Lightmetoday Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 Guys what i learned in my life , If you truly love someone but they dont love you , Its better to leave them , BREAKUP completely. I did friendship with her after she broke my heart , all these 3 years were like torture. You try to be friend while your heart is crying . When i confessed my feelings with her honestly , She broke my heart again & no she herself said me "you spoiled the friendship" "FEELINGS CAN'T BE TURNED INTO FRIENDSHIP"
Lionheart1557 Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I am sorry my friend. I know what you mean. Same thing happened to me but my friendship only lasted a month or so before things fell apart. I sometimes wonder if these women know how bad they hurt us with this stuff. Heartache is one of the worst feelings I have experienced in my life and I hope you recover soon my friend. Just go NC with her completely. That is the only choice you have to heal yourself. It's what I am doing right now and it totally sucks it really does. 1
FancyFace Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 OP, sorry for your pain. It can be devastating to have held onto crumbs hoping to make something of it only to be shutdown again. I think dumpers want to remain friends with their exes for a multitude of reasons but the main two reasons. 1. So that they don't come across like the jackasses they really are, it soothes their guilt and they can go on with life thinking "see I am not such a jackass because my ex who I messed about still talks to me, I can't possibly be that bad". No sir/ma'am you are a douche of epic proportions! 2. They keep you as a safety net, they know you are great or at the very least have good qualities they can identify with. So they keep you hanging on a very long string just in case they cant find whatever it is that they are looking for out there. Ever noticed how exes get in contact when their relationships are faultering or have gone bust? Best thing in my humble opinion to do is to CUT THEM OFF!!! Wish them the best or wish them ill but whatever you do, stay away from them whether its physical or digital, just cut contact and go on with life. This world is huge and there are plenty of other people out there to be friends with that have your best intentions at heart. 2
Ieris Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 I don't usually stay friends with my exes but I did with one particular one but it was until 3 years after we broke up. he reached out and by then I didn't feel anything so gave him a chance.. He is my best friend now. If someone is suppose to be in your life, they will find their way back but don't wait for it... Not everything has to happen"now".
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 Its really very painful & regretfull and shamefull. The first time she broke with me , it was me shouting at her & she pleading me to remain friend, Now she shout at me and said "your feelings ruined up the friendship & I dont love you " She stopped calling or texting. I am so sad, I should have broken with her completely years back , i had been in better position & she in guilt , but its opposite right now:(
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