So y'all are saying that if you were compatible on every level with someone and physically attracted to them, but the only hang up was they had a form of HIV, you would pass them up soley for that reason?

 

Frankly I am glad to see the level of honesty in this thread. It makes sense to me that people would find an HIV+ partner frightening to have sex with, and I am glad to see the honesty instead of walls of people being like "Oh yeah sure it'd be chill" in order to look 'deep' and 'good' or whatever. Because I imagine people who are single, HIV+ and trying to date have an absolutely devastating time going about it, and to see a thread full of liars trying to smooth it over would probably just be salt on the wound.

 

For me personally, I would find it very intimidating, but like someone else said, I wouldn't say "never" because I've never met someone who was perfect for men in every way, let alone perfect for me in every way + HIV. If I actually encountered such a 'soul mate' scenario I'm not even sure how it would affect me given that I don't even believe in such things at this point in my life. So who knows.

 

With as common as some STDs are becoming, though, I would think in theory that there would be a large enough pool for people positive with whatever to find others who are also positive with the same virus, and date each other. (?)

[gaius]

Somehow I think you are back peddling and trying to call it sarcasm as you have been called out on your lack of knowledge.

 

As for your "crack" about Ebola... Well if you think it is funny to "crack" about people dying then go ahead. I doubt many others will join you in that one.

 

Oh and don't worry. I am quite sure the person I know who is HIV would not want to date you either.

My "crack" was that you weren't aware of the survival rates of Ebola actually being pretty high overall outside of Africa. Which is fine, not everyone spends a ton of time reading about that boring stuff but don't get all mad about it. =/ When someone teaches you something you're supposed to say thank you.

 

And I bet they would want to date me. If they met me in person. Which would suck cause statistically speaking your friend is probably a guy. =/

 

Not even 1 in 3 people with HIV have their viral loads totally suppressed even with the new medicines so until that changes my answer stays the same. But my friend growing up didn't have trouble finding someone who loved him and didn't mind putting themselves at risk so I doubt your friend should either. And same with everyone else who might be positive.

[anne1707]

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Apologies to the serious posters for the t/j between Gaius and I. I do realise it was a pointless exercise so I am out of here

Edited December 26, 2014 by anne1707