Jay13094 Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 (edited) this guy i've been seeing for 2 months left the country to spend the holidays with his family and attend a wedding. We "date" but have no label as such since he is moving to the west coast for work (i live in the east coast). We both got into this knowing we have 3 months together and we just happened to move really quickly and we both got very caught up and we both had feelings for each other. A day before he left everything was great and he spent his last free day with me- right as he was about to leave he said "don't you think we got into this too quickly.." yeah... we did.. but why? "just saying.." "is that a bad or good thing" its not bad or good.. its just its been 2 months, what are we gonna do when i leave for california?" he comes back in january and we have approx 1 month til he leaves. That was our first "talk" and I'm very torn and confused as he left without really saying much but leaving me anxious. I think about him 24/7- its draining for me.. Since his departure out of the country, he seemed a bit distant but i gave him benefit of doubt that he's just busy. We messaged each other before he got on his flight but I haven't heard from him since he landed. its 13 hour difference so I understand and he has family stuff to deal with. I texted him a couple days into him leaving wishing that he was having fun and hope he had fun at the wedding. He responded with a "lol my brothers wedding was yesterday" and sent me a picture of him w/ his family. I replied and he just never responded. Christmas is tomorrow and of course i want to wish him a merry xmas but i'm waiting til he does b/c of how he's been. If he doesn't contact me or wish me anything.. how should i take it another thing i'd add: i talked to his friend and basically i asked if i should take that he's going to end things, and he said "you should stop trying to be so attached, i know its hard but will be better in the long run. By no means am i saying i think he's going to end things (unless he moves.. which he is doing) but don't expect too much out of this and enjoy your time with him" Edited December 25, 2014 by Jay13094
newmoon Posted December 25, 2014 Posted December 25, 2014 his friend is right. leave him alone, even on christmas. the person is out of the country, he can't be worried about you and your texts, and he did send a picture, what more do you want. when you're somewhere else, especially far away for a family wedding/togetherness, a gf/bf of 2 months won't even register on the radar. i'm sure he'll like you just as much when he gets back, if you can leave him alone and not be clingy. you're taking what he said before he left to heart and then acting all crazy because you think it means something it probably doesn't. in an effort to salvage something you think you might be losing you're overreacting. it'll all be cool when he gets back. chill out a bit. 1
Author Jay13094 Posted December 25, 2014 Author Posted December 25, 2014 you are completely right.. i did take what he said to heart and started over thinking like crazy but I just need to relax- thanks for the responds!
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