My story and Recent Heartbreak

[Jayrok]

You're exactly right my man. I know I over analyze when I get emotional, and my rational side of my brain knew not to get so attached to her like I did. It's also hard when you got her feeding the emotional side of my brain all the bull**** it wants to hear. Then, in turn, that overloaded my rational side. I knew better but still failed and fell hard haha. Like you said the fog is real! I'm glad you handled your situation as well as you did though. I swear, so many of these women, especially in America it seems, are just spoiled little girls. They think they can have their cake and eat it too.

 

Oh well, it doesn't really matter. Doesn't change anything. She still left my ass and I'm better off without. I know I didn't screw up! She did. I was the perfect guy to her and honestly, before this happened, I would've said the same about her.

 

Thanks again guys/gals for the replies.

Edited December 30, 2014 by Jayrok

[EgoJoe]

I could have just ignored the nice attention. I could have just walked away and it would have stung her more but in the end it's for the best she now knows that I'm hip to her BS and won't accept it.

 

 

I don't think you ought to consider taking this girl back. I think you need to realize that what you had was not real for her and sheer manipulation and infatuation on your end.

 

 

She told you what you wanted to hear to get what she wanted.

 

 

When I met with my Ex I was texting with four different Women. Normal women who were interested.

 

 

One is a damn architect! Still I went for the crazy one, one final hit before I enter rehab.

[Jayrok]

You know what Joe. You're right about it all honestly. I had to break nc today... Well actually she did to give me some stuff back. She was wearing my shirt I got her. She also redid her hair. So I tried to make it short because honestly I was shaking like I had Parkinson's or some ****. I swallowed a big gulp of pride and asked her if she was back with her ex which I know was a mistake because she would just lie about it anyway. But part of me wanted her to just tell me. She said no I'm not we're just friends. I said okay. Gave her a nod and said thanks for bringing my stuff to me. She said you're welcome, have a good day at work and walked off.

 

I actually felt better for a good portion of the day. To where honestly I didn't care if she was or wasn't because i know I'll be okay. So I go through today almost like im on fire. Hell I even was flirting with a couple of the other girls I work with because my confidence was up. Hell she can go back to her ex so **** it. Then i said to hell with this nc ****. I'm gonna test her so called "friendship" she wants to have with me. Probably the dumbest thing I've done yet but I was feeling cocky. Plus I still need some of my **** back and I wanted to tell her to bring it to work tomorrow. I sent her a simple message. "You look good BTW" just to see if I could rouse a response.

 

Nothing. Dead silence all day. Didnt think much of it because really she wasnt gonna get me down and i was trying to test her. So I get home have a couple buddies over and post some random **** on Facebook to make a few of my friends laugh. If she can go on and act like nothing happened then I'll try this too. Then bam I noticed it. She deleted my ass off Facebook. Dont know why I noticed it because I haven't been stalking her, but I did.

 

Wow what in the ****. So much for that whole friends talk huh? Lmao shes such a liar and you're right. Her feelings were so fake she just reciprocated the emotions she was feeding off of and fed them back to gain what she wanted. Either that or one of the piece of **** coworkers I work with told her about me hitting on some girls. You know either way it's a crock of **** and I don't deserve it. I was nothing but good to her and she used me like toilet paper. Oh well...

 

I'll find out tomorrow when I get the rest of my ****. She wont answer my text and all I'm trying to do is get my **** back!! I just need this to be over and done with so I can move the **** on with my life. I think honestly she's just a horrible person. Much like your ex Joe.. Seems good guys always get stuck with bad women and visa versa. I think we choose them for some unknown reason in our biology. I know I was with a good girl before her and I ended it because it was just boring and she didn't really arouse me sexually. I think I'm gonna have to join you in that rehab my friend because I'm just so tired of everything.

[HurtGator]

You know what Joe. You're right about it all honestly. I had to break nc today... Well actually she did to give me some stuff back. She was wearing my shirt I got her. She also redid her hair. So I tried to make it short because honestly I was shaking like I had Parkinson's or some ****. I swallowed a big gulp of pride and asked her if she was back with her ex which I know was a mistake because she would just lie about it anyway. But part of me wanted her to just tell me. She said no I'm not we're just friends. I said okay. Gave her a nod and said thanks for bringing my stuff to me. She said you're welcome, have a good day at work and walked off.

