Lightmetoday Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I am an introverted guy , I dont have female friends, I like keeping myself in reserve, but when any girl comes in my life as a friend , i get close to her emotionally & fell in love quickly. Why is it so ? My recent breakup made me realised i better avoid making female friends & stay this way until i marry someone.
InsaneTrombone Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 (edited) I am an introverted guy , I dont have female friends, I like keeping myself in reserve, but when any girl comes in my life as a friend , i get close to her emotionally & fell in love quickly. Why is it so ? My recent breakup made me realised i better avoid making female friends & stay this way until i marry someone. This could be one of the reasons why. You rarely have interaction with women, so when you DO get it, you take it for all it's worth and run with it - because it's such a rare occurrence. I know the feeling, I've been there. It was more of a problem for me when I was younger. I think it's also related to lack of confidence and insecurities as well. Edited December 25, 2014 by InsaneTrombone 4
mysteryscape Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I am an introverted guy , I dont have female friends, I like keeping myself in reserve, but when any girl comes in my life as a friend , i get close to her emotionally & fell in love quickly. Why is it so ? My recent breakup made me realised i better avoid making female friends & stay this way until i marry someone. You answered your own question in your first sentence. Your third and last sentence is exactly the opposite of what you should do. It's a prescription for repeating the same old stuff, and even getting into a disastrous marriage. Go out and make a lot of female friends, but hold yourself back. This could be hard to do. But it will get easier and easier as time goes by. You'll find that most of them aren't really worth falling for (for you) even if they are good as friends. Then, when somebody really special comes along, you'll be much better able to handle it.
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 The problem is my excessive caring nature , If i befriend a girl , I care too much for her , i lose my ownself thinking too much about her. Since i have no female friend , If anyone comes along , i start treating her more like princess & i develop feelings for her . I feel like opposite gender friendship are not worthy ( if you are my type) Saving yourself for that special one is the best option.
InsaneTrombone Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 The problem is my excessive caring nature , If i befriend a girl , I care too much for her , i lose my ownself thinking too much about her. Since i have no female friend , If anyone comes along , i start treating her more like princess & i develop feelings for her . I feel like opposite gender friendship are not worthy ( if you are my type) Saving yourself for that special one is the best option. That's the wrong way to go about things. You shouldn't put all of the women who come into your life onto a pedestal. They all piss and **** just like you. Sure some of them are pretty, sure some of them show you attention, but that doesn't mean you automatically throw yourself at them. I don't know how old you are, but nobody really thinks about 'saving yourself for the best option' because it's probably not going to happen. I mean, you may think it does, and then you find yourself on the wrong side of a divorce 3 years later.
toscaroscura Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 The problem is my excessive caring nature , If i befriend a girl , I care too much for her , i lose my ownself thinking too much about her. Since i have no female friend , If anyone comes along , i start treating her more like princess & i develop feelings for her . I feel like opposite gender friendship are not worthy ( if you are my type) Saving yourself for that special one is the best option. How are you going to find "the one" if you can't even connect with a woman on a basic friendly level? Mysteryscape is right, you need to start making female friends and hold yourself back. Just see them as people. It will desensitize you to mere female presence and from there, you can more accurately judge who would actually be a good fit for a relationship. Besides, I'm guessing that since you made this thread, what you are currently doing isn't really working out for you. 1
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 27, 2014 Author Posted December 27, 2014 Well i dont know whats wrong with me . I am just too shy . Too shy to speak to girls, I blush if a girl tries to talk with me . I have a bad judging character , I generalise that male and female can never be friends in their adulthood. I just wonder , my special lady will be happy to hear that I have kept myself in reserve for her , Instead of wasting my time roaming here and there searching for female friends !
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