Poutine Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I am a women who has never dated another women in the past I've had a couple of ex boyfriends. I met my girlfriend is university. She would be categorized as an "asian tomboy" (Google image search for better understanding). She was really cute, confident, funny, and outgoing and "tough/manly"(I know, sounds weird). First time actually talking to her I knew I was attracted to her , but I was denying it because it was shocking to myself that I am attracted to another women. I love her , she really knows how to make me laugh, make me smile, and suprise me. She has took me to places I've never been before and I just have a lot of fun with her. At the same time she really knows how to make me mad. She is very controlling as well. Her rude manners and negativity really irritates me. We lived together for a while and that's when I started getting really irritated by her. Especially her white lies that are soo unnecessary to lie about. She pisses people off , she pisses our mutual friends off but they don't say anything to me because they don't want to affect mine and my girlfriends relationship. I try to tell her not to do certain things that will irritate our friends. I try to teach her manners and being less rude. But she doesnt listen .. She replys with " so " "why should I " and all that stuff. Lately I've been really fed up because she has been more aggressive with me than ever. Not hitting me or anything but more like pulling me pushing me yelling at me soo loud in my face, making me cry .. I know this relationship is not good for me .. My parents do not approve of it either ( I came from a well mannered traditional , old fashion family ). I really want to try to let go , but I love her. aside from all the negatives about her , she does make me feel special and important. I am so scared of hurting her . How can I let go of a relationship that We both love each other ? Right now I am just thinking very selfishly .. I want to get out of this relationship but I know I won't beable to let go . I tear up everytime I think of her getting hurt .. I'm a mess right now .. What should I do
jeffmeyers Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Limited information, but I'll try my best with what you gave us. It all depends on if the bad outweigh the good. If they do and you still can't let go then you must recognize this is an unhealthy relationship. Look at it this way, you have no kids, no obligation, no financial dependence (I think). Yes break-up hurts, for all parties involved, but it will hurt a lot more farther into the future if you wait. Chances are, she might the one dumping you in that case. 1
Tayken Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I am a women who has never dated another women in the past I've had a couple of ex boyfriends. I met my girlfriend is university. She would be categorized as an "asian tomboy" (Google image search for better understanding). She was really cute, confident, funny, and outgoing and "tough/manly"(I know, sounds weird). First time actually talking to her I knew I was attracted to her , but I was denying it because it was shocking to myself that I am attracted to another women. I love her , she really knows how to make me laugh, make me smile, and suprise me. She has took me to places I've never been before and I just have a lot of fun with her. At the same time she really knows how to make me mad. She is very controlling as well. Her rude manners and negativity really irritates me. We lived together for a while and that's when I started getting really irritated by her. Especially her white lies that are soo unnecessary to lie about. She pisses people off , she pisses our mutual friends off but they don't say anything to me because they don't want to affect mine and my girlfriends relationship. I try to tell her not to do certain things that will irritate our friends. I try to teach her manners and being less rude. But she doesnt listen .. She replys with " so " "why should I " and all that stuff. Lately I've been really fed up because she has been more aggressive with me than ever. Not hitting me or anything but more like pulling me pushing me yelling at me soo loud in my face, making me cry .. I know this relationship is not good for me .. My parents do not approve of it either ( I came from a well mannered traditional , old fashion family ). I really want to try to let go , but I love her. aside from all the negatives about her , she does make me feel special and important. I am so scared of hurting her . How can I let go of a relationship that We both love each other ? Right now I am just thinking very selfishly .. I want to get out of this relationship but I know I won't beable to let go . I tear up everytime I think of her getting hurt .. I'm a mess right now .. What should I do Listen....people that love someone do not yell at them, pull them, and make them feel like ****e. You have lived with this person, and know what to expect if you decide to go in long term. What should you do? For your own sanity and happiness, please find your a lovely female that will appreciate you and reciprocate your affections. There are many out them am sure...why get stuck with a prima donna / drama queen? 2
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