screwed up

[phuqdithappened]

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Join Date: Dec 2014

 

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screwed up and lost

 

Was with my lady over 6 years we have a son together and both of us have a previous daughter from past relationship. We started out good then I caught her texting her ex about a little over a year into our relationship. This kinda screwed with my mentality about her and I started talking to another woman shortly after. I had a sort of side relationship but I was not full filled with my side play. I love my lady . Well about 2 years ago she found out I had been messing around **** was hectic for a while but we decided to stay together and work it out....unfortunately I didn't do much to change in my mentality department and my guilt lead me to insecurities. I want the best boyfriend.......... any who last week 12/18/14 she came home and showed up with her parents and sister and told me she was leaving....right out the blue in my head for a bit....but as I started looking into my relating hip I noticed my short commings. I know I'm not perfect and may not deserve a 2nd chance, but I love her so much I love my kids so much. I am willing to do what I must to have these kids smiling and together again as well as my ex and I in each others arms........I've looked into whether I need or want her. Whether it's a good decision. And it is. This girl gave me 120 percent. And do to my communicating lack of confidence and great ignoring abilities I've lost her...... please help.. I know it won't be easy to try to get her back. But i. Willing to do it........I made a mistake and am human..........but I know what it is I want.... she has brought out a side of me I never k we was there. She pushed me to better myself and I enrolled in school and am only less the 10 units from graduating now..... this woman has my heart.... she owns it..... and I want her heart back . Please help. Please don't beat me up about it....I'm in such a bad place I hate seeing my/our kids crying and sad...I know it's my fault ......help I want my FAMILY back!

[JeezLuiz]

Hey man prayers go out to you and your family. I know this must be tough for you and I sincerely feel for you on this one. The thing about your situation is that there was a lot of issues from both sides. You cheating on her, her possibly cheating on you with her ex...

 

You're gonna have to really do some changing on your part. Now whether she's going to change that remains to be seen, but you have to completely transform your entire life. It's good that you're finishing school. It's best that you be even more productive in your life because if she notices that you are doing things for yourself, more than you were doing preciously, she'll pick up a positive aura coming from you.

 

When you do things with your life, people sense that energy you get. That energy that shows that you are living. Living a life with hope and a future. With that being said, there's no guarantee she will come back. The one thing you have is the fact that most likely you go the rest of your life to make it right. You guys will be seeing each other a lot die to the fact you guys have children.

 

Use that to your advantage. If she sees that you're doing good things with your life, she could see potential in you. But whatever you do, if you do get on the road where she finally starts coming back to you and all, please take things slow. Women don't like for things to be rushed, especially romance, and ESPN I ALL reconciliation.

 

But again prayers go out to you and your family, I'm sorry to hear your unfortunate situation, hopefully I helped a little, hang in there I'm going through a very tough breakup myself.

[JeezLuiz]

Sorry auto correct was **** in up my response big time.

 

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[phuqdithappened]

Thanks man......... sorry ur going thru such hard times at the moment as well......I feel your pain as well..... what happened with ur ex if u don't mind me asking