Essex Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 repost as I need help she texted me happy Xmas 2 days ago and I was so proud I didn't reply. However in a fit of weakness and Xmas nostalgia I wished her and her son happy Xmas today. I had paid for all his presents from her to her son as she is broke so I asked her to kiss him from me. A text chat ensued. She told me she's been dating. We been split 3 weeks and NC a week. I feel soooo sad. I could cry. I really really need some help.
FancyFace Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 So sorry for your pain Essex. Forgive yourself for breaking no contact and take it as a painful lesson not to repeat the same mistake again. I broke a sub-rule of NC by checking my ex's instagram about 2 weeks ago only to find out it looks as though he is getting back with the ex and all in all, just having a whale of a time. All this while I am moping and just feeling miserable. Believe me when I say that since then I have had the urge to check but I just remember the pain of what looking did to me and I just pull myself together. What you now need to do, if you feel it is right for you, is restart NC and really try to stick to it. Block her number so she can't call or text, block her email, block/unfriend on all forms of social media and just stay away from places you guys could run into each other. If you need to cry, just cry. Do what you need to in order to release the pain but don't contact her. You deserve better than someone who would walk out on you, especially when you know that you were the best person that you could possibly be to that person. It'll get better but you have to try and pick yourself up. 1
Author Essex Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 thank you so much. Hope I stop shaking soon.
BlueIvy Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 repost as I need help she texted me happy Xmas 2 days ago and I was so proud I didn't reply. However in a fit of weakness and Xmas nostalgia I wished her and her son happy Xmas today. I had paid for all his presents from her to her son as she is broke so I asked her to kiss him from me. A text chat ensued. She told me she's been dating. We been split 3 weeks and NC a week. I feel soooo sad. I could cry. I really really need some help. Easier said than done, but try to mentally let her go. Spend time with your friends, family, go take a walk out outside, go the gym. Go to a spa. Treat yourself! Just don't mop in the house because you will be worse. The more you don't communicate, the more you will let go. Also, return your presents if you can or sell it on ebay. It's only 3 weeks and she is dating someone else...is she really worth your time, efforts or money? I am kinda in the same boat as you. But trust me you will be stronger from this. When you treat someone so good, they always come back and by that time, you will meet someone who have a stronger connection with. Good luck and Merry Christmas!
Author Essex Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 thanks for your kind words. To be honest I don't want her back I just miss her so much. Crazy eh.
lil hoodlum Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 When you treat someone so good, they always come back and by that time, you will meet someone who have a stronger connection with. This is a lovely sentiment, not allways true. So sorry Essex that you are having to deal with this at this time of the year. Maybe you can make some new years resolutions for yourself and succeed! 1
Author Essex Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 its definitely not easy. She has been texting me all day. I'm so upset. She's being evasive but I just don't seem to be able to take control and shut off for my own good. I'm wrapped around her finger. I must resolve to be selfish. 1
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