Leigh 87 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 It's what I do too. I don't set out to do it. I met a guy two days ago and yeah we both seemed to be really feeling it. We deleted our dating accounts after our first date as we spent hours together and we want to to focus on getting to know one another. We were pretty casual about it. He isn't the full on type that talks about meeting his friends or family. Sometimes if you are quiet into someone you simply don't want to date others. 2
Redhead14 Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I see myself always getting hurt when i'm dating because I get emotionally attached too easily and when i'm used to a certain routine (whether it be seeing them daily, talking to them daily) and as soon as that routine changes, I become very insecure and beat myself up wondering what i did wrong. I'm sick of feeling like this esp since it may be only a couple weeks into dating. I recently discovered im needy once I get attached- i do not want to be that girl for not his sake, but my sake as well. I personally cannot talk to a couple of guys at once because I feel like i'm playing with them.. or playing a game and almost like "cheating" even though I can do whatever the heck I want. With that said.. of course I would be disappointed if the person i was dating was talking to multiple other woman. But ppl seem to say that in order to not get attached.. talk to other guys and keep your options open but that to me is something i just personally cannot do. Any words of advice? You have cited for yourself pretty much everything we would have told you. The way to handle all this is to embrace those concepts and just don't get too invested too quickly.
DancinBallerina Posted December 26, 2014 Posted December 26, 2014 I'm the same as you, OP. I don't multi date as it becomes complicated for me, although many people encourage me to do so which I can't bring myself to doing.
Leigh 87 Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 I have learnt to not invest early on - not until a few months. So even though I naturally prefer to wait out for a guy that really excites me and then ONLY focus on them - I still don't invest - as I know that even if you feel huge mutual attraction and chemistry AND you can also just talk all for hours - men STILL disappear, fade out and lose interest irrespective of how "amazing" YOU think things are.. Early sex is another thing from my experience that can change things so yeah don't get too physical just because you are really feeling it. A few guys haven't minded but I have decided to hold out personally from now on.
mysteryscape Posted December 27, 2014 Posted December 27, 2014 Early sex is another thing from my experience that can change things so yeah don't get too physical just because you are really feeling it. A few guys haven't minded but I have decided to hold out personally from now on. You mean they haven't minded or they did mind that you did or did not have sex early on? I am really confused, can you explain further please?
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