ediebrick Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I have always been curious about the percentage of people who would date someone whom they knew was HIV+.
lollipopspot Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I would never say never, because life throws things at you that you don't expect. Sometimes the person you feel the most for has a big challenge, and you are willing to shoulder the burden with them. But I would certainly not seek it out, and it would definitely be a negative. HIV is not the death sentence that it used to be, and there are married people where one person is HIV positive and the other remains negative. There have even been HIV negative children resulting from such a marriage. 3
Eighty_nine Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 If I fell in love with them prior to knowing, yes. Otherwise, no way.
gaius Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I don't want sex to be like dealing with an Ebola patient, where you always have to take careful precautions or you're at high risk of death. So count me out.
anne1707 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I don't want sex to be like dealing with an Ebola patient, where you always have to take careful precautions or you're at high risk of death. So count me out. HIV is not at all comparable to Ebola in terms of how it is transmitted. Yes you have to take precautions but it is still possible to have a sex life (and to even have children). Those with HIV have pretty much comparable lifespans to those who are not HIV due to the vastly improved medical care now available. It is not an automatic death sentence so your "high risk of death" comment is also inaccurate. 4
most_distant_galaxy Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 No, I would be very scared to have sex with them.
Satu Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I wouldn't, but that doesn't mean it's wrong to.
ASG Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 If I knew before hand, probably not. But if it came to light afterwards, maybe.
gaius Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 HIV is not at all comparable to Ebola in terms of how it is transmitted. Yes you have to take precautions but it is still possible to have a sex life (and to even have children). Those with HIV have pretty much comparable lifespans to those who are not HIV due to the vastly improved medical care now available. It is not an automatic death sentence so your "high risk of death" comment is also inaccurate. No, the lifestyle is absolutely comparable. I grew up knowing a guy who had it and his wife who didn't and they were occasionally having scares where something would happen and then she would have to wait and wait and wait wondering if she actually caught it or not. It was a horribly stressful way to live. That I'm not interested in. Just like it is when you get exposed to ebola. The poor CDC worker that just got exposed is living the life you do dating someone with HIV right now. I think you're forgetting that something like over 90% of people survive Ebola when they're not in Africa and have access to the best healthcare now, just like with HIV/Aids.
anne1707 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I'm not forgetting anything Gaius. You are talking about somebody who you knew when you were growing up, ie a few years ago, or more even, before the medical care and knowledge was as good as it is today. Whereas I know someone NOW who is HIV+ and how they live their life in full.
SomeDude16 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 "To stay by your side in sickness and in health" if I love her, sure why not? 1
gaius Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I'm not forgetting anything Gaius. You are talking about somebody who you knew when you were growing up, ie a few years ago, or more even, before the medical care and knowledge was as good as it is today. Whereas I know someone NOW who is HIV+ and how they live their life in full. Then they're one of the lucky ones. Even with all the advances it's by no means a disease that's fully cured or worry free, there are still plenty of people who die from it every year in countries other than Africa. Last I heard it was still in the top 10 of how men around 20-45 die in the US. 1
kolleamm Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I want a meaningful relationship and a good sex life but being with someone that has HIV would be a pretty steep deal breaker for me, how could I possibly enjoy sex with them? I'd have to get tested everytime so I could sleep at night.
anne1707 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 No, this person is not lucky. They suffer from the judgemental attitudes of ignorant people who do not realise that they don't catch HIV by just being in close proximity to them (unlike Ebola). 1
gaius Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 No, this person is not lucky. They suffer from the judgemental attitudes of ignorant people who do not realise that they don't catch HIV by just being in close proximity to them (unlike Ebola). Yes Anne, that's exactly what I said. That people sneeze on you and you can get Aids. Not that usually you can't tell if you've gotten HIV or not the day after you've been exposed so it's always a wait and worry game. Like with Ebola.
MsSmurf Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 If I was also HIV+ then sure, but since I am not no. I feel the same way about other std's that never go away though. I just do not want the added hassle and stress.
anne1707 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 Yes Anne, that's exactly what I said. That people sneeze on you and you can get Aids. Not that usually you can't tell if you've gotten HIV or not the day after you've been exposed so it's always a wait and worry game. Like with Ebola. Erm, HIV is not airborne. You also need to be HIV before you get Aids. I suggest you read this: AIDS Resource Alliance - About Us 1
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