For you men, did losing your virginity make it easier for you to approach women?

[Trenton100]

Did it improve your confidence with women? Did it make it easier for you to date and find girlfriends?

 

 

Nope. Sex is only part of it.

[Danda]

Not really. Thats not what she wants to hear. She wants to hear he knows what he is doing.

 

I'm sorry, but you can't read my mind, nor the minds of anyone, men or women. Not trying to be sassy with you, but it's important for people to understand this, because not understanding this leads to an ocean of totally unnecessary fear, anger and shame.

 

Some women do want to hear that a guy knows what he's doing. Some women would be relieved to know that he's inexperienced and that it's not something wrong with her. Some women, like myself, find the idea of teaching an inexperienced guy to be fun and potentially even kinky-style fun. Some women will not care either way.

 

But what we can say almost for certain, is that a woman who is upset if you're a virgin, is not the right women to lose your virginity with.

[nofeelings22]

People make too much out of virginity... men and women.

 

It does absolutely nothing. There is nothing positive or negative about losing it. It's just the first time you've done something. That's it!

 

The first time you go skiing or water skiing doesn't change your life. It's just some fun you had. You probably aren't very much better at it the second time you go, either.

 

Losing virginity is literally nothing.

 

It would be a lot better for people's mental health if we just called it having sex the first time.

[E-Squared]

I remember this one girl, who gave me crap for being a virgin a long time ago, said that I can gain more confidence once I have sex for the first time. To be perfectly honest, I think she was a b***h about the whole thing of me being a virgin, but I will admit that I was justifiably defensive with her.

[MGX]

Yes. Made me think "if it happened before it can happen again."

 

This.

 

Definitely this.

 

For guys who have always had trouble getting female attention in their formative years, actual positive reinforcement goes much farther than any pep talk. Once you encounter that first woman who actually wants to be sexual with you, women in general cease to be some evasive myth or fantasy and everything changes. The resulting experience tells you that you CAN be with others. It might not be easy, but it CAN happen again.

[NGC1300]

I don't understand why some young men think getting laid will change anything with regard to their success with women.

 

I lost my virginity at age 18, and 12 years and some bad experiences later, I've just become more and more isolated and generally apathetic to women in general.

 

Of course, that's just me. However I think the "high" of getting laid will last a couple days at best, then you'll be back to your old self. Getting laid certainly didn't make approaching women any easier.

[MGX]

I don't understand why some young men think getting laid will change anything with regard to their success with women.

 

I lost my virginity at age 18, and 12 years and some bad experiences later, I've just become more and more isolated and generally apathetic to women in general.

 

Of course, that's just me. However I think the "high" of getting laid will last a couple days at best, then you'll be back to your old self. Getting laid certainly didn't make approaching women any easier.

 

Well, that "success" or "confidence" has to begin somewhere! Some guys might start believing that they are some special case where it is impossible for them to date women before their first success happens, especially if they keep failing at getting dates, let alone sex.