 

I actually felt better for a good portion of the day. To where honestly I didn't care if she was or wasn't because i know I'll be okay. So I go through today almost like im on fire. Hell I even was flirting with a couple of the other girls I work with because my confidence was up. Hell she can go back to her ex so **** it. Then i said to hell with this nc ****. I'm gonna test her so called "friendship" she wants to have with me. Probably the dumbest thing I've done yet but I was feeling cocky. Plus I still need some of my **** back and I wanted to tell her to bring it to work tomorrow. I sent her a simple message. "You look good BTW" just to see if I could rouse a response.

 

Nothing. Dead silence all day. Didnt think much of it because really she wasnt gonna get me down and i was trying to test her. So I get home have a couple buddies over and post some random **** on Facebook to make a few of my friends laugh. If she can go on and act like nothing happened then I'll try this too. Then bam I noticed it. She deleted my ass off Facebook. Dont know why I noticed it because I haven't been stalking her, but I did.

 

Wow what in the ****. So much for that whole friends talk huh? Lmao shes such a liar and you're right. Her feelings were so fake she just reciprocated the emotions she was feeding off of and fed them back to gain what she wanted. Either that or one of the piece of **** coworkers I work with told her about me hitting on some girls. You know either way it's a crock of **** and I don't deserve it. I was nothing but good to her and she used me like toilet paper. Oh well...

 

I'll find out tomorrow when I get the rest of my ****. She wont answer my text and all I'm trying to do is get my **** back!! I just need this to be over and done with so I can move the **** on with my life. I think honestly she's just a horrible person. Much like your ex Joe.. Seems good guys always get stuck with bad women and visa versa. I think we choose them for some unknown reason in our biology. I know I was with a good girl before her and I ended it because it was just boring and she didn't really arouse me sexually. I think I'm gonna have to join you in that rehab my friend because I'm just so tired of everything.

 

I also work with my ex. And the guy she left me for also works with us. WTF did I do to deserve such punishment? All I did was try to be the best bf I could possibly be by doing everything I possibly can for her. She complained I didn't take her out to dinner enough, that I didn't give her enough attention, or that I didn't take her to a basketball game. But we did so much other **** together. We hung out 4 or 5 times a week and I'm almost always the one driving her all around town and dropping her off at her house (she lives 40 miles away from me). Always a gentleman to her. How is that not enough attention for her? I also guess after two years she probably got bored of the familiarity of the relationship and then looked else where for attention. When she broke up with me she told me "you did nothing wrong, my feelings have changed. I love you but i'm not in love with you. I don't know if i'll ever be able to find someone like you." If you don't think you'll ever find someone like me, they why the **** are you getting rid of me for? Makes no damn sense.

[Jayrok]

I hear ya man and I'm sorry to hear that. Especially after 2 years and she has the nerve to leave you for some other dude you work with. God I'd be wanting blood lol. Women are so complicated and crazy. She's definitely got some issues. I called her yesterday because honestly I'm just tired of the constant ring around the posey bull**** and I really wanted my stuff back. She said she wanted to be friends right? Well now she's just finding "reasons" to hate me so she can drop me and move on with her ex.

 

She was mad as **** and all I was being was calm and my normal self. Didn't ask for her back or anything but left the door open. I wished her the best and call me if she changed her mind. No yelling involved on my end. She was mad over some stupid bull**** that didn't even make sense. As I said, when there's no logical reason to hate someone, you make reasons. Women like this are hot as the sun one minute, then cold as the snowplains of iceland the next. They have issues and well, frankly, it's just immature and stupid. They'll learn one day that their narcissism will bring them nothing but misery. Especially when they had the golden opportunity laid out in front of them. Oh well. Just gotta give it time and karma will pay off. It's a bitch and it hurts like hell, but I got the answer I needed. Told her if there's one thing I learned, it's to not burn a bridge, especially when there was great chemistry.

 

She was all complaining she was confused and **** blah blah. So whatever. I know she's made her choice, got what she wanted, and is content with it. But as Joe said in an earlier post, they're going to fail. I won't be there to pick up her pieces next time. She deserves to hurt, as I've been nothing but good to her, especially being as immature as she is about this whole thing. My advice for you is to be indifferent about the whole thing. Tell her you respect her decision and you're moving on to date other women. Call you if she changes her mind, but you're not gonna wait for her. Leave the door open if you love her but respect yourself and move on. She's the one that made that choice ultimately, and it's not you. You did everything right and she ****ed up big time. It'll be better for you to not waste your time and don't be friends with her. It's a trap.

Edited January 2, 2015 by Jayrok