scubasteve Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 So I don't know where to begin. I am a emotional wreck now. I kind of felt betray by my long distance crushed. Now when I first saw her online, what draw to me was we liked the same stuff. I loved how she looked, etc. We hit it off extremely well. I didn't see all these red flags in our relationship cause I was blind with love. She pretty much used ne has a emotional tampon, rebound or what ever you like to say it.Cause she still had feelings for her ex, she broke up with me. Cause she wasn't sure of her feelings for me or her ex. Now she has thr urge to tell me yeah me and my ex talked last mont and tells me we sorta are dating. I gave this girl my top priority, I made sure I put her needs over mine. I treated her well, with respect, nice etc. I was there for her, I stayed up really late to talk on the phone when she got out of work. I tried everything to go no communication, I even tell her I'm taking a break. She just texts me like nothing has happened. I cant move on it seems, I have hard core feelings for her even though she played me like a fiddle, used me to get back together with her ex. She constantly tells me about how great her job is, when I'm trying go find a job but it's hard in my state. I know she's not coming back, I don't think I can accept her if things don't work out with her ex. Since she's keeping me on the back burner. Idk what to do at this point.
DontBreak Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 Hello my friend I've been there it seems that she still has hooks in you So every time she txts it sets you back My ex would do it - she would message saying how great things are etc When I asked for space - I had some great advice from the people here You need to BLOCK not Delete otherwise it's pointless Block her number block her Facebook block her email She didn't give a **** about you when she went back to her ex So don't give her the satisfaction BLOCK BLOCK BLOCK!! You WILL feel better for it I promise
Satu Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 If your life feels like it's going down the drain, it's because you are pouring it down the drain. It's about you, not her. 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 Since you seem to have a problem with responding to her texts, I suggest you get the auto-reply app that does it best, You can set a preset message to be delivered to her as a reply, Something witty and straightforward would be the best I surmise. I've done the same thing, it actually worked out quite well, For every text that she sent, she got an immediate response from my cell, My app was set up to deliver a text with the message "I don't care", After 10 or so texts and few months, she finally gave up in despair, 2
Author scubasteve Posted December 26, 2014 Author Posted December 26, 2014 Is she using me for the attention, everytime she texts me. Cause her ex is not evolve or giving her the attention
NopeNah Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 She still keeps you around as a just in case. Stop talking to her.
lollipopspot Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 Is she using me for the attention, everytime she texts me. Cause her ex is not evolve or giving her the attention steve, it doesn't matter what she's doing or why. She's a distraction from your real issues. I read your first post as a cry for help - you say your whole life is going down the drain! You ought best to focus on yourself, not a lady, this one or any other. You need to be o.k. in yourself, whether this lady gives you the attention you crave or not. If you could imagine what a good life would be like for you, without a relationship, what would it be? What job would you have, where would you live, what would your hobbies be? Can you start to move towards those goals? In the past when I've found myself obsessing on a relationship that wasn't happening, I realized that I was using it as a distraction from focusing on other areas of my life that were difficult. In reality you have more control over those other things than you do over if someone likes you.
NopeNah Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 steve, it doesn't matter what she's doing or why. She's a distraction from your real issues. I read your first post as a cry for help - you say your whole life is going down the drain! You ought best to focus on yourself, not a lady, this one or any other. You need to be o.k. in yourself, whether this lady gives you the attention you crave or not. If you could imagine what a good life would be like for you, without a relationship, what would it be? What job would you have, where would you live, what would your hobbies be? Can you start to move towards those goals? In the past when I've found myself obsessing on a relationship that wasn't happening, I realized that I was using it as a distraction from focusing on other areas of my life that were difficult. In reality you have more control over those other things than you do over if someone likes you. good post!
DontBreak Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I don't want to sound harsh here my friend going through my own issues BUT it seems the contact is doing you no good - Why don't you block her number ? Take the power back for you ?
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